Can’t sleep

[Serene46]

So my ex that’s not my daughters father FaceTimed her tonight. He wants to get her a gift for Christmas. He recently got her gifts for her birthday, but had them sent to our house. He couldn’t give them to her in person. I told him if he can’t in person then why bother. So I sent him money to pay him back. He was mad! He never liked her dad popping in/out of her life and this is what he’s now doing, but never sees her just messaging or in the phone. Well she ask what he wants. He’s said nothing he’ll be somewhere else over Christmas. I believe it’s with another woman he went to see when we were still seeing each other. It hurts to hear him say he’s going out of town. He’s never gone out of town as long as I’ve known him. Also he won’t stop communicating with her and buying gifts despite me making a point to say he shouldn’t bother. I’m so angry he won’t just disappear from our life if he’s not going to be in it. Holidays are already hard enough. I am still having a hard time accepting him not being here with us anymore.

[Sedani]

Hi Serene,Sorry that this man has disappointed You.

Breakups hurt but I will be very honest with You. The only relationship that your daughter had with him was through You, and it is broken now. He sounds like a selfish man l. I do not think you should encourage your her to continue talking to him or recieving gifts. When he walks out completely she will be hurt. Protect your daughter please.

[Serene46 in reply to Sedani]

I am trying. I ask him not to. Yet here he is again. It really sucks because he’s very well liked in the community and been friends long before we dated. He’s a different person than I thought I knew and never expected him to be this way. I do not bring men in her life and he was a first because I trusted him with her. And now he is not getting it. I need to tell him again to stop, but I do not want to contact him again over this.

[hypercat54 in reply to Serene46]

I am wondering how your daughter feels about this? Was he in her life for long and does she consider him a father figure? Ie are they close at all, or were?

[Serene46 in reply to hypercat54]

She is sad, he’s been around since she was born. But has been around as a father figure the past 3.5 years. I even told him if he had no intentions he needed to stop a long time ago. I took him at his actions and that he still stayed in our life. Until I put my foot down recently when I suspected something going on.

[lizbig]

hi..i understand how you feel..i am sorry your going through this,,my daughter is not talking to me and grandson wont either..there all i have..they pop in out all the time and dont care how it makes me feel..they get mad and there gone..i am elder and there all i have..no respect..so hang in there and sending prayers your way!

[Serene46 in reply to lizbig]

I’m so sorry you are going through that! Respect is something most don’t have these days. It’s sad people you care about are so selfish and self absorbed. Thank you for the prayers. Sending some your way as well!

[lizbig]

thank you...its christmas..we should all be happy and be able to enjoy family and friend but it does not always go that way..but we got to try!

[Serene46]

I try only for my daughter. I don’t have any other reason.

[Serene46]

She has never had a relationship with her bio dad. He’s a deadbeat! Has made me uproot her twice now and never shows up. Has only seen her a little while a baby. Then for a few months off/on after he had me move her closer. Hasn’t bothered in over 2.5 years to see her. There are some cruel awful people out there and it’s hard to fathom people will treat a child in these manners! Breaks my heart even more with this guy not recognizing he’s doing what he ask me not to do with her bio dad.

[Serene46]

Appreciate that! Just trying to get through tone day at a time. Not sure how some days. I’m at work now and just want to cry.