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Reaching out looking for friends who "get it"

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Hi I'm new here, hoping I will benefit from the anxiety support group. I have anxiety that causes me a lot of problems at work. I'm very introverted, so I don't really have many friends. Just looking to meet others who battle anxiety and depression every day and then do it all over again the next day.

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Itzallgood1

You come to a good group of people on here. I hope we can help you.

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Hb2003

Hello and welcome 😄 . This site is amazing and has lots of supportive people 🙏

What have you tried? Meds? Meditation?

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I take medications , do cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy and also meditate and try to practice mindfulness.

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Hb2003

I am praying for no more panic 🙏❤️❤️

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Roxylox

Social anxiety is my problem. Have gotten worse in the last year after being wrongly judged at work. Have no local friends. I have a dog I walk every day. Would not have the courage to walk without the dog l have to force myself even to go to a shop. I am reading a book at the moment which I find funny and a bit helpful it's called "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**K" by Mark Manson. My saving grace is l have a great husband and 3 great adult kids. I'm trying to keep battling it myself so I'm probably not much help, self-affirm is probably good e. g. I can do this I'm as good as them.

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teen_anxiety

I am not an introvert so I may not get it fully but either way I'm here for you if you need me

Hi & welcome,

From a fellow anxious & depressed newbie. I'm also an introvert but seldom get time alone (3 young kids, hubby & school shut until March 8th. We're in UK). My youngest child (4) is such a clingy & needy boy, who constantly craves interaction & can't go 2 minutes without calling me for whatever reason pops into his little head.

I'm terrified of leaving the house & if I see a familiar face when I'm out, I literally hope they didn't see me & I try to avoid them - even if they're a really great person. Just trying to summon the energy to interact is too much sometimes.

I have become quite a good actress in daily life - kind of like a chameleon. I can blend in & hide what's truly going on inside me, to the point where even my accent blends with who I'm speaking with... but it's really not helpful, it's just a reaction, a survival mode, & it's exhausting. I wouldn't recommend it!

It's a strange way to be - to feel lonely & yet hide from friends.

I have found it helpful to be upfront & honest with my small group of trusted friends. They all know I take a while to reply to messages and that I struggle with mental health - to my surprise, I found out that they all have varying degrees of anxiety.

I stick to small talk with people who aren't in my "circle" of friends & don't feel like I need to or even should share my personal opinions or feelings.

I have also found focusing on something to benefit someone else has been helpful. Sounds small but I made rum truffles (I think they're called rum balls in USA?) for my husband's work colleagues - shopping for the ingredients wasn't as stressful because the focus wasn't on me & my thoughts & needs. It also diverted my focus throughout the day & made other things a bit more manageable.

Hope you have a good day 😊

Welcome to this group friend. This community is a nice place for people like you. We are all like that and we have found comfort in this site. I hope you find it as well. Welcome again

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Tinkering

This is a good place to talk to people who can understand.

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froggymom88

Welcome! I will keep you in my prayers.

Hi Scarlett,

Welcome to our group. I have anxiety and depression also. I dislike doing "battle" with them, they have a nasty tendency to win. I vastly prefer the days we make peace, although there they stay, uninvited guests.

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Scarlett2585 in reply to Nothing_but_books

Thats probably a better way to think about it- why battle with myself when I can accept and make peace.

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It doesn't always work out for me. Some hours, and even days, are unbearable. But when a truce is declared, ahhhhh...

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Catatvet05

Hello,

Yes I’m the same here. I’m very introvert and actually like my own company, but then again I do get lonely.

Work that I do needs to have social people, and that does nerve me, but I push on, I guess.

I’ve come onto this platform to get both information and support, it’s been good so far.

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embarassedmood

I’ve struggled with anxiety for the majority of my life. I always figured that it would get easier with time, but in truth, life never stops being stressful. It was the worst its ever been when I graduated from college and officially joined the workforce. The transition from being a student to working full-time was rough, and it didn’t help that I wasn’t in love with my first job. I spent so many sleepless nights overthinking just about everything you can imagine, from imminent deadlines and upcoming project reviews to big-picture stressors like whether or not I felt successful and if my achievements paled in comparison to those of my peers. In my experience, the majority of negativity stems from miscommunication. For example, when I felt like I had been passed up for a promotion, I turned my manager into the enemy. I started to feel like she didn’t value me and that all of my hard work was going unnoticed. Of course, this was a gross over-exaggeration, but that’s what happens when you internalize everything that’s bothering you. One unresolved issue breeds a thousand, and pretty soon, you’re wallowing in the negativity. mangoclinic.com/top-18-soci...

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