I need people to be harsh

[Scatteredtulips]

I notice how I tend to react and essentially take more out of conversations when someone is being rude and blunt to me. Like I would make my backgrounds positive quotes and reminders to always look at, and now I’ve just made it into “cut the shit, idiot.” Cause that’s how things always get after I overthink or get in a bad place and make big problems, my boyfriend who I am always having the arguments with just tells me to grow the balls to have a winners mindset and other things. But it’s aggressive and harsh and exactly what gets into my head. It’s how I’ve always been as a person. And I’m just realizing how beneficial it is for me..

Is that weird?

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Sorry dear, but you won't find that here. I do have just the guy for this, though. He was recently kicked off for the umpteenth time for being incredibly rude and disrespectful. I'll definitely send him your way if I see him again, though.🙂

[LostHashbar]

I know lots of people seem to like that sort of harshness, “it’s more honest”. Is it? I don’t respond well to it at all. Honest is not a synonym for brutal. I don’t like false praise either, but for someone to tell me that what I’m doing is “stupid” or “shyt” or a “waste of time” in a harsh way is not going to be a trusted source/friend/advisor for me.

[Scatteredtulips in reply to LostHashbar]

I understand that. And I just like the honesty like I get in my own way a lot, and I always ignore that. So when someone says like “you really need to get out of your own way or things will never get better”. Like it’s true and a slap to the face with reality. Not every likes or needs it that way and that’s just fine