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Hey to all of my wonderful great people out there i truly hope, that you guys are staying safe, happy and blessed. This is for all of my fantastic, people that are in a long term, committed relationship, thats, happily married and the ones who are single and looking for love like myself. A while ago, i made a post about my first love this was back in the year 2000 i was 17. We made the choice to go our, seprate ways, after i found out she was going out of town for college, and i stayed in my home town for college. I been on a quest to find love ever sense, i dated women every now and then, but thats all it was. Do you have someone or do you have the dream that you will, eventually meet a person that will sweep you off of your feet. Somene, who make you feel butterflies in a good way when they come around you. Someone that is a shooting star in your heart. Someone if you are having a tough dark time in your life they come around and lighting you up, like a beautiful spring day. Do you feel like they are your oxygen, do you feel like life, could be, an absolute nightmare without them in your life. Someone who you dont ever have to worry about if they are cheating. You know they have your heart, you know they cherish it and value it. Someone who you share your, deepest emotional secrets with. Someone who makes your entire day full of joy, and happiness just by hearing there voice. Someone who will always uplifet you and will never put you down or belittle you. I wish i had a woman like that man life can get really lonely sometimes. So how would my dream girl look? Well love is blind i dont judge people on there weight, height or ethnicity its all about her personality. What are your thoughts and feeling on beening in love. Leave me a comment, and lets get the conversation going. God bless you all✌

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Mine would be amazing I dream of the ring and a forever hubby.. Love and kind hart guy.

Who is grate fun love is about having fun dating should be fun :)

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Mratl83 in reply to Mia898

I agree you is a lovely great kind hearted lady you deserve, nothing but the very best.

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I hope I will have the very best 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

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Mratl83 in reply to Mia898

You will i hope this guy is good enough for you. Because you is a one of a kind great woman.

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He is I am sure he will not rip my heart out . I think we could join for life ...

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Mratl83 in reply to Mia898

Well i hope that he dont rip your heart out, because then he would have to answer to me😂😂

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He wont he would not .. I think he knows better .. He may rip my heart out with his mental health but I can cope :)

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Mratl83 in reply to Mia898

Well everything will be ok with you guys. You are both great people it was meant for you guys to be together.

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Thanks and lets hope :) 🤞😍

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Yeah everything will work out fine with you friend.

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I hope and we both deserve the best life ever and happiness :) :) :)

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Mratl83 in reply to Mia898

I agree you are very nice, and very kind you should never get your heart broken, you dont, deserve that.

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I think I am smarter and wiser than any games re getting heart broken . Things you find out no one would I would find out .. I am grateful to be able to tell when someone is acting...

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Mratl83 in reply to Mia898

I agree you are very smart and very intelligent. Im glad that you have the ability to protect yourself, and your heart.

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Brig57 in reply to Mratl83

love it

I was only in love once and I loved the feeling. Until I found out she was a lying cheating skank that is.

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Its been a while brother whats going on? Im sorry that happen to you man. I know how you feel bro i been cheated on before, and its a uncomfortable feeling thats stays with you a long time.

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Not much going hbu

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Man im hanging in there bro i cant complain. Did you make it home safe from your friends the other night?

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Yeah I was so wasted I didn't realize I was home

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Wow man thats crazy just be careful bro.

I fell in love and unfortunately we had a disagreement about his ex hanging around a lot and we are not talking. Sad.

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Mratl83 in reply to Luna_Child

Hey friend i love talking to you. But i hate to hear that happen to a good person like you. I once dated a woman a while back, she said she came from the club one night and went to her males friend home, she said they were both drunk. She claimed nothing happened but i wasn't buying it i ended the relationship.

We got along great and even though it's a weird situation to talk about I miss this person a lot. Said person stubborn and although I apologized they won't. Too prideful

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Mratl83 in reply to Luna_Child

Well theres noting wrong with missing someone at all, theres noting weird about that. The lady who i told you about i miss her, even though it was wrong and hurtful how she did me. But she was still a very nice person.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

That's nice of you to say. You didn't deserve that

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Mratl83 in reply to Luna_Child

Thanks for that friend. You surely dont deserve what happen to you neither. Im afraid to give my heart to a woman because i dont want that painful, pattern to repeat itself with me.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

Never give up even though you're afraid. You'll find the one. You're an awesome guy. Just take your time and get to know them.

I hate this whole situation and I truly tried but there's only so much someone can do to try to reach the other person emotionally

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Mratl83 in reply to Luna_Child

Yeah i agree sometimes you try your best to make everything better between you, and someone else. But people act really funny like you owe them. When all we are trying to do is a least be friends with them.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

Yes the phone said person won't pick up, very stubborn, can be demanding and knows it however there's an amazing side to this friend who 2 weeks later still won't pick up the phone after saying I love you ...how does one read that? We had a disagreement over his ex hanging out a lot with him and I kept asking about it seemed kind of strange.

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Mratl83 in reply to Luna_Child

Yeah that is really strange why is he hanging out with his ex. If i was dating someone i would not be out with my ex in public or my place. I might talk to her on the phone every now and then, but that would be it. At least the guy can answer and let you know that hes ok. Its just so wrong on every, level in the book, how hes behaven.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

Yes exactly. I was pushed aside badly for his ex. Very rude and demanding.

How much more do I try I gave him space I have to just give up. If he wants me he knows where to find me

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Mratl83 in reply to Luna_Child

Yeah i agree with you, at least he can be a real man and answer and let you know where he stands. As a man its really embarrassing sometimes how these guys behave. My dad always taught me dont run from a situation be a man and face it. Hes acting like a kid.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

Yes exactly for a man his age he's acting like a child. He won't pick up the phone. I think he enjoys me calling. I stopped for a while and tried today but I can't continue this. This is CRAZY and someone else will treat me like a lady. When he's ready he will call and I won't be on the other end.

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Yeah you are so right about that. You deserve noting but to be treated like the wonderful great good warm hearted person that you are. Yeah that might be the case with him, if he get any, enjoyment out of a great woman thats trying to reach out to him, and hes siting back just watching you call, with no empathy, then hes a little off is rocker. Hes definitely acting really weird.

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Yes exactly he's sitting back no empathy watching the phone pick up and go into voicemail. My heart's hurt from this before. He cares about himself then he says he loves me. If you love someone aren't you supposed to show it?

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Yeah its really heart breaking that you are going threw this. I know how you feel, having deep feelings for someone, and things take a turn for the worse, thats a painful feelings. I wish i could just turn those painful thoughts, off like a light switch, when im in love with someone and they are acting really funny. But it takes time to get over someone who you really care for. One good thing about life, people will show you there true colors they will let you know who they really is inside. Sometimes people action speak louder than words.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

Very true their actions speak volumes over words

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Yeah this guy is being a real jerke, he have know idea how good of a devoted person that he have thats trying to make things work. He will definitely, regret it. You never know how good you had it, untile its gone.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

Thank you and that's true. Once I decide time has run out he won't be able to reach me. What gets me is the I love you words. I take those seriously and he I thought did too. How can you so simply avoid saying I'm sorry as I requested because a disagreement takes 2. I apologized. Obviously that meant nothing. I asked for an apology for some words he said that were nasty and he refuses. I really must be CRAZY. Time to move on.

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Mratl83 in reply to Luna_Child

Yeah its just wrong how this man is treating you. I agree love is a very serious word, people like you and myself take those words very seriously. But some people use that word like you use the word hello. Love dont mean, anything to some people in this world. You are right not everyone is out for your money are what you got in your pocket. I would date and fall, in love with a woman if she works at McDonald's, or if shes the CEO, of Lifetime movie net worth. Love is, blind love have no appearance, at least in my, personal opinion.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

Very serious

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Yeah i wish people, wouldn't play around with people hearts. Geting your heart broken is a painful feeling.

I have to stop trying I feel like a damn fool

I have never been in love and I know that at my age, it's never going to happen. There is no holding out hope for me, I'm old and I know that no one will want me. I hope that you have more luck.

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Hey alonensad and thank you so much for your response. Im so sorry that you feel that way, in my personal opinion theres someone out there for everyone no matter your age or your appearance. You are valued in this world there is someone, out there that would love you to pieces.

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alonensad in reply to Mratl83

That's sweet but it does not happen at my age. I have never been on a date, no one wants a 46year old who has no friends or job. I really hope you find your love.

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Not having a job with know friends dont make you a undesirable person. It still dont mean that you want find love. Im pretty sure you are a really great person. You are not old at, 46 your life is just beginning.

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Luna_Child in reply to alonensad

I'm 57. My love has past.

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Luna_Child in reply to Mratl83

Very true

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Mratl83 in reply to Luna_Child

Thanks alot

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Luna_Child in reply to alonensad

I don't think you're ever too old to fall in love. Whether you're 60, 70, 80, 90,

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alonensad in reply to Luna_Child

That's something you can tell a nineteen year old who has never been in love, it's not reality for a 46 year old who has never kissed anyone. I know you are trying to be helpful and I thank you for your kindness but it's not going to happen for me.

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Luna_Child in reply to alonensad

I guess maybe I'm old fashioned.

Hey alonensad, never say never!!! You also have to try to put yourself in some social situations, but I know right now with the coronavirus pandemic going on that online is where it's at!!!

I'm not outgoing and online is not a good place for me. But thank you for being so kind.

Hello and salutations Mrat, and also to anyone else on here reading this! Great topic!!! So my thoughts on being in love? Hmmmm. It's so easy to fall in love with someone, put them on a pedestal, and then get disappointed. Some people believe in having a soul mate. I don't know about relationships lasting forever anymore. I'm 50 now ( ugghhh). I was with someone for a long time and it was very painful for me to break away from him, but I think I did the right thing. I can see how difficult it must be for people to split up who have children. And love is all well and good, but I also believe it's really important to have yourself together financially. You don't want to be getting serious with someone who has a lot of debt, and then you get married to them and you take that on and that's a set up for problems down the road. And I believe in honesty and knowing what you're getting into. I miss romance though. Some of the culture now and songs I hear, everything is so out there. Is there really dating anymore or is everyone just casually hanging out??? Well, there's my thoughts for the moment.

Hey friend and thank you so much for your response. I tell you all of the time how much i injoy talking to you. Thank you so much for the complement, on my post, you surly always put a big smile, on my face. I know how you feel, i definitely can relate i was with someone for a while and it was really hard, for me to break away from them aswell. You are so right i think people should have there self together financially to. One of the major keys to a down the heal marriage that leads to divorce is money issues. Bringing debt in a relationship is a bad thing. Yeah you have a point, i think that people are just hanging out, they are not really dating. Couples these days spend more time, on there cell phones then each other, so sad.

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Okay... I’ll try my best to answer my thoughts. I’ve been up for a while so bear with me. 😂😂😂

To add to the financial stuff... You’ll be surprised at what kind of baggage and financial woes people have.

These things never out weigh being in love. Being financially independent is very hard, living within in ones means is hard as well. Like everything in life, moderation and discipline (with money and many other things) happens with people who are organized and have the means to make mistakes. Sometimes with many people, a mere mistake can upset someone’s entire world like not being able to pay off debt or just allowing themselves to get into debt in the first place. People come from differences all around us, marriage, divorce, kids, and truly most people are just in debt.

That said, being in love to me is something that happens in early years, the butterflies, longing to spend every spare moment with that person. You spend time getting to know each other, hopefully a lot longer than a few months, then it becomes a partnership, unconditional love and acceptance of each other flaws and all. As the relationship progresses perhaps into marriage, there are stages life, you grow together, you both have differences and some things will always just be differences....being accepting or finding a happy medium is key. Being able to accept and not change, you know, somethings in life just ‘are’.

Anyhoo, I’m married 23 years, I adopted his debt, his problems, you name it. I wasn’t in debt but I had a world of problems centered around what was the beginning stages of depression and anxiety mostly centered around my childhood and parents. Fast forward, I dealt with, pushed aside, or what I call having to make hard choices but we are better today for it, grew closer rather than apart... communication in a marriage is the number 1 thing you must have above all else. Without it, break down happens, resentment, grudges, anger, you name it and it’ll grow like a cancer. So keep this in mind.

You’ll find love or it will find you. I married a complete opposite of myself when years before that I was looking for someone that basically mirrored myself and they all failed. We are both lucky, but it’s not really luck. Luck is just good planning really. It’s mutual respect and acceptance of each other. Establish who you are (your core values, life’s set of standards you live by) and set boundaries when you meet people and stay true to yourself, the right person will come. 💜🌺

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Hey friend and thank you so much for you response. First of all i want to really, congratulate you on a 23 year marriage thats, great thats an absolute blessing. You guys had your ups and downs but you came together,and got threw it. Thats the true definition in my personal opinion of what love is. It just warms my heart to hear great stories like yours it really gives me hope that hopefully, in the future, eventually i would find true love. Everytime we speak i end up feeling much better about myself, you always keep me motivated.

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( my mother was soo unpleaseant and such a george patton loud bossy generalish.......and soooo not aesthetic) that people who compare themselves models leave me ..........they look great to us. but they torture themsellve s that they dont look like some mmmmovie star or whateve................we still melt with them ...they just dont konw it or hear ti.........

god........wooooooooooonderfulllllto finally have somene talk about such things...io alwasy have a mmiion thougths and questions but who to ask...im just a horse guy .....bravooooooo

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Mratl83 in reply to Brig57

Hey brother i missed you its been a while im so glad to hear from you. I try my very best to make a post that everyone can relate to so we all can come together and have good conversations. Thank you so much for the complement i really appreciate that.

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when i post...sometimes im off..............(ur not) sooo i just like to tell us...wow sooo nice to discuss this esp as i get soooo tired of people speaking for us men....all men want swim suit models or or ororor

hey!!!!!!! nooooooo offense.......ddont speak for me cuzz that!!just aint soo..........

we can go mad.............and melt with the kindest of woman..............its isnt hthe dimeensions...................its the heart just like u say.......noooooone listens .....noooo one............finallly......u say it.......................man...................right

arm!!!!!!!!!..... heres to great .....................relationships ..........its soooo not dimeansions....its personalllity ............ure in the treenches 365.........better get along and have the same values etc.............................soooo good to be freinds..................great feelliiig to be freinds or soul mates.................finally someone gets ti.................thank UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUu

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tone....has a lot to do wth it.........................crows v golden retrivers or song birds.....u know.....nice and kind all treh time .....

makes i tvery easy to get along with them....thank u soooooo much

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i think we liek to please.....song birds mch easier that crows....they are nnever happy

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( i want to make someone feel very special....tahts whats it is for me.......want the roomance the emtoinal bond......the relationsihhp.......)))

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Yes i feel the same way i want to make someone feel special i want the romance and emotional bond in a relationship aswell.

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man....i soooo hear that in u........we looooooooove to pleasse...make a woman feel special...onluu would get it................its like ...............nothign else..................yep.....................that bond.................that steady steady bond......who wants ti to end..................not....................mee thanks brother u just made my century......

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Yes i would do what ever it takes to comfort and make a woman happy, women are so amazing but finding that special one who you can genuinely connect with is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

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( iwas being pretty neg annd bitter and didnt want to poist in fainress to ppeopel here..)

Personally- and im very shy about this.....im about the closeness and bond.....myy ex was emotionless and cold.....one hug in 15 years......not attracted to men....she said.....

now......bfffffffff is a must.......compatabilty a super must.....chemistry and kind woman who hears..............how i feel about her.....(i love u are just words....ya but what is the behavior dooooiiig ).........apprecaites the thought...hears the thought and not a crow but a soulmate........the inside...............the outside i dont care about .......how are they to get along with....in the treenches................dailly for forever.....better bffffff firstr and of course thats two ways...i better be kind and considerate and try to make her** feel special and not taken for granted........take care a nd value good cooomuincation good hearing each other....emotional closness................the bond and emotional closeness.............compatablity.........yes im a big romantic ......love it when a woman feels sooo happy and soooo special man that is to die for........want taht to keep going forever...................my last lady friend was four or five long yeears ago......no twig.......iike i cared ................like i cared................she was sooo loviing of her elderly mother and sooo kind to people and let me sit next to her and hold her hand....not the tinniest bit of meanness or entittlement......................still greive for her.................utimately thankful she found a good man...........but yes the bond the bond thoe bond the bond....never goes awaay........................the emtoiinal closeness.............and sympatico........wonderful issue............butr freinds first................see that way it goes on and on and on and on.......like having ice tea oo the porch inthe south...................boy do they know what they are dooinng...................make it laasssstt .........

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Mratl83 in reply to Brig57

Brother you made some excellent and valued points which i absolutely agree with every single word that you said. Im so sorry that your ex treated you so mean and cold one hug in 15 years as good kind and caring as you are you surely didn't deserve that unfair behavior from her. Compatibility is most definitely a must mix that in with chemistry its always nice to have a kind none judgemental woman who you can trust and that will have your back threw thick and thin. Thats true i love you is just words but actions speaks way more louder you is so right about that. Im very romantic myself i love making women happy and puting a smile on there face. Im so sorry about your last lady friend i truly know how it feels to grieve a good woman but like you perfectly pointed out im also glad that she found a good man. A really good companion is very hard to find these days but i strongly believe that good guys like us always eventually find the love of my life at the end.

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brother- u are what i missed......see...........i know that your lines....are a synopssis of what u feel and think....we both do......i can talk to u and u will get it....

i was trying to igve the reason without being too unkind....she wasss very hard on my son .....a real sscreamer...and hittter........but.........not totallyher faalllut......her mother used to scream at her about the house grwoong u and haad no relatiohhos with a man til 40.....sooooooooo .......and her father was very laaege- 2qbout 400 pounds sooo i think she never b onded or related to or wanted to be with men clossely.......(snugglling....) she was beint obedient to uer upring .........i need the kindness both ways in a realtiiihsop now.......ur a greart lisener and a great hellpps thank u soo much

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the worst was how my familly hated me for divorcing her....my mtoher and sisters always go to defend the woman..............women can do nooooo wrong to my mtoher.....always the men ....always do everyhting wron g in the world...women never fight its the men...blah blaah blah ...women can do no wrong......................my wife was jeckle and hyde.....my pooor son....my sisters called me a coward how i run away from my problems...............nto remootely true....i did try everhitn i could thnkkk of to pelase her..............

the husband automaticall at falutl ....sure sometime......but not every time all the time...........

thank man .....take care

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Mratl83 in reply to Brig57

If i can do or say anything to put a smile on your face or make your day alot better you can always count me in thank you so much for your great compliment i really appreciate that. That makes perfectly good sense it seems to me that her upbringing was not the best she probably grew up not feeling loved there for she didn't have love to give to a man because she felt empty inside as a kid. Thats a excellent point that you made she was living the lifestyle that she was brought up. Im with you i need the love and kindness in a relationship both ways myself.

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booy....what an ear........complements man ...wow

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(had a really hard time accepting that my family or anyone llkes my art......finallly turnig the corner) ....and of course....finding anyone any kind of any pen pal.....impsoslble ..hate commplainnng.....start sendign myself letttrtes aagain........

good to find a brother man.....miss the comradaarie fo the old days...than ks amiiiiion....

hey- i so hope u find the one if u havent already.....bet ud kknock yourself out to spoiil her....

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( i miss having somenne to take care of...be nice too)

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Brig57 in reply to Mratl83

agree 100001010 percent ...so welll said.

I think at my age and all the wrong turns I've made, I've given up on love and now it's my time to think about me . Learning to love myself and have my own life and not live my life though other people . I wish you the best of luck tho and hope you find what you are looking for .

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Mratl83 in reply to 2Grandmar

Hello there 2Grandmar and thank you so much for your response. Thats an amazing and excellent point that you made which i absolutely agree. We most definitely have to learn to love ourselves first and foremost before we love someone else. Thank you so much for wishing me the best of luck i truly appreciate that i wish you peace and happiness for the rest of your life because you surely deserve it.

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2Grandmar in reply to Mratl83

Bless ya mratl83 . What a lovely reply, you to sound like you deserves to be happy and in love if this is what you desire . Take care my lovely 🙂

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Bless you to my friend thank you so much i really appreciate that. You take care aswell and stay strong.

yes,,,,,,ui agree sonething about the fair.......whatever......who knows..............mysteryy of life ..yes...hard to find.....the right fit ...hard to get a dial tone for me....ha ha hahh....well fo course the horses keep hidding the phone all overl............those scamps..........play with dad....

biiiiiiiiiiig help partner.......

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do they like the bad boys and im too vanilla????lol .......whooooo kknoowws.........

youtu.be/sSlLNSWAXpo

just sharing for allll of us.......take care special freinds..and thank u

youtu.be/BsBY722rb2M

take care alll....thanks for letting me share

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Thank you so much brother that means alot i love both songs.

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