My S.O. took a job about a year and half ago in a state 6 hours from where I live and he chose the job to be right here with two kids. I drive back and forth to make sure he gets to see me and our daughter and sometime he will come home. He has promised he was going to transfer and never has and yesterday we got into an argument about it and he said even if he did transfer he would come to see his kids on his off days which is understandable I’m not trying to keep him from his kids I never would but he basically gave me my answer yesterday when he said well what does it matter it will be the same if I stayed here cause I come home on my off days. Umm no he doesn’t I barely see him and I get that he’s got a great job but how is that fair to me? I’m his wife and when I’m home I’m always by myself and I always have our daughter and have to go to bed alone every night unless I’m here with him. I’m just tired of risking mine and my daughters life while traveling this 6 hour drive to make sure he gets to help his ex raise their kids and me with nothing. I made up my mind for divorce but I don’t have a job right now or someone to watch my daughter cause I have bad trust issues after my 3 child passed away. This is wearing out quick on me cause it’s B.S. I need advice cause I hate to throw my marriage away over this but at the same time it’s not right!!!
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Wow. So sorry to hear of your situation. I wish i had some majic words, but i am not married, have no kids, and dont have a significant other. Have you talked to a councilor or therapist? Do you have dep are anything? It helps to be treated if you do. But you need to find a therapist you like.
I do know that if you have depression, it makes things seem a lot worse than they are. I am not saying you arent in a crappy situation, but every little bit helps. Sometimes a lot of little helps is all it takes to clearly see where you are and where you want to go.
Also, therapy can help you learn more about yourself and give you tools that can help you get thru each day and make clear plans. It helps make you stronger.
Anyhow, there are A LOT of people with similar situations. Often coming to this site and seeing there are so many, in so many different situations, it helps me feel better knowing i am not alone.
Best wishes for your current journey and use this group for support. There are some really nice people here who want to help, even if it is just to listen.
Take care, give your daughter a hug from me!
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