Exhausted and Depressed

[AmyJA]

Hi everyone! I'm new to the group. My boyfriend of 8 years told me that he has been cheating on me. I broke it off and now I'm sufferings from extreme depression. I can't eat or sleep. The littlest tasks seem exhausting. What are some tips or techniques that I can use to help myself feel better?

[FearIsALiar]

Welcome to the group!! 💕

I am so sorry to hear that you were cheated on! You can thank God for removing him out of your life. I actually was in a relationship that I recently ended from being cheated on..I was cheated on literally the majority of the relationship which is absolutely awful and heartbreaking. It was long distance so I didn’t have a clue.. I want to tell you that YOU CAN and YOU WILL get through this.

Do you work? Have any hobbies?

Breakups can be tough but keeping yourself busy and going to therapy can help. Picking up a new hobby, learning something new, getting an animal etc. there so much that can help!

[AmyJA in reply to FearIsALiar]

Thank you the encouragement! I do work which is hard because I am avoiding telling anyone about the breakup because it's embarrassing. My hobby is my etsy shop but I can't even focus on it because it just adds to my stress with the holiday orders being overwhelming. I do love drawing though so I might try to focus on that for a while. My biggest problem is a can't eat or sleep and I'm worried I will get sick. It's been a week since the broke up and I've lost 9 pounds.

[FearIsALiar in reply to AmyJA]

Well it’s embarrassing for HIM to cheat on an amazing beautiful person like YOU. Shame on him! You deserve so much better.

Oooo! Etsy is amazing. I also wanted to open up a shop but I don’t even know what I would put in the shop or even make. What do you sell?

Well not eating or sleeping will get you sick but eat small portions or have a smoothie or something nice full of nutrients. I also lost a lot of weight from my breakup. Feel free to PM me 💕💕

[AmyJA in reply to FearIsALiar]

I sell animal themed gifts. If i decide to reopen. I'll send you the link 😊

[FearIsALiar in reply to AmyJA]

Yay thanks!

[momofjust2boys in reply to FearIsALiar]

Ahhh.....the stress diet. Never fun. I think focusing on your drawing is a fabulous idea! Please let us know how it goes. I understand you feel embarrassed because you didn't see any signs of his cheating, but you are in good company. I bet if you shared your breakup with just one person you trusted, that person would be very sympathetic and would probably even have a similar story to share. Please keep posting here so we can encourage and support you!

[ab22]

I remember a time like this. Back when I was in college, I got cheated on (walked in on them, in fact) by someone who I had been in a relationship with for 6 years. Damn, was that a rough few months. It was lucky for me that I started my first full time job at the start of that summer and could work all the overtime I pleased, took off, went to a music festival, etc. I recovered, but it just came through living, doing the best I could every day (even if the best was pretty weak) and eventually things that mattered in the world other than that relationship gradually showed themselves.