Needing hope

[Lookingforhope20100]

I'm taking my grandma to the hospital today, she keeps saying that she's not going to make it and she's really sick and that I just need to accept it she's going to die this year I told her that she can't die until at least Christmas not just because I have almost $100 worth of Christmas presents for her but because I'm not ready to let her go I lost my dad and I was really traumatic I'm not really ready to let go of my grandma especially now that I'm just starting to get my life in order so I really don't know what to do if I lose her I don't know if I can come back from that I'm not sure if I'm ready to be a parent all by myself either I won't have any support if she goes and in a way she knows that but I want her to be at ease even if that means losing her

[fromzerotopanic]

I"m sorry you're facing this difficult time with your grandma. I think you hit the nail on the head though when you said 'you're just going to have to accept it". Whether your grandma passes this year, or ten years from now, you're not going to be prepared. It's difficult no matter when it happens. But, when it does happen, you will be able to manage it. She sounds like she's been a big source of love and support for you over the years and I'm sure it's scary to think of life without her. But, you will be ok. You say she's very sick. Are the doctors agreeing she might pass soon? I know my Dad said for quite some time he didn't think he was going to make it till "X' or "Y" but then he would! But one time, he finally didn't. But what helped me was, seeing that he was ready. I wasn't, but he was. He'd lived a good life and was tired, hurting. I realized it was more important for him to be free from pain and that made it a bit easier. Show your Grandma she's taught you well over the years. Assure her you'll be ok, because you will be. It'll be tough at times, but make some plans ahead of time as to what kind of support you might need when that time does come (whether this year or ten years from now, etc). Have a plan in place, so you can feel confident you'll be ok. Talk to a counselor if you have one (or find one so you have someone to help you work through your grief). But continue to tell yourself, you are strong and you will be ok, whenever the time comes.

[iviv]

I'm so sorry the pending loss of a grandma, I just couldn't go to her services so mom took my brother Dan, we had just come back from my dying sister in AZ when on the way to visit my dying sister... my grandmother... died she was 101 yrs old... so the traveling was like a blur I was so happy to see my sister and family and the new friend in the congration,... but it was difficult I don't do dealth well... so people show little feelings others more meanwhile it was all what I didn't do... so glad your able to help her and spend time now that and write a letter or poem it will help give her a gift that she can read or listen to untill she falls asleep in death make a copy of it for your self, your feelings are valaid you and grandmother at invited to JW. org anytime all items lit, articles, videos, children video re death of a grandma type in a congration the little girl was sad. that one is animated soooo many helpful yet still bible based. where you can learn about death and Revalation chapter 21:3,4. free bible download 6 different Bible's all free and maybe she would like to share with you... please take care of yourself also... care giving can be sad at times so be safety first secure your thoughts and memories by going to JW. org... and know her kind of love was faith and works and love grows agape sister iviv