How can I feel more secure in this friendship?

[DemureRose]

So I’ve been in a friendship with this guy for 9-10 months now.

It started as a simple class friendship, but we’ve survived the summer and now hang out twice a week and talk pretty frequently.

But in terms of hanging out outside of college activities? We’ve only done that once. Twice if you count a quick trip to the grocery store.

I had thought we enjoyed ourselves the one time we hung out and since we communicate to often, you’d think I’d have no worries.

But why doesn’t he want to hang out with me more outside of our college? Why doesn’t he want to hang out?

I’m trying so hard to not overthink it. I mean we’re both pretty socially awkward and homebodies, so I can relate to not wanting to hang out with people.

But I also thought we’d learned that neither of us consider the other to be an exhausting person to hang out with. If you’re an introvert as well you’ll understand what I mean by an exhausting person.

And now I’m worried about what will happen next semester. Any other friend I’d be secure in knowing that we’d still talk, but him? I just don’t know.

We seem genuinely close and everything but I constantly worry…are we really?

[SomethingbutNothing]

I dont know your full situation, but maybe hes worried you dont want to hang out with him too much outside of those actives? Or maybe he enjoys the time for those actives only but also needs the rest of the time for himself due to as you said being more introverted?

I for one as much as I enjoy hanging out with people and my friends couldn't imagine spending all my time with them, but not in an insulting way but just need more time by myself than with other?