My imploding life

[Implodinglife]

Ive had a rough go of it, as im sure many have. I just have never handled it very well. I go to a dark place of wanting to sleep and cry all the time. Ive been working on making myself better, although not quickly enough and now my husband of 9 years wants a divorce. Ive been a sahm for 3 years and have no way of supporting nyself or my child and while my soon to be ex says he will make sure we wont be homeless, i cant help but still feel desperate. I domt want this divorce. I live ny husband. I love the family we have created. I dont want it to end. Its torture.

[Kittykat55]

Hi there. I just want to tell you how sorry I am. I went through a difficult divorce and I am here if you want to talk.

[Implodinglife in reply to Kittykat55]

I am so so sorry. It's definitely not easy right now. He told me three nights ago he wanted a divorce and I'm trying to find a job and basically just rebuild. We just bought a house together a year ago and I don't understand how it's gotten to this.

[Midori in reply to Implodinglife]

Hi there,

Does your husband perhaps have work worries? perhaps he feels he's not earning enough, with the mortgage etc.

How old is your little one? If he is school age, then yes, you could get part time work to help with general expenses.

I don't like to say this, but does your husband feel unwanted, except as a breadwinner? Perhaps he feels you could have gotten better faster, Do you have a Therapist at all? did you talk together with your husband about expenses and general things, or were you too busy with the baby, perhaps and he's resentful.

You say you love him, but could he feel he's been left in the background, perhaps?

Has he ever voiced dissatisfaction before? Or has this come out of left field?

Do you know his work colleagues? does he get to go out with the boys at all?

I hope I'm wrong, but, could there be another woman, perhaps?

There are loads of possibilities and you haven't given us a lot to go on. I've just been throwing out possibilities here, I could be completely on the wrong track.

Cheers, Midori