Be patient with yourself

There is no need for us to hold on to things. We are constantly tested to let go. We face things like death, where letting go is a physical process, yet it is so hard for us to let go emotionally. Letting go is a process and can’t happen overnight. The important thing is to give this process as much time as it needs. Be patient with yourself.❤️

[Hidden]

Yes, it is important to be paient with ourselves. We are patient with others, so why is it so hard to treat ourselves with the same amount of patience? (Rhetorical question)

[Marc787 in reply to Hidden]

Ladybird111,

I totally agree. Being here is our own personal life lessons (to be awaken). I am working on letting go of things, people, past memories that does not serve me well anymore. Alot of other people live in judgemental, ego, status. I like to live in the now, the past is over, dont focus on the future. To many of us suffer from this, thus anxiety, fear, depression and burnout eventually hits us all. Everyone needs to know how to know their higher true self first. 😀🙏❤

[Hidden in reply to Marc787]

Amen to that!!

[FearIsALiar in reply to Marc787]

Amen 🙏🏻

[FearIsALiar]

I really needed this tonight...I have struggled with letting a partner go and I know I really need to because it’s so unhealthy. It’s taking me so much time to do it. I just don’t know how. I’m not ready for the feelings that come with a breakup. He is all I have

[Hidden in reply to FearIsALiar]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I know how hard it must be for you. I have been in toxic relationships myself and looking back, I was only holding on the something that wasn’t there in the first place because I was so scared to be alone. It definitely wasn’t love. Be patient with yourself. It’s a process. Don’t beet yourself up. When it’s time to walk away you’ll know. Only you know how much you can take. It’s a brave and courages step. I feel you are already on your way ... 😊!

[FearIsALiar in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much! It seems like such a long process 😞 how did you cope when you got out of the toxic relationship?

[AnxM]

Thank you! I will save your post because it's what I need to do.

I'm a hoarder of bad experiences. I cling to all the bad mistakes I have made. I turn them over and over in my mind, asking myself how I could be so stupid, how I can live with this. I hurt myself over and over again, reliving these things. I don't know why these horrible experiences are getting so much more attention than the good ones.

[Hidden in reply to AnxM]

My heart goes out to you. I know the feeling. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves. That’s why we believe we don’t deserve any good things coming our way. It’s hard to let that believe go but it’s possible with a little help and guidance. It’s a lot easier to take on things instead of letting go and clearing out what no longer serves us. It also a process. Maybe try and see if you can take small baby steps. Start letting go of something. Starts a start. Even if it’s only something small. But first you need to let go of the believe that you are not enough the way you are. It’s an inner process more than an outer one but they go hand in hand. ❤️

[AnxM]

Thank you! I appreciate your encouraging words.

[Hidden in reply to AnxM]

You are so welcome! You got this! 💗

[stoiclover]

But how do we find our higher true selves?Wonderful post here its exactly what I am dealing with now. Patience is a high virtue I am told. Why cant we treat ourselves like we treat others

[RupertBrown]

I don't know much about higher true selves, but boy, do I know about not letting go. There was trauma in my childhood, and through the reading I've done on it, I see how even your own body and it's chemistry work against you. Sometimes there are actual physiological impediments to letting go and working through them is a struggle. Your post hit home and was needed, thank you.