How to break a very bad habit

[Hb2003]

So i have a very bad habit of apologizing it makes me look weak but i say sorry too much because i dont want to hurt offend anyone

[FearIsALiar]

I am the same way.

[Hb2003 in reply to FearIsALiar]

Yay i am not the only one

[Hb2003 in reply to FearIsALiar]

I say it more that 2 times a day 😂😂 i count how many times i say sorry

[Hb2003 in reply to Hb2003]

It gets annoying

[Agora1]

Hb, saying "I'm sorry" was a more frequent habit that I finally was able to break.

I would lose count on how many times a day I would say that. To the point that I

didn't even think twice, I'd just blurt it out.

That is until someone I knew and trusted told me in a blunt way, "Stop saying you're

sorry"...It woke me up to the fact that I had no reason to keep saying that and I did stop.

I think it's just a habit with all of us. We are all people pleasers and may think that

saying I'm sorry makes them think kinder of us. When in reality it becomes annoying

to them. xx

[hurtingheart1]

Just read your post - why does your apologizing have to make you appear weak? Can you explain more about what you mean by that? Such as -Do you feel you do it excessively with no need to apologize or what do you mean I’m interested to try understand more if possible? Thanks for sharing & posting! You sound like a nice & polite person & there’s nothing wrong with that!! No shortage of kindness in this earth! But I understand if you feel you’re doing it excessively and it’s not necessary or you’re trying to hard to please others maybe not balanced?? But I say it’s better being kinder than not!!🤣💞🌻🦋

[Hb2003 in reply to hurtingheart1]

That is true ☺️❤️

[Hb2003 in reply to hurtingheart1]

I feel like apologizing makes me feel weak because I apologize when I don’t have to I get nervous so I just say sorry

[Shnookie]

When my mother was alive, she always would say to me Shnookie why R U Always saying U R sorry 😐. She was right and I am a people pleaser. But I definitely want to

Cut down on this habit at the age of 62

Good luck. I’m in your corner

Hugs M

[Hidden]

I'm with you here. You're right; it is annoying.

[Abigail_Wenderson]

Hi Hb2003,

I also had the same habit of apologizing every time. But I overcome this habit. I made myself strong and whenever I'm going to apologize for anything, I stop and ask myself, “Have I done anything wrong here?” If not, I stop not to apologize.

I hope it helps you.

[bonkers65]

I do the same thing. Afraid of offending anybody. People pleaser

[Hb2003]

😊 I don’t know how to break it it slips out of my mouth sometimes

[Hidden]

Thanks for the fun conversation the other day. It was an easy way to end a very difficult day. Tell your folks I said hello !

[Hb2003 in reply to Hidden]

Your welcome