Finding Comfort...

[Agnes14]

Hi There,

I’ve recently struggled with anxiety and depression. When I’m well my usual state is very relaxed, carefree, happy and I find it easy to take pleasure in the little simple things in life.

However, in this current state of depression I’m finding it so hard to just be. I’ve lost interest in the things I used to take comfort from. On days off I feel a bit at odds at how to occupy my mind and find some joy.

All the things I used to get pleasure out of just seem flat at the moment. Because I’m in a cycle of being anxious then low I know I need to be able to find some joys to help me move forward. But it’s hard when things feel like an effort and not as rewarding. Does anyone have any advice on how to find some comfort and joy?

[lillyofthevalley37]

Hi Agnes I read your back posts about your husband and a close friend - that happened to me once and it was the most intense emotional pain I have ever had it wasn't my husband it was a long term boyfriend and my best friend

this is the cause of your depression not a chemical imbalance in your brain so I don't see how sertraline can sort it for you but I know doctors prescribe sertraline wily nily to anyone who says they are depressed

I do see that you could use something to numb the pain but I don't think sertraline can do that it would be better if you had someone to talk to about what has happened to you in your marriage and all the feelings you have under the surface .

Your problem is adjusting to how different your life is now to the carefree life you had before and I think you need to sort out your feelings maybe a councillor or marriage councillor would be useful

[Agnes14 in reply to lillyofthevalley37]

Aw thank you.

Yes I’m seeing a therapist currently too. Had my second session yesterday which seems to help but just feels like everything is taking so long to get any comfort. I was doing ok for a few months and then I just hit a rock bottom, hence going to the doctors to get some help.

It is true. I do really miss the life I had before all this worry and pain. My husband has done nothing but prove himself to me now and is being the most supportive. And actually nothing physical or even verbal actually happened between them. But the shock and pain is still plaguing me. It’s hard to feel how I did before, happy and content when he wasn’t sure if he loved me anymore and thought he had feelings for her. I also miss the friendship. I just find myself constantly questioning every relationship in my life now and not being able to find joy anywhere 😔

[lillyofthevalley37 in reply to Agnes14]

I don't think there is an easy fix to this but you will get over it one day