How has anxiety/depression effected your relationships? How have you been able to deal with it and get passed?

[kspeidell]

I am in need of some guidance and feedback at the moment.

I am currently trying to get through a breakup in which the person said that they can’t be with someone who has the anxiety and depression issues that I do. I tried very hard during the relationship to keep things under control (which they were for the most part I only had a couple bad bouts which didn’t last very long) and to be up front and honest when I was feeling on edge.

I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that my issues seemingly drove someone away, and I’m concerned for my future relationships because I don’t want this to happen again as I’ve seen my episodes negatively effect those around me before, which led to the relationship though there were other factors at play at the time. Is it possible that they felt pressure to help me and not know what to do? It can literally be as simple as someone just telling me that everything will be ok, I don’t understand why someone would leave like that.

I’m afraid sometimes that I’m not mentally strong enough for relationships because of this, and I need to know how to properly deal with it when I have a partner. I thought being upfront and forthcoming was the right way to go but now I don’t know.

Anyway I’m feeling upset about the future possibilities with this, and I’d love to hear people’s stories on their experiences and how they have gotten past them. I’m trying so hard not to let this get to me but it’s very difficult considering I can only control this so much.

Thanks everyone, hoping to hear from you soon

[KJnOTT]

I am glad you reached out. I think its wonderful that you are reflecting on the impact your struggles are having in your relationships. You are on the right path!

I recently read that only about 3 in 10 people with anxiety ever seek help, so if you are currently struggling with anxiety, consider this a first step in your healing journey. When I feel moments of anxiety or check in to my feelings of depression, I pray and ask the Lord to take on my burdens and to give me peace. I have learned that it is possible to live well with anxiety and depression, equipped with the tools and resources that allow for a full life – as God intended. Blessings.