I dont want 2 help myself nemore

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself]

I feel so lonely. I fink alot of it is due to my lack of self respect and self care. It creates a deeper sense of helplssnss within me. I think i need to care for miself betta in order to feel more conected to myself and others but i feel like such a lost cause and get so demotivated. I feel defined as a bad person for the mistakes ive made in life and how others have viewed me and i just dont want to try any more. I feel like i have no oportunitys anyway to make anyfing of myself i.e to travel, have a family, learn something new. Everywhere i go i feel like my past folows me. I know i shud try but im just fed up. I have never been the kind that would hurt anybody but i can now sympathise more with how some go and live a life of crime when they feel hated by society. Its hard to feel able to do good things when we feel doors closed at every turn and that noone believes in us anyway. I wouldnt do it but i get how some may feel thats the only opshun.

[Hidden]

Get a carer, I think to help you with daily living and get you out and about

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to Hidden]

I need some sort of help. I just feel like i have no motivation. If i could aford 1 i wud

[Hidden in reply to FeelSoBadAboutMyself]

Get in touch with doctor and see if you can agree on few hour? Or is it social services in account of mental health problems?

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to Hidden]

Ive done all of that before. Im discharged now. I told them i wasnt good but they didnt believe me

[Vickyjean]

I care about you even though I don’t know you but I can relate to your feelings and I want to let you know so many of us feel that and don’t say it. It may be different times in our lives but the ones who been through it to get through it will give you hope and the ones who are going through it will let you know you are not alone.

Keep sharing...it’s a way to heal.

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to Vickyjean]

Thank u, thats nice to read

[Vickyjean in reply to FeelSoBadAboutMyself]

You are welcome and I mean it. Is there something else you would like to talk about? I am here for you.

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to Vickyjean]

Youre a really kind person Vickyjean thank you. MyIm not really good at talking when im down. My head is so messy, but u make me feel comforted just for being so kind. So thank u

[Vickyjean in reply to FeelSoBadAboutMyself]

Just relax and when you feel like sharing or not that is ok. You are very special. I am here for you.

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to Vickyjean]

You are a nice person. i like u 😊. My device is on 5% so jave to go soon

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to Vickyjean]

Before I go thank you for making mw feel better by caring about me. I really appreciate your genuineness 🙂

[Vickyjean in reply to FeelSoBadAboutMyself]

You are so welcome and thank you for telling me that, it helps my heart grow such happiness. I am here for you anytime. Have a beautiful evening or morning.

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to Vickyjean]

Im sorry that im not gd socially. i just dont always know what to say

[MasterofDisaster3]

I can't even begin to count the number of times I've wanted to give up on myself. But something or someone always comes along to convince me otherwise for the time being. I feel like even when I really do actually want and try to make my life better something always comes along to ruin my mood and bring me back down to my dark place. I understand and I would love to help.

[judiama]

First...I hope you are in therapy. These people on this website are some of the most amazing folks I have met. I have a daughter who has extreme anxiety issues so now you know I am her Mom and just really needed some non judgemental support and I have received that. My daughter hs made many choices I neverwould have. This has not made me love her less...she is the most loving caring person I know. She accepts anyone the way they are. I know that therapists tell you look in the mirror and tell yourself all the good things you have done. Can you do that? It is scary I know. Write those things down thendo it. If you want you can write them here and let me seethem and do not say you haven't done any I will never believe that! Just for the record I suffer from depression and minoranxiety because of two things I have done. I have blamed myself for adding these to my daughter's list of reasons she has the anxiety. It isn't true but I have still done that. So my affirmations are that yes those things happened while she has so much to handle but they re not the cause. I see on a reply below this some one says get a career that would be good anything outside of your home is good. If you can't do that right now...don't sweat it. You can make these guys pat of your family...they are awesome! Not all things can be taken care of here...please find some one anyone there by youis good. There are no charge support groups everywhere. And there will be support here on this site. Let me know how you are doing...keep talking, people care! I know I do.

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to judiama]

Thank you for that kind reply. I really appreciate it. It means alot 🙂.

I dont know about telling myself all good things Ive done. I find it difficult to do - not because I cant name any but because it just feels egotistical. I would feel embarassed 'blowing my own trumpet'.

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to FeelSoBadAboutMyself]

I have been given similar advice to remind myself of my good qualities though. That has helped alot to think I may be actually worth something. Maybe I should practice that more 🤔

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to FeelSoBadAboutMyself]

I am really grateful that you and your daughter are not judgemental people too so thank you for that. I dont judge anyone either and accept people as they are. 🙂

[judiama in reply to FeelSoBadAboutMyself]

I get that..it is tough to start. Is there one thing you do that is not for yourself but for others that you can start with. I believe you should blow your trumpet but you are not in that place yet and there is nothing wrong with that. It can be something you do every day..anything! Just look in the mirror and say it. After I got hurt i hated needing people to take care of me so mine was as simple as I got up washed and ot dressed. It has grown to I take care of my yard, I do laundry and I cook and keep my house cleaned up. These were silly things I have done all my life but it took time to get back there. You came here and put yourself out there doing it and that is huge! People here will give you any support they can. Tell your self your good qualities every day. I have no doubt you are worth something moe than likely lots of somethings. Keep doing this and let me know how you are doing

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to judiama]

Thank you for your kind comments. I like that you have pushed yourself within realistic limits. Thats great as it prevents us from getting overwhelmed. And you grew to do EVEN MORE things too! Thats a great way of approaching life. I will DEFINITELY bear that advice in mind thank you 😊

[judiama in reply to judiama]

And now you have another thing to add to that list you have made my day! And one day soon I hope you can tell yourself that confidently and you can send a reply telling me you have done it. There is nothing I would love to hear more. You are a reat loving person who has hit a bad spot but that won't stop you. I love to hear from you anytime.

[pink318]

Hi- I’m sorry to hear that you feel so lonely. You have mentioned that you are not really good at talking when you are down. Try to write it down in your journal, it’s like talking to a friend. Feel free to share here, it’s the start of healing.

In my experience, it’s difficult sometimes to share my feelings to others because of the fear of being judged but I learned that it’s important for the healing process. It’s also important that before I talk to someone, I have to make sure that I can trust the person. This support group is very helpful and you can learn from others’ experience.

You also mentioned that you are not good socially. My daughter’s friend is an introvert, she feels awkward when she is around people and it bothers her. My friend encouraged her to join a life group to help her to boost her confidence and it worked. I hope you can get the help you need. Praying for you. Please keep us posted, we are here for you.

[FeelSoBadAboutMyself in reply to pink318]

Thank you very much for this. Yes, I think writing is good. I used to do it alot but stopped. Ive started again recently. That was really good for me. It really helped me understand myself better and how i have been feeling. It feels like a release to all the overwhelming feelings to just get something down on paper. Thank you for reminding me of that.

Im still working on sharing my feelings with others. That can be overwhelming but Im always honest if Im asked how I am. Its just the 'reaching out' thats hard.

Im really glad your daughter's friend is doing better now too 😊