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Its so hard to complete even the most basic tasks from house hold items to just even brushing my hair or teeth I just feel so unmotivated to do it. I feel so lonely like no one will understand that I don't want to wash or change my clothes I don't have the energy. I have so many guilt/shame etc emotions regarding it.

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I am so sorry that you are going through this.

You are not alone.

I, for one, are right there with you.

I am also grieving 2 losses while living alone during Covid.

I feel so lonely.

Please message me anytime if you need to chat.

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I am so sorry for your loses.

Its such a difficult time for everyone.

I don't want to be alone thats the worst part.

Thank you for your kind words

I hate depression. It just robs the will power and motivation right out of me. Taking a shower is like climbing Mt Everest.

And the feeling of isolation is horrendous. Just know that we understand here how it feels. And even though it may feel like it, you’re not alone.

The feelings of melancholy and sadness are terrible too. Sometimes I can’t care enough to even cry anymore.

I just try to take it a moment at a time and do what’s in front of my nose. And be gentle with myself. And I hope for a light at the end of the dark tunnel while I’m going through it.

With professional help and meds mine has become somewhat manageable for the time being. Here’s hoping for better times for you.

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Yes I totally hear you about having a shower is like climbing a mountain. Sometimes the feelings of sadness / confusion or what ever am I feeling like I don't even know. I don't even want to be "happy" anymore I just don't want to feel like this. I am taking meds the dr gave me but still exploring the options. Its like I'm drowning in fresh air.

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I understand.

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Thank you

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Try thinking pampering.

Less task oriented and more of a therapy to "help" you boost up.

I love eucalyptus aroma therapy. Helps!

So do long walks and runs♡♡♡

It's almost like my body can't help but perk up when I am actually exhausted.

Empowering music helps!

You can do it.....little moments of self care.

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I can't go outside can't bring myself to do it to anxious and other things in the way.

Its hard to care for yourself when you don't like yourself.

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I have pandemic dreads on very long white girl hair! It was not on purpose!

So..... I get it! I couldn't do much of anything.

So I kick my own butt and self deprecate while doing something productive. Like walking....or gardening.

Maybe start small and open the windows to the max! Or just sun salute!

The trick is to think small.

P.s. you seem likeable to me! You're here! You started the ball rolling!

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Thank you this is me trying this is my small thing for the day we will see what 2morro brings.

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Sorry I do not like drugs of any kind so won't be going down that route.

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I don't want prescriptions....so I smoke astronomical amounts to attempt to (what I presume) to be balancing my dopamine.

But walking helps.

I have OCD so of course I am obsessed with it...like multiple walks a day now running but its always to brutal death metal! Lol

We all cope differently!

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I love heavy metal music one of the things I still can enjoy. But we are all just trying to get through.

You’re not alone! I completely understand what you’re feeling in terms of utter loss of motivation to do daily tasks. It’s so hard to even care about eating. Sometimes I feel like even breathing is so hard.

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Yes panda I agree sometimes even blinking or just moving is so difficult. I have also experienced the breathing to hard feelings aswell. Its like the life is sapped out of you.

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Definitely. I’m sorry you’re not doing well. I wish there was something I could do to help! Do you have family that you can lean in these times?

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I have no family (can't be trusted long story) or friends just me and my thoughts. Thanks for yr comments Panda.

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I’m so sorry to hear that. Even though we’re not there with you in person, we’re here for you!

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Thank you Panda its appreciated

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Yes! Getting through ....with the help of Superjoint Ritual. I walk like lightning!

You are certainly not alone. I’m finding it hard to cook, do dishes, exercise, or keep my place tidy. I’m falling behind on work projects and tasks and I’m walking around daily, stuffing my emotions and feigning that everything is ok. I keep reminding myself that the depression is merely a symptom, or a part of me and those symptoms do not define me. I know I am a beautiful person inside and out which is my true self. Thinking about it that way, we no longer have to feel that guilt or shame. We can normalize our experiences and we can get through this. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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