So I was having a pretty good morning and one small argument seemed to ruin it all. I don’t want to let it ruin my day and even though it was a small argument with my parents I feel like there was a lot more I wanted to say that they just don’t understand or blame me for.
Anyone know any positive releases for anger? I feel like I have so much that I’ve been suppressing forever since my parents always said to never show anger or sadness or anything but a smile in public. I’ve gotten good at it but then if I even try to release any of it at home or in a better place ( not violently, just arguing or explaining) then it’s my fault for feeling upset or having an “attitude problem” as my mom loves saying and I somehow get in trouble for not even saying anything. Working out can help release but anything else I do just suppresses it further.
I’m scared one day it’ll explode and I’ll do something stupid and dangerous. In the past I’ve felt on the edge of breaking but before I do anything dumb I can usually calm down. But again this doesn’t make any of the anger go away. It just bottles more up. I hate how it can switch so quickly and the anxiety whispering in the back of my head pulls me farther down.
Drawing title is a Juice WRLD album name. I don’t plan on using any rope in that way just to clarify. Just sort of an aesthetic thing.
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It sounds like you already have an outlet for your emotions: drawing. It is a positive way to express your anger, as well as writing. Those are the two I use most as well.
Yea drawing and writing are good ways to release. They help a lot with other emotions more than anger just because I feel like the anger just sits there like a weight on my head. But nonetheless it is helpful.
Wow, that's really good drawing! It's a good release for your anger and the best is definitely exercise, but not something light, it has to be something that really tires you out, oh and boxing is a good exercise for getting rid of anger x
Yes! I love boxing, not with people but I have a bag I use to workout. That's definitely the best way I have right now but I can't always just go beat up my bag for an hour or so when I'm upset.
Hang in there..I have been doing this for 37 years. Everyone blames us!! Don't understand the pain n misunderstanding of what we are really dealing with. One thing I do.. when it gets toooo much is take a run.. seriously.like run for your life. Get exhausted... Soo you can be tired n relax. I'm not a runner. But I can only go so far. But I get exhausted and I get tired. N it does help. Remember.. you are not the only one who has this. I don't check my email alot but please reach out to me if you want to. I'm here Buddy. Try.. to run ... I'm less than healthy. But it works. ❤️
Ive never been a fan of running but I love biking. I did it a lot more over the summer and tried getting farther every time. Definitely a great distraction. Maybe I will try running though.
Thank you and i will keep making more. The anonymity does make it a lot easier to share and not having to explain to people why I drew whatever i did. And yea addiction is no fun ... I'm just trying to find better outlets so can release instead of numbing myself cause that's kind of what I've been doing for a while.
i absolutely love that drawing!!! especially the 'parental advisory' !!!! as others have pointed out - drawing is another way to release... KEEP drawing - AND POSTING THEM!!! love to see more of your work!
Tony - tony tony tony.... how do i break this to you. nothing against your parents... BUT... you had to know but was coming.... THEY'RE NOT ALWAYS RIGHT!!!!!! and sometimes, they're terribly terribly wrong. Parents are people too, and people are far from perfect. All parents suck at parenting at some point in the journey (at least). if they didn't - none of us would be in this forum!!!
Tony - know this - your parents went thru their own hell growing up too. when they say never show sadness or anything but a smile in public - that's because that was a defense mechanism they were forced to learn to survive. And it worked for them, so they passed it along to you. That DOES NOT MEAN it will work for you in all cases, and maybe not at all!
at the time growing up when they were young - maybe that was a good rule. these are different times - and who's to say if that's a good idea now? It seems to me - you've been practicing that, and it doesn't sound like it's working so well for you... so time to try something different.
Please try to not suppress!! sooner or later - THERE IS A PRICE TO PAY!!! and the longer you suppress - the bigger that price! oh wait - i just read your next sentence about exploding!! yep - that's 1 price that you may pay.... gotta let it out before you blow!
letting it out early and often, gives you the opportunity to let it out with thought and care - blowing it all out at once.... it's a sh*t-storm of a mess!!! but it seems you already know this - so i'm confirming - yep U got it right!
Tony - i'd also like to comment on your last note; i'm amused that you pointed out this was just a drawing, and not your intent. i absolutely knew at 1st glance it was not your intent - for a number of reasons - but the 1 i want to focus on is the funny reason....
and all the perfectionists and transitioning perfectionists out there will appreciate this....
that knot is all wrong!!! ROTF - that knot not gonna work for the intended application - at least; not reliably.
Tony; since you appreciate art, and the messages that can be contained within - i think you'll appreciate this:
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A human can never pass thru the same river twice. They are never the same human, and it is never the same river!
I love working out a lot and I go to the gym almost every day so I definitely use that to help. And I have tried meditating but never consistently so I’ll check out the link. It definitely helps. It really sucks the moment I realized they aren’t the perfect people I thought they were growing up. And they definitely had their share of sh** growing up (a lot which I found out more recently) which kind of made me more upset as to why they’ve never tried helping me when I had the same problems as a kid. Now it’s too late but it still sucks.
I never even noticed how much I hid my anger until one of my friends mentioned that they never really see me mad or can’t imagine me yelling and other friends agreed. I was just more surprised than anything. But aside from replacing mental problems with physical pain (mainly working out) I don’t know how else to let stuff out. At this point it’s hard because it’s over a decade of stuff I never tell anyone and smoking makes the problems not bother me as much.
And I didn’t even think about the knot until you mentioned it haha. I sometimes look up an image to base a drawing on but for this one I just put a random knot. I’m glad you like it though! I used to never share em because my drawings are kinda dark but that fact that you found it funny makes me smile.
And I really like that quote. Especially when I feel like I’m in crappy cycle but I guess every time is new.
glad to hear you doing consistent workouts - that's a huge step...
if you can work in some meditation on a daily basis - that will help hugely also; 30m / day would really help to get you in the zone - especially in the learning stage. even if you can't do 30m - do whatever you can - anything is better than nothing - and it reinforces the habit.
down the road, you could probably do 3-4x / wk to maintain - but daily especially if you're dealing w/ alot of crap -which sounds like you are. you just need to remember, that learning to meditate well takes practice. just keep doing it, and you WILL succeed. as you become better, the beneficial effects increase.
i've really enjoy both drawings you've posted; the dark side doesn't bother me - i get it all too well... outside of the smile this piece gave me - i do very much appreciate the darkness it communicates. speaks volumes.
the bit about reality sinking in w/ the p's.... yep - that's painful... but you're not alone; we all been there! (some sooner than others).
this forum's a great place to vent too... use it as your sounding board; practice your venting... let it out...
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