Finding Balance?

[Jive4]

Hi everyone, I am new here. I have been struggling with depression for the past 3/4 years during my post graduate studies. I have also been in a relationship with my beautiful partner for 4 years and she had been very supportive and encouraging but it's taken a toll on our relationship and her personally and I feel bad because of it. I find that I can't tell her about my emotions anymore because it ends up in arguments or misunderstandings and I just don't want to go through that anymore. It feels like we are becoming increasingly distant. Though I try to be very positive about my life I find that it feels like the world is on my shoulders. It feels like I am going through a roller-coaster of good and tough times. I am sort of at a good place right now (about 8 months) and it feels like I have gone through the worst of my depression but I want to know if there are any tips for living a more balanced life. I have to live consciously that I might get into a bad state again. I don't want to be naive because I am feeling ok right now that things won't get worse again in the future. Any feedback would be appreciated. Thanks.

[PapaDocs]

Please do not be offended but a lot of young people today need help and coaching in relationships. A partner might be trying to help but want things done her way and immediately otherwise she would think that you are not listening to her or not valuing her input. My suggestion is read up on how to handle relationships, how to communicate and see another person’s point of view. Find a book that might help. I also get free email from The Gottman Institute. You might learn something there. For your depression, try to avoid triggers so distancing from her for now might be helpful. Sometimes people overlook good health, so eat healthy food, get exercise and some sun and spend time outside walking every once in a while. Fresh air, cool wind and nice sun exposure helps me a lot.

[Jive4 in reply to PapaDocs]

Thanks for the advice PapaDocs.