Trigger warning/ need advice / Family member suicide attempt

[kittyelen]

Bit of a weird one this

So a family member messaged me some time ago, telling me the method they had used and they had made a suicide attempt last year.

Every now and then I think of this and can't really understand how a family member can go through that and not seek support, the message she had sent me was so to the point it was very shocking and it really upset me. Bear in mind this was some many months after the attempt.

She now says she is in a much better place but I struggle to comprehend the situation (And the image in my head of the method she told me that she used) and how I can support her going forwards.

[Hidden]

Hi there! I want to say it’s so nice to see you try making an effort for your person. Itsheart warming. Most of the people who self harm don’t really open up until they are better and know they can handle it. If a person went ahead to end their life, probably they already fought with themselves endlessly and gave in. So foremost you can tell them “You can tell me whatever and however minute or irrational thoughts you have. Let's not dismiss them,let's talk about them.

(Let them know you are not judgemental about their

thoughts. Hear them out. Say it's okay, everything is going to be okay.)

-Try not to judge him/her from your perspective, ask them their perspective and understand from their shoes. (You might not agree to their opinions but just listen with an open mind and try to understand their perspective and then offer them a positive way to look at things)

-Just remember to show them that you care and are there for them to just listen if not anything.

Hope it helps and your friend gets better.

[Blueruth in reply to Hidden]

Nice advice.