Depression and Anxiety and Children

[Shimmer93]

For those of you that deal with depression and/or anxiety and are parents how do you do it? Most of the time I do not want to get out of bed and that makes me feel even worse that I am not spending time with my daughter. If I do get out of bed I am so on edge and it's just not good for either of us. Just lost at this point

[FoxyLove2020]

I feel you. I'm always on edge and after a break I realize I was very rude to him and I didn't have to be about whatever it was.

Don't give up though! Just remember to deep breath, it's okay to not be 'perfect' and know no matter what that people have your back and your daughter will always love you <3

[JkBrauer]

I remember when my kids were little and I was always on edge. I learned that I had to make a conscious effort. I had to make myself a plan for when I would feel this way, I had to make an attitude check on myself. What is making me feel this way? Am I really being selfish and only thinking of myself? What can I do to change my attitude?... So, I came up with this saying; "I have to make time to take time." - The first thing in the morning is always my best time of day. When I wake up, before I get out of bed, I choose my day, my attitude. For it is going to set the tone of my day. -This is what I say before I get out of bed in the morning; "Good Morning Father, thank you for giving me this day, whatever it may bring. Help me to be grateful today." Then I get out of bed with a good attitude, even if I feel tired or have aches and pains...

[Dontstopbelieven in reply to JkBrauer]

This is very good advice. I have tried to work on a morning mantra in the past and found it very difficult. I’m struggling to put effort into it. When I was going through my major depression 6 months ago one of my coworkers sent me a plaque that says:

“In case you forget to remind yourself this morning… Your smile lights up the room, your mind is insanely cool, you are way more than enough, and you are doing an amazing job AT LIFE.”

The first time I read it in the back of my mind I thought of course she thinks that much of me because I am a very hard worker. Then when I read the very last part which actually is in caps I started to cry. Sometimes my negative self talk happens so often I stop listening to myself, I need to hear it from others. I hung it near my bathroom mirror where I would see it every day.

[JkBrauer in reply to Dontstopbelieven]

Keep up the great job! -Your doing good!