Alone and nobody to go to

[Julietlilac]

I feel so alone and have been suffering with depression for a few years now. It is ruining my life and i feel like im going nowhere. I have a verbally abusive parent who tries to control my life even though i am an adult. I cant afford to move out and have nowhere to go. I know its a major source of my issues. I dont have anyone to talk to about it and i figured this might help. I have never posted here before. Maybe someone else has experienced this?

[Hidden]

Hey there,

When it comes to parents, one would lose their minds. U know to be honest when they know u depend on them, they are so happy bcz they know they have u in the palm of their hands. As u have said thou that for now u can't afford to get out. Do u have any hobbies to distract u? I've seen this strategy from married people, when they don't want to be around their spouses, they find new hobbies which never existed before to run away from them. It helps actually. It does not mean that u don't luv ur parents but u just want freedom which we all deserve. I would suggest that if u are guy u can join a basketball team and if a woman, there are countless number of activities u can join.

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer]

Welcome to our community, Julietlilac. So glad you found us. The word that comes to mind when reading your post is “trapped”. Feeling trapped is excruciating. Are you able to work at all? I ask because one of the only positives (the only one?) is that your expenses are low right now and you could save enough each month to be able to leave the toxic situation you’re in at some point. If you can’t work right now due to your depression the best thing would be to minimize your time at home in some other way. You have to live there right now but you don’t have to BE there 24/7. Covid makes that hard to do but it’s still possible. The truth is that there is no easy answer. You will find a lot of good support here and that is at least a start.

[Hidden]

I wouldn’t rock the boat with your parent. Are you paying for your food or anything?

[Hidden]

I understand, and wondering why your not working?

[Hidden]

I’m sad to hear your situation. Many of us are like you and feel trapped by our family for some reason we still need their help. Why you are there can you save up some money to move out with? Do you have anyone to room with or share expenses with so you can get a place to live? Sometimes there are cheap places you might start looking in the paper for a room to rent?

[HisDaughter]

I am very sorry that you are suffering so much from depression! I am sorry that you are suffering living with your parents too! Are you getting treatment for your depression? Are you meeting with a therapist? There are places that offer counseling and therapy at a low cost and online. It is important to get help. Are you able to work? If you are not able to work due to your depression you could apply to get disability benefits. Do you know where the Department of Social Services in your area is? Someone like a social worker could help you find housing assistance if you have low income and have financial hardship. I know that you feel alone and I am sorry about that! You are not alone. There are many of us who suffer from depression and I know that it is very painful. Please take good care of yourself and help yourself, even though it is hard to do it! I hope that you get all the help that you need and that God blesses you a lot.