What's the most challenging, boring self care activity you have to do regarding your anxiety and depression.,
Your overall mental health?
What's the most challenging, boring self care activity you have to do regarding your anxiety and depression.,
Your overall mental health?
Clean. I really need Rosie from the Jetsons to do this for me. I do it but I don't like it.
i know of a very hard worker than cleans barns, tack houses for people we care about...just let me know.....we call him john Henry for short......for you,,,,,,better bring u r shade girl,,,,,,he cleans for certain people with q tips.....its very very ver personal........
john henry plays this song while cleaning.........says he does it in honor of certain people.....that's what he says...........guess he lets his work do his talking............just reporting what he says.......youtu.be/ty1dwBCR6D0
Brig, can’t find which song you’re referring to. Have a name?
oooh sorry (translation- thank u for yhour patience- i should have checked will follow up here another from the mionons) youtu.be/D-EE9xCG9oY
here is another one of john henrys cleaning songs.....not Pc but mannn he flys through work...........crank it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (for real for real......i know the man for most my life......goes through work like stuff through a goose........crank it baby is all he says.......no one listens....he just laughs and laughs and laughs........baby got ta have some inspiration baby)
Oh, yeah…if a video can make me get up and clean,this one can. The Boss, Tom Waits, Elvis Costello, Jackson Browne, k.d. Lang and Bonnie Raitt. Wow!
wild and crazy has its place!!!!!!! kick the blues away form our friends!!!!! crank it baby!!!!!!!!
Definitely. I could blast YouTube and sing my way through washing the floor 🎤🎶
You like Tom Waits? YES!
Um. Who? 🤭🤔😂
Google him. One of the best song writers of the last century
My Great Uncle was an amazing song writer. He's in the Hall of Fame. My grandparents entertained some oldies but goodies in their home years & years ago like Eydie Gorme....just down the street from where my Great Uncle lived. His daughter granddaughter's & great granddaughter's live there.
Roy Orbison was my Mother in Law's favourite singer of all time. She loved him, I must admit I do like his music
Yes indeed there are so many great musicians 🎶🌈👌🌞🪠🚽
I didn't really pick up on Roy Orbison till he was part of The Traveling Willburys..I knew of him and am familiar with his work but never really got into his music
Hi I hadn't even heard of him until I met my Mother in Law!! We had Pretty Woman played going into her funeral. She was a lovely lady, beautiful inside and out xxxx💜💜
Thank you. We could picture Pat dancing away to him. Two of her sisters booked for the 3 of them to go and see him as a surprise. Pat was in awe as she'd never been to theatre let alone see Roy Orbison!!
Wow, Oh yay what a song, will get me every time. Loved this version with the guitar solo's Whew...
This song makes me feel on top of the world,
"I am woman"
Thanks Brig ever so much.
That replaced my afternoon meditation today xx
bet u forget to reward your self or have a party......LC ....u have to pamper yourself girl some...........keeps all your fans happy that u get some goooooood times too..........u give and agive and give...........well shucks girl.............5000000 fans like to make sure the cook gets some life lovings too...........the mionns are making a giant sign.lc rooooockk!!!!!!!!!
block party!!!!!!!!! let our neighbors tknow they rock !!!!!!!!!! (too loud sorryryr!!!!!!
My bdays coming up soon the minions can rock with me;!
Omg a purpose they’ve we oils. Loooooove that
apolgies for the typos with my phone- big fingers and dimming eyes.....having to clean for most women )not all ) is ugugugug often per see and because its expected to many (in my house of 7 we all did the chores and tack and horses and barns- dishes etc - trained right - all men should be self reliant and not impose on women) ,,,,,much easier for us guys to be domestic so that whoever comes home to a clean house even as a service..........beats admin and other jobs and a treat to the home owner.....the minions love surprises . .. ,,...who cleaned the house?? the little scamps,, ,......for most women its god here we go again. sure wound mind domwone for once giving me a hand or
but most of times no one believes us..........who likes to be taken for granted or treated as a slave,....i was a groom once and the last rider I groomed for used to say oh boy fetch my ,,
ooh wake up call ......or u go in barns as a guy and whether u a top rider or vet - they always say- the broom is over there,,,,,,,,so we know how women are treated big time...oh boy fetch my ,,,,,,,
much more fun to surprise a neibhror or friend .,,,,,,,so when they come home dead tired they can just collapse and not have to work further,,,,,,few people beeive us,,,,,,,,that is the hard part,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Oh do I ever relate. I keep a pretty tidy home. I don't like clutter and dust. I once had a woman comment about how it is to see a man take such good care of a home.. She really put her biggoted foot in her mouth by asking if I was Gay..due to the aforementioned tidy appearance of my space. I told her no and escorted her out with a lecture on assumptions and bigotry.. I was called " Boy " once, just once..The offender had to pick himself up from the floor from my right cross as my response to that tag.
When is your birthday?
It's in the next week
Hi there. Mine is coming up too on August 22nd. So happy birthday to you!!! By the way, I'm just curious, in astrology are you considered Cancer or are you a Leo like I am???? Actually, I mean if you really believe all this astrology stuff, since I was born on the cusp, the last day of Leo, I supposedly have both Leo and Virgo qualities. No wonder no one can figure me out!!!🙂. Hope you have a great birthday!!!
I’m with you, girl. Cleaning is not my motivator at this stage of the game. Although it rids me of the guilt I feel for letting things pile up, it’s pure drudgery. Worse than brushing your teeth or making your bed. 😱 We deserve a maid, right Luna?❤️🏄♀️
Here I am. That’s because it’s expected. Adds to the. Feeling taken for granted
Making the bed Isinatra the worst! And who invented the fitted sheet?! I still can't fold that darn thing correctly
Luna! Come with me and I’ll show you how to make those sheets fit, girlfriend! We’ll rock the “blues” away!
Oh the bed is made beautiful but folding a fitted sheet is impossible. Ok girl rock the blues with folding the dreaded fitted sheet!!
How to fold a fitted sheet……Very carefully……😂
Gotta keep those anxiety levels on the low.
Chose us chose us the minions say here we are here we are chose us
Fitted sheets had to have been invented by a sadistic former Marine Drill Instructor Square corners and flat sheets are far easier than folding fitted sheets.. Its an impossible task
Message me after checking your messages thanks Xx
Oh how do I respond to this comment? 😉😊
I struggle to motivate myself to work out and eat healthier foods. My blood work came back with high cholesterol so it’s motivated me to at least reach for more fruits and veggies instead of chips or candy. And I use a progressive step counter that increases my goal slightly when I hit it for 3 days in a row. If I miss a day it comes back down a bit. Very helpful.
I understand. Eating healthy gives us more energy to take care of ourselves!! 🌞👌🌈🎶🤗🥦🍓🥝🥗🥕🥔
remember ur taking care of your selve not for u
but for the people who secretly love u and would die if something happened to us so if u dant do it for u ur doting it for the people u care about and rescue or the people who love u in secret
and all the forest animals who cant bear to see people not healthy and happy
do it for them if not for youelsf
hmm 🤔 walking and moving I just love to sit on the couch and watch anime on my phone 🤣🤣😕
Hiba I use my treadmill that way I'm exercising and watching on my mobile. It makes walking more fun and faster to do 30 mins of walking.
I think that I should do that ✌️☺️
You should as time goes much quicker. You watch a half an hour video and you've walked for that long 😊
just start with two min just start once ur past that or remember ur doing for others that u will cointouture to via your charity work.....have to take care of u to take care of other sand you won't want to see luna cry either,, she loves to see all her people eating and being healthier
she loves eveveyone and we don't want to see her cry
The last time I was on a treadmill it was many years ago it at a gym with my sister. It was on the slowest speed but I still fell off backwards. Haven't been on one since! 😁😜
😂😂😂 I think your safe walking outside. My advice Stay off the treadmill 😂
No I'm not as use a stick coz my back is gone. I can't walk for more than a couple of minutes without stopping and not at all without pain. I hate getting old......
Me too! 😛👍😎
As I told my 2 younger sisters it gets worse after 60. They both found out I was right.....now that has really cheered you up hasn't it? 😜
You’ve got my number, H! 😂
Actually, aging isnt always a bad thing, just some of us aren’t as lucky as others. 😕
Ha ha I was going to say well you are younger than me then checked and realised you have several years on me yet! Old age ain't for sissies is it?
No place in aging for sissies!
I always think it's just as well we start off young then age. If it was the other way round there would be few young people! 😁🤣
start super slow first 15 min then ,,,,,,,sneek up on so called exercise ,,,,,
Yes, too many people think it’s easy getting older, Hypercat.
Wait until they get old.
I'm sorry to hear that. I guess I got a taste of that last year as my RA got so bad. It was a struggle to walk from my front door to the car. My body had forgotten how to walk and how to function. I had to put one foot in front of the other then walk. It didn't feel normal to walk like how I use to. My physiotherapist taught me how to walk again. 5 minutes then adding a minute each day till I got to my target. And a whole load of other exercises as well. It wasn't until I started my medication that I started to feel normal again. I really feel for elderly people now as I know how it must feel for them when they get older and their body doesn't function properly. Its so frustrating and I felt so angry at my body for letting me down 😔 I feel for you hypercat54. Please take care of yourself.❤ 😘
Thank you Zara. I started going to NHS physio 3 years ago. They don't actually do any physio and just ask you a series of questions and ask you to bend etc. They then diagnose you with either manual or nerve damage. I was told it was manual and given exercises to do. They do help a bit but the physio did say airily last time I went in 2019 for obvious reasons that it is possible it is osteoarthritis! Huh? Is it or not. Not been able to get back or see a doctor since.
The exercises do help as they are supposed to build up your abdominal muscles and your back ones to support it. All the doctor will say (in 2018) losing discs is common after 40! I have asked for painkillers that might work several times by email and they just ignore me.
I now walk bent over with a stick in a lot of pain. The doctors say take paracetamol which doesn't even begin to touch it and even a high dose of co codamol doesn't. They refuse to consider any other type of painkiller.
Well you can't ignore pain like that and need pain relief. Losing disc might be common but living in pain isn't.
Sorry called you Sara by mistake. Amended it now. Apparently it is ok......
No problem just a letters difference. Some Drs need to go through the pain we go through everyday. Maybe then they will look at us as human beings rather then just another patient they're dealing with. I'm so blessed that my Rheumatologist and Gp are really helpful. Maybe because I was avoiding the meds for so long they have offered me everything I need. But I have heard stories where patients are not taken seriously and are fobbed off which is really sad 😔
Well I think the pain RA sufferers go through is well known to the medical profession and I am sorry you have it. I know a couple of people with it and the pain they can go through is awful.
It is really awful. I've avoided medication all my life but this was a time where I had to give in. And I'm glad I did as its not even called living, being in that much pain. I pretend that part of my life didn't happen 😥 Because I wonder how I even lived through it. We are really blessed we have access to medication and Drs as many out there do not have basics. Can't imagine the suffering people go through 😕
Are you in the UK? Can't remember. x
Yes I am and so glad I am. It does make a huge difference.
Oh yes definitely. Are you claiming PIP?
No I don't think I'm eligible. I know people who have been worse then me and have been refused.
It's not what illness you have but how it affects you. If you are under state pension age I would apply for it. After state pension age a new claim wouldn't get the mobility side of PIP but you would keep it if you got it before.
Do get help filling the form in though as it's worded deliberately tricky so they can justify turning down so many people. Just because others didn't get it doesn't mean you wouldn't.
One of the things many people don't know is if the question is for example Can you walk? and you put yes - nil points. But if you say yes but it takes me 4 times as long as someone without it, I get a lot of pain, and it takes me x amount of time to recover you get points. This is the because one of the criteria says you have to be able to do something in a timely and safe manner. And you always describe your worst day - never your best. x
I probably would have been accepted last year as I was really ill and could not do the basics but i think I can manage most basic things now with slight pain and a bit of struggle. I'm just glad I'm getting better. Thanks for the advice. Its much appreciated. Was lovely chatting to you. Good night 😴 🥰
Well if you change your mind check this link as it will tell you how to apply for it.
Night night don't let the bedbugs bite and sweet dreams. 😜 x
Your pain….I know constant pain.. it gets to the point that quality becomes more important than quantity of life. But there’s still hope that you can have both.
It must be awful and here's me moaning! Sorry.
No worries for me now. My pain is manageable. I was concerned about your pain. ❤️
That irks me bad.
I think outside on a flat track is best. Fresh air. I can't do the treadmill anymore either. " Ba bamm I'd definitely hit the floor hard". ( That's from a commercial here )
Yes flat track is best as the pavements are so uneven. Its actually dangerous if we are not stable.
Yes and I have injured myself consistently because of balance issues.
I can relate as I have had the balance issue due to my joints pain and muscle weakness.
Yes indeed I'm constantly falling over. I landed in surgery last year because of it. So many things throw your body off balance.
True, just be really careful as a fall leads to surgery which leads to more difficulties, coming off meds, dealing with the pain of the surgery, then recovery. I've really slowed down since last year but trying to get my speed up slowly slowly ❤
I had no choice. I had carpal tunnel surgery on each hand 2 months apart. Doing really well I tripped on the cement steps landing on both wrists! I had Tenosynovitis severely in my left hand 2 doctors refused and one did not refuse, my hand saver, had to go in and clean inflammation out all throughout my hands and fingers and tendons. My right wasn't nearly as bad and since this is my dominant hand I didn't have surgery on that one. I understand what you're saying though. 😊❤️🌞
(ive ir ha a lot of independent horses like that- somehow hit launch control,,,,,was it something I said or didn't say?? i never know.....horses keep their cards close to their chest.......maybe I didn't put a carrot in with their hay,,,,,manyh forms of communication as everoen knows.........)
Horses and I think all animals are amazingly intuitive
Yes indeed covid is making it difficult to get back to the new norm
Just be careful as I don't want an accident and injury claim against me 😂😂😂
Lol 😂 if I fall I fall 😬😂 I will walk slowly
😂😂😂I just walk so can manage. I wouldn't advice running
Running makes my asthma worse 😕😂😂 oh well
I wouldn't either. Walking is better for your knees I hear
Yes definitely. Good for the stiff joints 🏃♀️
I do have some arthritis. I had a knee replacement and have mostly pelvic low back bladder searing pain
Wishing you a pain free life 😘
luna- i was a long distance runner- now have artif knees..,walling burns fat and enhances fitness......ur right about running
Yea not good for anyone's knee's. It'll come back to get you.
just pick up the phone
some people are not born into can do families,,,,,, they don't realize how important they are to us or others and that we will literally do anything for them and have (most of our lives) and that they are no trouble......unless u consider living without them in your world........not saying their troubles are not significant . am saying.........burden? are u fricking kidding me? try living without u................whatever u need.......we do it all the time......u
sometime u just have to drive this into their brains.....they have been given such a raw deal and abandoned and so forth so much........
that isn't us..........u r NOT a =burden, or trouble...
again....try living without u
I hate emptying all the house bins out before bin day. I've never got use to that. And cleaning my kitchen tiles as I had carpets everywhere in my last house so I've never got use to that too. Was ok before but after falling ill it's really difficult to do the kitchen tiles. Normal cleaning, hoovering dusting wiping I use to love doing but now its much harder to do.
I hear you. Me too I hate doing all those things but the big but they have to be done right? My least favorite self care activity 😛
Well I can do all those with lots of breaks but I had to admit defeat the other day and borrowed my friends cleaner to vacuum and mop the kitchen floor.
Where do I start? There are far too many to answer this.
Ironing my undies
You told me you don't wear them? 😁😜🤣 xx
Me doing boring housework
I said My ideal date was….fish chips no undies 😀
Cor watch that chip fat as you don't want any accidents. Lovely bum by the way.....😜😁🤣 x
You Brits aren't right in the head. 😋🤪
Ah you folk from over the pond just don't get our very British sense of humour! 😁💖🤣 xx
Not true, I have watched a lot of Monty Python, Fawlty Towers, Benny Hill, Absolutely Fabulous, Keeping Up Appearance, etc. I admit that I sometimes have to use closed caption because of the accents. 😋
Benny Hill? Yuck! No wonder we are bonkers here. You would be too after Brexit and Boris! 😜🤣 x
hypercat, what do you think of the Aussie sense of humor?
Have they got one? 😁🤣
Oh yeah, they are real bawdy 😜
Lavatory humour? Bet it's sexist though............
Aussie humor can be very sexist, ageist, every kind of "ist" but some aussie tv shows are laugh out loud funny like Kath & Kim🤣
Thanks been doing lots of squats
Stay down and don’t get back up. 😂
Did you fart much? And loud or silent and deadly? 😜😁🤣
Not usually but must confesss tried a recipe for a 5 mixed bean soup on healthy eating during lockdown site and haven’t been the same since
Oh dear. Glad you live on the other side of Devon to me.... 😁🤣 x
Is that an unhappy face? Did you n Charl have outs?
Sillysausage234 you iron your undies or don't wear undies?! No wonder the sausage is silly! Which does Ms Charlize prefer or do I have to ask? 😂😂😂😂
Not criticising but you are the 2nd American I have seen here saying know instead of no. The other one I keep seeing is threw instead of through. Are these new Americanisms or summat? 😁😁
Save our English language campaigner! x
Well I admit to a spelling error there on the "no". We have no and know & through & threw..sound the same spell different with different meanings
😁😜 Very different meanings!
And there their and they're
Oh that's the one that drives me potty but it is more understandable I guess. I always remember it as 'their' belonging to them and 'there' for a place. x
Jim Tom! You’re back!
Spending more time outside. Especially these past few days, been staying inside more, and it definitely takes a toll on how I feel that day
Wow! I can't choose. But I think that my answer is doing laundry. It is the most difficult for me.😱😫
ure not taking care of u for u
ur taking care of u for all the people that love and admire u in secret
rural people care about each other
and your neibhors welfare isn't your business but
their welfare we always care about
u just may not know it
cant say it today but doesn't make it not true
people don't care about u
u might be
very very very veryver surprised
Changing the sheets on my bed..Tedious P.I.A....
Yes I agree. Tedious boring task.
The other tedious task is just getting out of bed. That's the toughest part.
I'm guessing I'm in the minority but I dont like getting my hair done every 6 wks! Color and highlights always take a long time and the entire time my hairdresser is questioning me about my so called life. Very stressful and anxiety-provoking for me since I'm a somewhat private person😬 I feel emotionally spent by the end of the appointment🥴🤕😵
I understand. I do enjoy going and chit chatting with my hairdresser. It's my girls day. She talks about her life mostly and I'm assured what's talked about in the salon stays in the salon. I go every Friday for a blowout because it's too long and colors it every 5 weeks.
I’m terrible at medication. My mind wanders off to easily. And I start thinking of things I need to do. Then I think of movies quotes and then song lyrics 😂
I also hate washing dishes and folding clothes. 😂
I don't have a problem folding clothes, but I don't like getting stuck with doing all the dishes too!!!
I like folding clothes it relaxes me and there's me & the dogs so not many dishes or laundry. It's that darn fitted sheet I refuse to fight with folding it anymore lol
I can't tell you how many times I watched videos that make folding a fitted sheet look so easy. ITS NOT! I just get it to look like a square as much as possible. 😂
Okay, I hate to say this because I must seem so lazy, sometimes it is a challenge for me to brush my teeth at night. I believe in good dental care and I try to floss too, but there are times I will let it go at night but then I will brush my teeth first thing in the morning. I know this isn't good. 🙁
I totally hear you. I'm a teeth freak but self care is hard when you feel awful. Motivation is tough. You're not the only one with that problem because I believe if one person has the courage to admit it there are many more. I admit it is hard.
Well, sometimes I'm doing stuff in the evening like paying bills and washing clothes or writing out stuff or doing things online and before I know it, it's like midnight and I'm ready to crash. I have to take some medication at night and I make sure I do that. but sometimes I'm just being rather immature like do I HAVE to brush my teeth???? It's like I still want to be a rebellious 13 year old!!!!
Same. I hardly ever floss and I know I should. I try to brush my teeth often but some nights I'm like I'm tired and Im already in bed 😂
i feel like the boring thing i have to do for my depression and anxiety is to drink water and eat halthey no matter if i go to the resterunt or i eat home
I agree that's a tough one for me too.
the last time i was at the resterunt i had a stawberry salad but they did not have the right oil for the food, and that was the first time i ate all of my food in my depression mood feeling and attitude and my anxiety and everything, it really helped me out and it came easier on me, cause if i eat anything at the resterunt i do not finish it and then i do not like it, cause of my depression is not gone yet and i still have it and the same with the anxiety and all of my strong feelings and other things, i hope you understand at what i am saying here, anyways i am making my first book on how to release , how to ease and what to do better with everything including depression and anxiety and heart attack , if you know what i mean, so if your interested , let me know so i get ready and i can give it to you when i am done with my book, i am interested in my book to give to people and my friends who needs it too much! and i feel like i need money for it too, cause i know how i am gonna use that money if you know what i mean, i mean, like i want to give some to my grandpa but he passed away so i might have to decide if you know what i mean,
Certainly would love to read it!
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