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What am I suppose do life seems to be getting worse everyday and nobody even realizes how depressed and exhausted I am with life I’ve had some traumatic experience and I’ve not been same since I cut my hand once and I’ve never did that in my life I don’t know how to be happy anymore how to have fun like everybody else I feel like I’m slipping into a dark hole and idk how get back out😞

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Sounds to me like you focus on the negatives more than the positives, which is pretty much what most of us round here do. For me at least that's exactly what anxiety does. While I'm in a period of attacks I feel very similar to how you've just described.If people around you aren't helping, try to concentrate on yourself and less on their opinions. Remind yourself that you deserve to be happy, what happened wasn't your fault after all. Do you feel scared to smile incase of an opinion from someone else? You shouldn't! It's ok to be happy, it's ok to bury the past and move on. And do it for yourself, not for anyone else.

Idk if I can move on idk if I can bury it it replays in mind over and over I have crushing feeling like something bad is going happen everyday

Have you ever sought councilling? Is that an option for you? It will be difficult for some of us to help wish such a specific event.

It’s not because I don’t want my parents to find out☹️

Guided meditation youtube just google- it might help try 5 minutes and see if can increase

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I will give it a try

The idea that other people are happy and having fun when your not is a false one, especially now. Most other people are miserable too, but you have the genuinely awesome trait of being able to admit it and talk to other people about it (even if its online) rather than just keeping up the facade and going on autopilot. Real strength and growth comes from confronting the dark, not putting on a mask of fake happiness to cover it up.

That’s true but it seems like one bad thing after next it’s not getting better like the said it will😞

I can very much relate. I feel that way too sometimes but when I do I tell myself I'm wrong. Depression clouds our rational judgement so much. Its hard but you have to tell yourself it can get better, because it can.

I can’t tell you what to do. No one can really. You have to decide that for yourself. But I can share things that have worked in the past for me to get out of the darkness.-Sit with the feeling. Let it hurt. Let it overwhelm you. Consider where the overwhelming feelings come from. Is there another time in your life that you felt the exact same? But make a promise to yourself before taking on this process of sitting with it that you will not harm yourself. Promise yourself you will at least try to do something to help yourself first.

-Let it out. That may mean writing it out, crying it out, aggressive exercise such as boxing, yelling at the sky. Lots of options.

-Remind yourself of your physical presence and stay grounded. You can do this by doing things such as putting bare feet on the floor and thinking about what you feel with your feet. Stepping outside and describing to yourself what the air feels like and describe what you are smelling. Basically, it is fully tuning in to any of your senses. Especially touch.

-Take a walk in nature. Go to an event in town. Go drive to somewhere where you can sit back and look at the stars. And so on. Do something that forces you out of your house.

-When you have calmed your mind. Make lists of what you want for yourself and your life. Break apart what it will take to reach that goal. Decide which part of that you can start right now. And work for a life that you want that feels good to you.

Peace and love fellow darkness warrior ❤️

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