interactions and relationships

[puppy242]

I'm frustrated trying to interact with my parents sometimes because they have this all or nothing thinking sometimes.

I'm frustrated being in my late twenties and living at home. My situation is not terrible. I get so discouraged because my dad will tell me I'm apart of the household yet someone I never met got to sleep over last night which I said made me uncomfortable.

So he made the final call anyway. Soo my brother (who doesn't live here) can invite people over without telling me AND they get to sleepover. the guy who slept over has a 3 bedroom house too.

Just going to Make a plan to move out. I hate to say my parents favor my brother but they do because he's not disabled with stupid bipolar 2.

[PastelPink20]

It’s tough to be older and have the responsibility but your parents still have this authority over you.

I am sorry you were out in a position you were uncomfortable with, just because you didn’t have the control over the situation. I hope you’re able to get a good nights rest and that you’re safe.

Idk, I’m in my twenties too and living at home. Things are more amicable with my parents recently. I don’t do sleepovers - I think that’s weird that your brother had one?

It’s good to plan for the future and be able to look forward to change! I hope you do get to move out relatively soon and that it’s adjustment will benefit you greatly. It’s hard when parents toil and end up resenting you over the things or how your mental health inconvenienced them. Even if they don’t mean to.

I hope you’ve had a better day since then.

💕💕💕

[puppy242 in reply to PastelPink20]

My brother is 20 ,and his friend is 22. They played video games pretty much all night (mortal kombat i guess?)

I don't know if "favor " is the right word since I was venting but I am tired of trying to, I guess do the right thing at home and things like this happen.

I know since my dad has this kind of like strict thinking towards me sometimes I guess It's like since I want to move out it must be like I'm rejecting him. But hoping he'll understand I just want to be able to make some decisions and try to be an adult. He said he would be able to help with some move out costs so that is a good start

My day is going better now. Thanks for replying.

[SuZQ154]

Glad life has been gong better. Sound like you are looking at the positive and negative aspects of your situation. That's wise and proactive! There is hope!

Living at home has its pros and cons. Sometimes it is wise to stay at home with parents because of the financial, emotional, and physical support, along with the family "bonds". In other countries, it is often common to have mutli-generational families living in the same house. It is becoming more common here too.

So when deciding whether or not to move out, a discussion with your family probably is best? What are your options if you would move out? Would you be able to have family counseling? Having someone who has an unbiased perspective and understanding of you and your family might help? Christian counseling has helped me a lot in the past!

Hope this helps and please know there is hope for a good future!

[puppy242 in reply to SuZQ154]

Thanks for the reply. Yes it's been a blessing and I'm grateful to be able to stay at home especially during these uncertain times.

I have a therapist and she's spoken to me about a family session. You've given me some things to think over too. Thanks kindly !