I am terrified of abandonment

[thechae]

I noticed that I got triggered by my boyfriend telling that I’m always paranoid and worried about him exiting my life. I know this has been an consistent issue in most of my relationship. Why can’t I just let this one go? Why am I always worried about someone leaving?

[Ladyred27]

I feel you. It has worked for me to analyze my life, find the root of the thoughts and feelings I have. In couching I learned that there are speeches in my head that were installed at some point in my life. In my case my fear of abandonment comes from my father's abandonment. It may help to ask yourself: who was the first person to make you feel abandoned?