Healing from childhood emotional neglect while still living with your parents

[lola568]

Is it possible to heal from childhood emotional neglect while still living with your parents? I think I'm triggered/resentful or just awkward since realizing childhood emotional neglect is my real problem. I've just been staying in my room & avoiding my parents. I can't even say what's wrong with me when my mother asks. I just scroll the internet, sleep, watch stuff & repeat.

[Hidden]

lola, good early morning. I can understand. I think anxiety & depression are the culprits. The big thing you need to do is forgive. With that will come acceptance. Then you on your way for a walk in the park! Simplified, I know, just something to ponder, you’ll supply the answers. Have a better day

[lola568 in reply to Hidden]

lol how are you so cheery? its refreshing

[Hidden in reply to lola568]

Thanks. I’m not cheery, I’m crazy! Have a nice day

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

I look at it from a different lens. I love the walk in the park. It's perfect therapy.

I don't believe in forgiving a tormenter. But that's an individual choice.

Enjoy your day I hope it's a good one

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[hypercat54]

Hi from personal experience I would say this would be difficult if not impossible. This is because you are still living with your parents and they will keep triggering you.

If you have no choice then it's best if you can to emotionally distance yourself from them as much as possible to protect yourself.

[Dolphin14]

I didn't realize you still live with your parents. If they have done the damage I agree with hypercat. Moving away from the situation would probably be the best solution. If it's a possible option

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[lola568]

I wish it were possible to leave but I'm not exactly financially stable atm. I sometimes feel guilty when my dad sees me eating in the morning. I have no idea why, I just think what if he gets mad that I'm eating food that's provided by him at 26 still with no prospects of a proper job and not contributing much to the family. Today my mum isn't around but i couldn't leave my room to go eat because my dad is around. I feel even more guilty about being seen because I'm low-key mad at my parents for the emotional neglect. It would be like me enjoying spending eating from their fridge when I can't even answer when I'm asked what's wrong or give a decent greeting to them without feeling upset inside.

[Foodielove23 in reply to lola568]

Hi, hope you’ve been doing okay. Just wanted to say this is literally me right now in my mid 20s living at home with my parents while I finish school. Feeling guilty for eating food my parents make. Having anxiety or avoiding eating food around them that I buy or make because of comments about how much I eat or if I eat too late. Staying in my room to avoid any more criticism or just not have to deal with how depressing home life is with parents who barely like each other. It’s been hard and the only thing that sort of helps is imagining a better future for myself and that it’s only temporary until I feel more secure financially.