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New to the community and really struggling


Hi, I'm in my late twenties and going through a particularly difficult time with my anxiety. I just lost my 2nd job of the pandemic earlier this month, got broken up with by my significant other who I was living with at the time, moved in back with my parents but had to move half way across the country to do so, I am still jobless, struggling to pay back debt, and my anxiety is convincing me that all my negative self-talk and self-loathing is real. All of my friends are scattered throughout the country so I feel like I don't have a set community and I just feel like things will never get better. Any help and advice from anyone, would mean the world to me. Thank you so much. I just feel so alone and that everyone else's life is more put together and less messy than mine.

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You're not alone. Youre doing amazingly by just shouting that you are struggling. x

Take a breath, try and focus on small goals to start.

Don't think too much about it all at once, it will always make you feel worse.

Good friends can be a time zone away or next door, they will be there when you need them for a quick chat, a moan, or just to say hi, Are you ok today?

Try and be kind to yourself. Give the negatives a different voice, a different accent, something that will make them easier to ignore.

Keep going, You're doing great. You are always enough X

daisy1500 in reply to Para66

Wow, thank you. Reading that just gave me more hope and I'm just so thankful to be a part of this community and get such support and advice like that. Thank you so much.

Para66 in reply to daisy1500

youre very welcome X

I totally understand when you say you feel like you aren’t doing enough. I think you sharing your story and allowing yourself to be vulnerable in that way and seeking help is amazing and it’s the first step towards tackling those negative thoughts about yourself. There is so much going on this year give yourself some grace! We are all struggling and we like to put up the front that we aren’t to no delve into those fearful thoughts that we aren’t enough but we all struggle and you are not alone. Mindfulness and living in the present is something I practice to detach myself from my depression and anxiety. Think of something you can do for yourself when you are really struggling. Anything you enjoy doing (it can be as small as drinking a warm cup of coffee) and live in that moment. You got this and thank you for sharing 💘

daisy1500 in reply to melissab11

Thank you so much for your empathy. I appreciate your support so much. Everything you said was so incredibly helpful and comforting to hear. Thank you.

You are not alone....we are in this together no matter what our individual situations are. I struggle with negative self-talk, too. You have been through so kind to will overcome in time....that is my prayer for all of us.

Thank you for this reminder. It feels so isolating and lonely but I really appreciate this response. So much.

keep your head up ! one day at a time ! things will get better....god bless 💚

daisy1500 in reply to anon2508

Yes, one day at a time. You are right. I just hope the next day and the day after that get a little easier. Thank you for your response.

Sorry you are having so much stress in your life right now. But it will get better. One step at a time.

daisy1500 in reply to bonkers65

Thank you for this response and for your support. This was really helpful to hear.

Same boat. I’m sending you a hug.

daisy1500 in reply to staysia

I'm sorry you are in the same boat. But I appreciate the empathy. Sending a hug back!

staysia in reply to daisy1500

My anxiety won me over today. I have no idea how to let it stop talking

daisy1500 in reply to staysia

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. I've been trying to practice some mindful breathing and trying to find a task or something to distract myself/focus on...even if it just gets my mind off of my anxiety for a little. Small steps. One moment at a time.

Thank you so much for your compassion and support. Each response, including this one, has had me crying, mostly out of feeling really supported by strangers who are struggling just like me. We are all human and I often forget how universal so many of our experiences are. Thank you for taking time to respond to me.

I can relate to what you're going through. Just know that you're not alone, and that we've already been through the worst so it can only get better from here 😊

I know you're right, it's just so hard to internalize and move on. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone. I really appreciate it!

I am so sorry daisy. You are not alone. We are all struggling with hardship, feeling lost and alone., Wondering when this will end.

You're in the right place as we are all feeling the same thing. I ask my. Therapist that very question every week. Am my the only one feeling this horrible? She reminds me the entire world is suffering and told me to self care inside like coloring, puzzles , meditation, walks, yoga, reading,. Etc..hobbies..

Hope this helps..

Always here for you

Hugs 🤗


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