Hello! So this is something I need to get off my chest.
I’ve been friends with this guy for the past year. We are enrolled in school together (where we met) and have become very close.
I recently told him I have feelings for him and he doesn’t feel the same way. This is ok, I accept that people feel differently so I’m not hurt by it. However he continues to flirt with me and find reasons to touch me when we are together. I feel like I need to distance myself from him but I can’t stop thinking about him or wanting him around.
I’m really confused about his actions and he’s even suggested we become FWB. I turned the idea down because I have to protect my heart over anything else.
I’m disappointed but I’m starting to think he doesn’t even have my best interests in mind if he’s pursing this sort of relationship with me
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This looks like a disaster for you. Might be a good idea to ask him if his feelings have changed. If not, asked that he be responsible, honest and consistent in his actions toward you. If he has no emotional interest, what’s he doing? Sounds like a recipe for a disaster for you
Guys want it both ways. We want to be free from you and have you at the same time. He is manipulating your feelings for his own benefit. Any Retard knows he can't reject your feelings then flirt with you.
I'm an idiot too but if I were you i would very likely ask him to please stop repeatedly touching me. He knows what he is doing. He is hurting your feelings for his own benefit.
I'm sorry for ratting on you guys, but her feelings are not to be toyed with. If a woman did that to me I would loudly and aggressively say " Please Stop Touching Me"!!! Which I have done, I even threatened to call the police for assault which unwanted touching is. She backed off quick.
He had his chance and said No. Live with your decision and keep your fingers to yourself !!
Lol I LOVE this ❤️ we need more men like you around. I have told him and we went out drinking as a group the other night and started doing it again. I got mad at him and said something again so let’s see what happens now.
Even if U slept with a character like this God forbid, it better be safe sex and since this guy seems like a player, U don’t what his behavior would be like with other women. Also if continue going out for drinks with him and other people, make sure no more than 2 drinks, don’t sit next
to him and don’t let him walk U to your car alone.
Beware of this guy. I’ve been in a similar type of relationship and this guy broke my heart deeply it still hurts now. He manipulated me and said he loved me while all he wanted was sex. This is the worst relationship scenario that could literally destroy your heart for a long period of time. So please run away from him ASAP before he gets you more attached!
Well. STOP letting him touch You, you doing that is giving the Wrong signal, that’s Why he asked about being FWB? You have to move on, he’s made it Clear he doesn’t feel the same. Torturing yourself hoping if you let him touch You he’ll change his mind? Men feel with their bottom Brain. If you become his FWB Nothing Good will come from it💔
It sounds like he likes his ego built up by you. The more you don’t give him that attention... the more he will “ want” you. It’s a shame to play games. If you sleep with him you probably will become more attached. Or you could rick his world lol and he may be attached 😉. I’d protect my heart and see what happens!!!🥰
You are so right when you say you need to protect your heart. You also need to protect your body.
He most certainly does not have your best interests in mind.
This guy is self-centered, narcissistic and mean.
You told him you had feelings for him and he doesn't return those feelings yet he flirts with you and now wants to be FWB.
You need to get as far away from this jerk as fast as you can. You are nothing more than another "notch on his belt." It wouldn't surprise me if he has done this before to other women.
It is obvious he has no respect for you or any woman, or he would not have suggested being FWB after you told him you have feelings for him.
Any respectable, decent guy would be friends, but they certainly would not flirt with you and touch you knowing how you feel about them. And they most certainly wouldn't suggest being FWB.
I've seen to many guys like this in my time on this earth and I can tell you they are laughing at you behind your back. He is the type of guy who "kisses and tells." Get rid of him!
You sound like a very nice person and you deserve someone who truly cares for you and only you without the WB.
If he is truly your friend he wouldn't suggest FWB after you told him how you feel. It makes me angry just thinking about this creep and I don't even know him, but I know his type all to well.
Please find someone else to be "friends"with. This guy is NOT your friend.
The longer you hang around him the harder it is going to be to say NO to FWB.
Please, think long and hard about staying friends with this jerk. I'm sure there are other, more respectable, likeable, young eligible men who would love to be your friend and possibly more.
Take your time. Be choosy. You don't have to have a FWB. Just friends is fine.
You don't say how old you are or how old this guy is or if changing schools is a possibility for you.
Regardless of your ages, he is being disrespectful to you by suggesting FWB when he knows you want to be more than just friends. He's messing with your heart and playing head games.
If you can change schools, I strongly suggest you do and as soon as possible. The sooner you put as much distance between the two of you the better off you will be. This guy is a "User."
If you can't change schools and you have any classes with him, try to rearrange your schedule so you don't have any classes with him and when he's not in class you are.
Make new friends, find another group of friends to "hang out" with. Stay away from "his" friends and make sure you don't put yourself in a position where you are alone with him if you truly want to distance yourself from him.
This guy only wants one thing - SEX - SEX - SEX without ANY commitments on his part.
Do yourself a big favor and get rid of this loser.
I know you have feelings for him and you think about him, but you can do this.
Be Strong!
Be true to yourself! Give yourself time to heal and get over him.
Then take your time and find a "decent" guy who truly cares for you and not just your body.
You Can Do This!
I will be praying for you.
Please keep in touch and let me know how you are doing. I do care.
Congratulations on being so close to finishing nursing school. It's not an easy school to go through.
Any idea of what area of specialty you would like to work in?
Many, many years ago I tried to get into nursing school and couldn't. It was my dream to be a surgical nurse, however, it didn't happen. Back then you had to be older, be a CNA and a straight A student. I was 18, a B+ student and just out of high school. Eventually I took a medical assistant course at the local college. 1 night a week, 4 hours each evening for 2 years and then didn't get to use it. Such is life. I had 2 little ones, a husband in college and I was already working about 50 hours a week, but I loved the classes and I learned a lot.
Yes, mornings can be hard. I hear you there. I don't know where you live, but I live in California and right now it's overcast, but the sun is trying to break through. It will probably be in the 80's today.
Are you in a 4 year nursing program? When I tried to get in there were only 2 year programs.
You said you are both 25. I have learned that guys don't seem to really "grow up and get it" until they are around 30 years of age. By then most women have known for quite some time what they want and guys are just starting to learn.
I told my only daughter when she was growing up, graduate from high school, go to a 4 year college and get your degree in something you will enjoy doing, graduate, get a full-time job in the field your degree is in and then travel as much as you can as time and money allows. Once you get married all of that changes.
I'm happy to say she actually listened to me and did just that. She even bought her own home before she got married at age 30.
Never rush into a relationship. Take your time. When you find the right man for you, you will know it. Listen to your heart.
I had a very wise, older lady tell me "let him go, if he comes back to you it was meant to be. If he doesn't, move on."
Don't ever marry a guy because you "like" his family and want to be a part of it.net. It helps to like his family, but you need to be Friends, best friends with him first before anything else. You also need to have things in common, things you both enjoy doing together.
Something my mother told me years ago long before I ever got married and it's true.
Watch and listen to how the man treats and speaks to his mother as that is a good indication of how he will treat his wife. And
Watch how he and his father get along, and how they treat and speak to each other. This will give you an idea of how the man will treat his children, especially, the boys, if you ever have children. I have seen it all to often. Dad pounds on the son and puts him down all the time and son grows up, gets married, has a son and passes it along to his son. It is so very sad.
Also, if a guy doesn't respect you know when you are dating, he certainly is not going to respect you when you are his wife.
Alright, enough preaching for today.
I hope you have a fantastic day. Take a deep breath and smile. You Can Do This!
Enjoy your day. Take time for yourself. Treat yourself to something you've been wanting to do for awhile that doesn't include "him."
Listen to your heart. He sounds like he only has one thing in mind. Don’t give him your heart or body. He does NOT deserve it!
I agree with other commenters that you should stay away from him (and do NOT go out drinking with him, even in a group), but don't change schools just to get away from him if you're happy at school. That's letting him run your life. He sounds like a jerk. You can do better.
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