Worrying

[Survivor4Ever]

So we waste our time worrying in reality. We get worked up for nothing. Our past we can not change. And no one can change it for us it either. And we just get all worked up about it. And we just need to learn to let go of it. I know this is easier said than done. And anxiety is another thing. It’s a waste of our time, energy, life,joy, love. Yet these emotions and feelings control us. Anxiety seems to take over our body and lives. Difficult to manage. Yet again in reality it’s a waste of our time if we gave it some thought. When we could be doing so so so many other things.. I hope someone can understand me or possibly relate

[Hidden]

Totally agree. Worrying about the past or other things that we can’t change. I feel so horrible about lost opportunities and wasted time... and waste more time with regret.

Hard not to let the feelings and emotions control us.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Hidden]

Well I agree with you

[Hidden]

I can empathize completely. You're so correct regarding the past. Speaking for myself, I worry about the future as well. Any small thing, I can blow up to mega proportions, usually unfounded. I have been working on living in the present with help from a counselor. It sounds, and is, easy for some but I am having a heck of time with it. He told me this gem: "you have one foot in the past, one foot in the future, you're p-ssing on today".

[bonkers65 in reply to Hidden]

I worry constantly about everything and can't stop it. I've tried everything but it just keeps coming back. If I meditate as soon as I stop a worry thought creeps in my mind.

[AnxM in reply to bonkers65]

Exactly. In fact, I go from meditating to ruminating so often that I have stopped trying to meditate.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Hidden]

That’s very true I especially like what your counselor told you. I find that interesting

[AnxM]

You have hit the nail on the head. I wonder why I torture myself like this— beating myself up in the worst way over things I cannot change. Telling people about it as if they could change it for me. Wasting the precious little time I have to live this life. Making the people i love and cherish stressed and worried.

😭😭😭

[Survivor4Ever in reply to AnxM]

Yes indeed, if only we could put this in place. Its mind blowing, right? But true. We simply are just wasting our time. People are living their lives with yes worried from time to time but little things like.. will I get to work in time. While we are worrying about humongous things in our minds that in fact haven’t happened nor will happen. We are sure will happen and we are frozen . Wasting our precious time as you stated. If we could just once let go

[AnxM in reply to Survivor4Ever]

My worrying is so bad I’m now worrying about my upcoming first session with a psychiatrist. On days when the anxiety is overwhelming i want a magic pill, but i also know that i will be worried about taking meds too. Just a waste of time!!

[Survivor4Ever in reply to AnxM]

You keep telling people over and over and over as if they are going to change it and all it does is get you worked up and waste your time and gets you nowhere but robs your life. Meanwhile, you could be spending it possibly doing something you use to enjoy doing in your life and for just one moment stop and think” hey I feel okay right now”

[AnxM in reply to Survivor4Ever]

So what should we do, you think?

Let’s make a pact not to waste anymore time on bad feelings. Just love, laugh, live life to the max. What do you say?

[Survivor4Ever in reply to AnxM]

Good to hear you have the right mentality now let’s to try to look at things different when that crap comes up. Like a reminder of how life is short and how this is just making it shorter

[AnxM in reply to Survivor4Ever]

Thanks for the post. My husband tried to tell me the same thing but it’s more powerful coming from someone going through the same thing.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to AnxM]

Life can seem more manageable with what you yourself said” Wasting my life” so happy to help. I feel better. What goes around, comes around. And yes indeed. Agreed, only when someone that actually is going thru it can relate does understand more than someone who doesn’t know what it feels like to be in that place where you are constantly being pulled apart from your mind and body. However, we must remember we are wasting our lives and need to fight back and live in the present . Glad to help

[AnxM in reply to Survivor4Ever]

I wrote this to robbie2499:

Can we make an online support group here? Like check in with each other once a week on how much useless negative thinking we did? Like AA for Anxiety instead of Alcohol? (I find that I’m “addicted” to my anxiety-inducing thoughts even though they only give me pain and no pleasure.)

We can just continue on this post?

[Survivor4Ever in reply to AnxM]

Oh

[Hidden in reply to AnxM]

I'm in! If only that easy... I have heard the "box" method helps. It goes something like this: what ever you may be stressing/anxious about, you mime or visualize putting those thoughts into a "box". You then place the box on a shelf. Tell yourself you will deal with it later, as in any chore.

[AnxM in reply to Hidden]

Can we make an online support group here? Like check in with each other once a week on how much useless negative thinking we did? Like AA for Anxiety instead of Alcohol?

We can just continue on this post?

[Hidden in reply to AnxM]

Great idea! Maybe we should make every friday?

[AnxM in reply to Hidden]

Sure. Fridays we just check in and fess up about how much we gave in to these useless, anxiety-inducing thoughts. And we remind each to STOP and LIVE LIFE!

[AnxM in reply to Hidden]

Wait, if we continue on this post, only the person being replied to will get a notification, so should we do group chat instead?

[Breyes624]

Thank you for sharing really enjoyed this and trying to work on this exact thing it’s tough but i’m trying to fight it everyday

[Survivor4Ever in reply to Breyes624]

Just glad somebody was able to benefit from this and/ or relate from this. Perhaps maybe we will start looking at things differently and try to remember. Hey writing it down maybe on index cards may help out. We can start questioning ourselves whether we are just wasting our time. “ Is this or am I at the moment wasting my time?” I don’t know whatever works for you. Just ideas

[AnxM in reply to Survivor4Ever]

Good idea. I read that catching yourself and making yourself stop these negative thoughts immediately is the way to deal with them. The psychologist suggested that whenever you find your mind going there, say something out loud to stop yourself. His example was “thinking”. I think “wasting time!” would work better for me. Or perhaps “wasting my life”. Because it would remind me why I need to stop.

[Survivor4Ever in reply to AnxM]

I never heard say “thinking”I do agree with you saying “wasting my life “can help life seem more manageable than saying “thinking”. I like your optimism

[AnxM in reply to Survivor4Ever]

I guess because he was talking about overthinking... but yeah it’s meaningless

[Agora1]

Survivor, very well said xx

[Doglover87]

I agree as well we need to stop the visious cycle i am reading a CBT book right now its a 7 week workbook i am on week 3!

Its on amazon canada for 20 dollars.

Seth J. Gillihan PhD

Retrain Your Brain: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in 7 Weeks: A Workbook for Managing Depression and Anxiety

[Doglover87 in reply to Doglover87]

Worth every penny

[Whiskers16]

You are right in everything you say, just wish it was so easy to stop. I have wasted months of my life worrying and causing myself anxiety I just want to beat this