How has anxiety/depression effected your relationships?

[kspeidell]

Good morning everyone,

Hope you’re all having a great start so far. I am in need of some guidance and feedback at the moment.

I am currently trying to get through a breakup in which the person said that they can’t be with someone who has the anxiety and depression issues that I do. I tried very hard during the relationship to keep things under control (which they were for the most part I only had a couple bad bouts which didn’t last very long) and to be up front and honest when I was feeling on edge.

I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that my issues seemingly drove someone away, and I’m concerned for my future relationships because I don’t want this to happen again as I’ve seen my episodes negatively effect those around me before, which led to the relationship though there were other factors at play at the time. Is it possible that they felt pressure to help me and not know what to do? It can literally be as simple as someone just telling me that everything will be ok, I don’t understand why someone would leave like that.

I’m afraid sometimes that I’m not mentally strong enough for relationships because of this, and I need to know how to properly deal with it when I have a partner. I thought being upfront and forthcoming was the right way to go but now I don’t know.

Anyway I’m feeling upset about the future possibilities with this, and I’d love to hear people’s stories on their experiences and how they have gotten past them. I’m trying so hard not to let this get to me but it’s very difficult considering I can only control this so much.

Thanks everyone, hoping to hear from you soon