Does Anyone Else Get Triggered When a Well Known, Successful Person Dies by Suicide?

Camila Maries Concepcion who was a writer on the show Gentefied, died by suicide last week and I was reading about how smart (she went to Yale), successful (writing on a tv show by 28) and loved she was by so many people and she still died by suicide. I know it's wrong to compare myself to a complete stranger but when I see how amazing she was and how much of a nothing I am, it seems pointless to keep on going. I'm nearly twice as old as she was and haven't accomplished a damn thing, she had so many people who were in awe of her and I have no friends and nothing to show for being on this planet. It's extremely triggering and then I feel guilty because she was clearly in a lot of pain and I'm here whining about my own stupid life.

[Fireking1]

It always humbles me,it always amazes me that no matter where we come from,who we are or where we are going,the sadness can get to us all.We all have our own reasons or physicalities to feel this way ,its just how we manage it. Nobody who has anxiety and depression is weak,its just that this illness is powerful. It's all about trying to get the right help with the right people or medications and not trying to cope alone. Hence why this site is great. Never alone here.☺

[Hidden in reply to Fireking1]

Thanks for responding. No one with depression or anxiety is weak and it's argued that when a person dies by suicide it's much like dying from any other disease, that person lived as long as they could. I know it's irrational but I get very scared when I see people who have everything to love for, dying from something that I contemplate pretty much every single day. It's sick and wrong to compare myself to them but it's impossible for me to stop.

[Fireking1 in reply to Hidden]

You cant help but compare,our cunning anxiety makes us do that but our clever brains can sometimes in a moment of clarity,make us celebrate our differences. May I enquire if you do anything just for you?I seem to spend my life making sure others feel good and its habitual.But yesterday,for the first time in forever I went swimming.Now I'm not small by any means,I'm 44 and I have cellulite and anybody seeing me in a swimsuit would bring on all sorts of anguish!But I bit the bullet and went,the warmth I felt,even momentarily for doing it gave me that spark that was just enough for that day.Do you indulge in anything for you?

[Hidden in reply to Fireking1]

I go to the theater and ballet quite a bit, usually by myself but I can't imagine life without art so I take every chance I can to experience it.

[Fireking1 in reply to Hidden]

I too love theatre, it does transport you to a great place if a good production. That's great,I go to the cinema alone very often too. I think it's a great balance as you still have to get out the house but you have the comfort of just being on your own for a couple of hours.

[Hidden]

Yes, hearing of suicide at all triggers me. There are other things I do not like to hear about right now in my life also. Not watching the news and limit the programming I watch is one of the ways I can protect myself. But discussions, Flyers , banners, even Billboards are all over. ... if it’s not suicide it’s abuse... there’s always something there to mind me. ... even in a public restroom on the door. Where I live you see it everywhere. For me it is disconcerting. What about the victims? Or the people trying to have a good day and be happy they are alive and move past being suicidal and not fall backwards. Nowadays one should know how to get help. It’s all to easy. With technology the way it is. I wish the USA would at least give the victims a visual break... we see it enough on our own.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

It is difficult with a constant news cycle yelling in our ears to process all of it in a healthy way. I think we need to talk about these issues so that they are destigmatized enough to allow those suffering to seek help without shame but those of us triggered by this type of news need to have tools available to take care of ourselves. Not that long ago, the families of suicide victims would do everything they could to not have it listed as the cause of death for the shame they feared it would bring on them. That's wrong and I hope we have moved to a place of more compassion for the families of those who die by suicide as well as the victims of it and those who struggle with suicidal ideation.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for this way of seeing it.

[Want2BHappy3]

You don’t know what her life was like? Money and success does Not make you immune to Suicide. Most think why are they complaining about they have everything, Do They???

[Hidden in reply to Want2BHappy3]

No I did not know her but what gets me is that when I see all the success people can have and still succumb to suicide it frightens me. It makes me think that there is nothing out there to even strive for if it can't stop the ache inside of me. Like I said, it's irrational thinking and makes no actual sense but it happens to me every time I hear about a successful person dying by suicide. I just recently got out of a long depressive episode and something like this is often all it takes to push me back into that pit and I do not want to end up there so soon after getting out.

[Want2BHappy3 in reply to Hidden]

I get ya, I sometimes think man they had it all, You’re right success is what everybody strives for But sometimes I guess it gets so dark that you just can’t see your way out? They have money to obtain the best psychiatrist but somehow they can’t get through It? I used to wonder what it takes to get somebody to that point ? I had a brother and cousin who committed suicide back to back. Now I know because I’ve been there many times You mentioned the aching, it gets so bad that you just can’t stand it , sucide seems like the only way out ? I would never tell a psychiatrist that because in California there is a law where I could be institutionalized for up for 72 hours. I go back to counseling in about a couple of weeks I’ve been off medication for about six months and haven’t seen a counselor in about the same amount of time

[Hidden in reply to Want2BHappy3]

I hope it works out for you, it sucks that you can't discuss your feelings openly. Not all suicidal thoughts are concrete plans, sometimes they are simply terrible thoughts that one cannot get out of one's head.

[Want2BHappy3 in reply to Hidden]

I agree, it would be reported. On this website I can say what I want our Privacy is protected. The closest I came to saying anything was saying it crossed my mind Many Years ago or that god would decide it. I wish you the Best, thanks for writing

[Hidden]

Comparisons are fruitless but may be a reminder that you may not have so much fame or fortune in your life, but your life is still worth living, Everyone is a star in some way. Some achieve greatness and some have it thrust it upon them, but in the end being able to enjoy the simple things of life and feel pleased with what ever achievements you have made even if it is just tidying up or sorting out bills.

People can feel so low when an online friend disappears or a famous person who you have loved from afar takes their own life, so may be people get too much input which seem to trigger the same impulse to leave the planet. Keeping away from social media networks and stopping the maudlin overdrive might help the mental health of youngsters. You sound a caring person to me.

[Hidden]

First sweety you're not whining about your life. You have the right to vent and speak your mind here in a safe place. You have worth.

At first I was shocked by the rich and famous commiting suicide and after researching I realized they have a lot of problems like every other living breathing human.. sometimes more.. look at the substance abuse, the incidents of constantly going in treatment facilities time after time, the pressure to get work and make money to support their lifestyle..the more you make the more you spend..I would never trade my life for being a Hollywood celebrity ever!

I'm not triggered anymore I just know there's options for treatment..reaching out...everybody has had at least one thought of suicide and if they tell you otherwise they're lying ( being a Therapist. ). There are options it's just our depression and anxiety most times prohibits us from moving forward from our fears we have. I've realized in therapy that facing our fears does bring fear initially.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Metal illness is a great equalizer in that it affects people with no care as to their wealth or social status. Thanks for reading and responding so eloquently.

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