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Is there any point to life?

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I just want to go live in the woods with dogs like a hermit, secluded from everyone else. Or better still take the pistol to temple of my head and end it all. what in the world motivates people to form relationships and do the same mundane things?! This is beyond me.

I have started resenting people so much that if I didn't have a job I'd stay home all day trying to find ways to kill myself.

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I hope you are to move on from these thoughts. Very concerned for you.

If you’ve been in unhealthy relationships I can see why you feel so strongly the way you do. Heathly and loving relationships do exist, they have the same mundane stuff even single people do, but also as a couple you get to do fun stuff together as well.

We make choices to be happy. For me happiness is a state of mind, I truly hope you will get counseling for what you are going through.

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I've been in series of bad relationships where I was cheated on, gas lighted, manipulated, lied to. plus, I got involved with a girl who had a strong crush on me when I was in a relationship, naturally I didn't do anything then but after I broke up and started chatting with this girl, my ex manipulated me, threatened me that she can't live without me, which made me guilty as hell and I ended up letting her back into my life.

fast forward to after graduation from Uni, I started talking to this aforementioned girl and found out she was dating one of my friends from Uni. And now that she knows I'm in a desperate situation and that the tables have turned and I need her more than she does, she takes for granted and basically uses me for validation. Oh how life can flip 180.

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You need help. So sorry you are thinking along those lines, been there done that. I suffer from depression/anxiety to, it has a way of putting us in this hell hole. I would suggest as does RoxieDawn seek out a therapist, it is good to talk about how we feel, and what we think, our brains can run away with thoughts. Give yourself some time to heal, then when you are around people your thoughts will improve, yes there are difficult people out there, then there are some lovely people out there, but on the surface it is hard to tell. Find a support group where you live, I found those So helpful, ask your Dr. or check on line. Believe in yourself, love yourself, accept yourself for who you are, a special person with your own talents. Find a purpose, one thing I have done all my life is volunteer work, it is so rewarding.

Write to us here, we offer help, understanding, love and hugs.....Sprinkle 1.....

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I'm trying very hard. I swear life wasn't this bad for me. I used to be popular at one time now I'm reduced to a recluse loser. 😑

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NO Your are Not a looser. You are in a bad place with yourself, your brain is lying to you. One reason I ask you to find a good therapist, you need to talk, talk, talk, clear all this negativity out. It is like tackling a cupboard in your home that is full of unused thing that you have stuffed in there over time. Now it has to be cleaned out so you can use it, throw away anything of no use, etc., etc. Do not beat yourself up, my therapist told me decades ago "When there is no one around to punish You, You punish Yourself". He was so right, I started to de-clutter that day. It took a while (months) but I finally did it and became my own best friend, he taught me how to love myself, accept myself, forgive any mistakes I had made, we all make them, we are all only human. Be kind to yourself, made little steps, look back after a week and see any progress you have made.....I know you can do it, you had it once, it is in you, you need help getting it back. Talk to us here, we will help you, support you and offer You love and hugs.....Sprinkle 1.....

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Hello Avi.

I am concerned about you also. Please get yourself into therapy. Dealing with these relationships can be very difficult. It does bad things to your sense of trust, causes lots of hardache, depression and all that goes along with it.

It sounds like you are dealing with a toxic person or two and you need to educate and protect yourself from that kind of person. You need to learn to love yourself enough not to let them into your life. Reeling you back in is often part of their game. Look up on line toxic, drama people, manipulators ,etc.

I think you will find you have lots of company feeling angry and depressed, led on, deceived, tricked, etc.

Believe me you are not alone but you do have to resolve this within yourself.

Post, talk about it here too. We are here to help if we can.

Take care of yourself and put yourself first.

❤️

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That's precisely what is happening. After giving her several chances, I finally decided to move on. I haven't responded to ant of her 13-14 messages she sent after she took me for a ride.

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Look up narcissists and narcissistic abuse. Sounds like what you have encountered.

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I'm very aware of narcissistic behaviour. My whole family is narcissistic. But here's a thing, when you like someone you tend to give them benefit of the doubt, you tend to delude yourself into thinking that after forgiving for millionth time, this person would treat me better.

Narcissists are pathological liars and lie through their teeth. Gaslighting is one of narcissist's favourite weapons. They confuse us into thinking we're just imagining things and that we should be guilty for daring to accuse such perfect angels.

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Exactly. You seem to have a pretty good understanding of how they operate. Ive been through the wringer myself dealing with narcissists. They never change and they never treat you any better. You can have all the hope in the world for a different outcome, but they have a personality disorder and thats not gonna happen. Im learning to identify them, so i dont get involved with anymore of them, and as soon as i see any signs, i dont waste my time. Life is way too short and they can wreak havoc on your life for a long time if you let them too close. I understand what your going thru, as there are alot of narcs in my family also. Im trying to learn how to set strict boundaries with them, knowing i have to deal with them on some level. Its been one of the hardest lessons for me to learn to set boundaries with them. They thrive on exploiting people and my self worth and self esteem has always suffered. I was always given the message that my worth, was directly correlated with how much i could be useful to them. A hard internal message to change, but YOU are worth it.

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Hi Abi.

I know. They are very good at what they do and it is difficult to spot them. The more you understand the signs, the easier it gets. You should not feel guilty getting involved with one , just be determined to be aware and avoid them in the future. If someone is overly sweet, to me that raises a red flag.

Good luck in the future. Lots of us have been in your situation.

Try to feel all your emotions regarding this. I felt so let down, it took me quite a while to get over it. Go easy on and don’t blame yourself. We have to be cautious who we give our heart and our trust to.

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