It’s Hard to Do What’s Best

[SunIsShining]

So I have never had a lot of friends. My Mom is co-dependent and, for the last few years, I’ve been filling that need for her. It’s not healthy for me so I’ve been distancing myself from her, but I’ve been feel lonely.

[Hidden]

I know how you feel. was in the same boat for a long time. It's hard and I am sorry that you are lonely but you should be proud of yourself for taking the first steps towards bettering yourself by trying to put some distance between you and your mom.

As for the loneliness the only thing you can do is put yourself out there. Talking on this site is a great first step and I am sure that given time you will find some good people to be friends with.

[SunIsShining in reply to Hidden]

Thanks! I’m hoping that once I move out I’ll be able to really blossom into the type of person who has friends who are like family

[Hidden in reply to SunIsShining]

You will it will just take some time. Like I said put yourself out there and be compassionate with yourself if you don't get where you want to be right away. Building those types of close relationships takes time and trust. It's also a good idea to work on seeing your own value and working on taking care of yourself and setting healthy boundaries. That is what will really help you in the future. You already showed promise with this by trying to get yourself out of a codependent situation. So keep working at it and you will get to where you want to be.