Asking for any and all positive thoughts. They are for my daughter. Yesterday she found out her ex proposed to another girl. Of course it was all over social media as everything is these days. The ex cheated on her, lied about her and gave her an STD. All of this after he asked her father's permission to marry her. I slept very little last night knowing how hurt and upset she is. Even my husband was crushed. I know she deserves better. But she had always hoped things would work out between them. She is also facing some health issues which can't be treated locally. She has to travel six hours away as some of them are rare. So please send all the positive thoughts you can her way. This is one of those times I feel helpless as a parent. Thank you.
Any and all positive thoughts you can... - Anxiety and Depre...
Any and all positive thoughts you can give
When our children hurt, we hurt 100 times more. Even small hurts we feel it to our core.
I hope her health issues are not life threatening, this sounds scary. Try to get some rest and sleep, you’ll need strength to be there with her, I wish her and both Mom and Dad all the best I can from afar. 🌺💜🌺❤️💜🌺
Thank you for your kind words and for understanding. I will try to get some rest. Don't know if I can. Love her so much.
That is straight up just ..a horrific person. He will get what's coming to him with the next one! Hes gonna have to learn one day and that being said your daughter was given the early opportunity to not have further trauma in her life! That was no man in any way shape or form despite that thing between his legs. You let her know that everything is gonna be okay for her. When another door closes another one opens. We had to end that chapter quickly so that we can start a fresh new one. I hope that her treatment goes well and that everything can be managed well with that. A man should never be the end all be all. We need to take care of ourselves for now and the family that matters to us most. Like you mom! Not everyone has a parent like that who genuinely wants to help their children, who will look to other people far and wide just to find answers.. I really dont know what to say for such a situation but all I can say is he was taken away for a reason and for the BETTER. Let this be a learning experience. Gosh I really hope she gets well. I really do. You all can stomp him out if he dares walk back in your lives in that case. The full boot!😅
( I'm sorry if I sounded like a butthole or made anything worse for you. I'm really angry just hearing about a person like that. I think we just have to acknowledge analayze and look up for a brighter future as hard as it may seem ..Yes!"seem" but we are absolutely capable no matter what position we are in. Lets go into this new chapter with strength, without fear, without looking back but looking forward to better health, to a better circle, to a better home life, to a better life. J rest my case.👏
(Hang in there too mom, thats for you too)🤗
.. very difficult and painful watching your children suffering .. it’s hard trying to protect them from life’s hurts ... she will get through it she has loving parents .. she knows you are there for her. She will come out stronger from this ... i know it’s a difficult task but wish we could encourage our children to keep away from social media’s., so mentally damaging .. all the very best to you and your family
Thank you.
I agree social media can cause depression. I just recently deactivated my Facebook account because it was depressing me. I feel so much better without it and accomplish more too. It really does consume your mind and time.
I ignore mine or go on and go directly to my closest friends pages. At least my closest friends by relationship not distance. I prefer hearing a voice.
I agree.. i decided to come away from Facebook many years ago. First thing i would do on waking in the morning was log on F/B .. i could feel the anxiety rising in me.. i thought, oh this is not doing me any good. Not getting anything positive from it. Feel better away from it and after few months .. did not miss it at all.
Good for you, to all you Facebook abstainers! It really can be a waste of
time and often toxic. People think they can be as mean as they want, not thinking, and hurting without repercussions.
I know someone who posts all the wonderful things she does.... and she is an adult ! All the elaborate vacations, travels, talks about the gorgeous weather while it is flooding here, shows roses she received on V day, birthdays, all successes her kids have, elaborate clothes she and her daughter wear, her large house and grounds which she has named after herself, and even takes a picture of her fingers after a manicure ! Ok, so that one is obviously a bit off, but she seems so happy and strong like a bull. She is so unaware, it fascinates me. I have no reason to be jealous of these ‘things’. I hate the constant bragging.
I wonder still why the heck she does it! Why be so thoughtless about other people and their circumstances. Why be so obtuse. It is amazing to me when supposed adults do this. I never really knew her well. Her many friends tell her how wonderful and amazing she and it all is.
I however think of sarcastic comments, and want to also tell her to grow up, but of course don’t and opt for delete. Yet I still occasionally look. Why I bother to read it even occasionally is a puzzle to me because it will probably never change and just makes me angry. I never comment. But I also haven t even gotten the nerve to unfriend her. I think I should.
I also hate grade school name calling political rallies sent via friends. I find it offensive to call anyone vulgar names. (I am not talking about on here calling some people a holes.) I delete her too but when I peek it angers and depresses me to read it.
I want to have the nerve to say. Hey why not stop all this name calling ! Let’s rise above it and just discuss.
I think this rant and people on here just gave me the nerve to unfriend at least the first one.
Thanks for listening. I hope I did not go way too off course. I suppose even peeking at these kinds of comments is wasting time and not respecting myself!
It always reminded me of my family. Strong, as in always in the right, judgemental, and not much if any thought outside themselves. It is simply who these people are and I do not need to associate myself with them anywhere.
Thanks for listening.
I'm happy to read your rants anytime. We all need to vent. I truly think Facebook, Instagram and Twitter can be horrific. I am only on Facebook and that is more than enough! There is an option on Facebook called take a break. You can go to a person's page to activate it. Once activated the person can't see your posts or comments but you avoid the wrath of unfriending someone. I needed to use this feature with a close family member. A very toxic person who I now avoid on Facebook and in person. I stay connected only because I have family from coast to coast and dear friends who have moved away. But I rarely post myself. Learned my lesson the hard way. I was posting to keep people informed while my best friend was incredibly illl and lost track of how many times and ways I was attacked for my posts. Got to the point where I was only allowed to post what was texted to me. I had to post that on my friend's page. That was the beginning of the end for me and Facebook. I still don't understand why people act the way they do but that is a rant for another time.
Oh my how I feel for you... as a mom myself of 4 how our hearts can be ripped , torn and shredded apart when our children are hurting... my prayers are with you...
As for her health may she receive the gift of healing...again more prayers for her......
Maybe this is for the best... you never know who is around the corner waiting to treat her like the Queen she deserves to be treated like...let's put a positive spin on this....or at least try...
Sparkles & dump trucks Mrspjsmom!
Thank you. Being a Mom is the worst sometimes but I appreciate your kind words and prayers. And a little sparkle never hurts.
I have added her to my prayer list, my friend. Those are some rough situations to deal with!
Here's hoping the fallout isn't as bad as it can be. Okay?
I feel so sad for your daughter having gone through something very similar.
I was dating ( and living with) someone for two years and he had been cheating on me with someone he worked with almost the entire time, stole my money when I wasn't paying attention , treated me like I was worthless, always mean to me...lied, cheated, theif... The moment I found out, I kicked him out and he went straight to her and got her pregnant a couple months later. They are still happy and still together and it's been almost a decade. I constantly wonder why he did this to me. I am a good person that always tries to do right by others and I'll never understand what I did to deserve this. Like I said, almost a decade and the painful thoughts still don't go away. ONE huge thing your daughter should do that I did, was delete social media. Facebook and all that is such poison. You do not need to know what everyone is doing all the time. Life was so much better without social media.
I'm so sorry for your daughter. I hope she finds someone who truly loves her because that guy is a complete scum bag and isn't worth her time.
Thank you. I'm sorry you went through such a horrible ordeal. No one deserves that. I wish I could get her to delete her social media but she is in her 20's so I doubt that will happen.
I’m sending positive thoughts your way. Hopefully, in time, your daughter will be able to move on and forget this jerk. Karma will eventually catch up to him. She deserves so much better. And she’s very lucky to have a mother like you.
Thank you. I only hope she finds someone who adores her. As for him...let's just leave it at karma.
Sending a prayer positive thoughts and well wishes to your daughter. She is strong and a fighter. Although thing may seem st it's low right now she will.rise above it and move forward with her life and not let this situation consume her and take over her life she will fight this and become stronger than ever I believe this for her.
Amen
Hugs
Hi Mrspjsmomin.
I think watching our kids hurt us one of the hardest things parents go through.
I send you lots of thoughts and best wishes for her.
I hope in time she will understand that she dodged a bullet by not marrying him. He sounds like a highly untrustworthy, more then just a jerk, lying scoundrel sociopath and to go so far as to ask for her hand. . !?
I am sorry she got an STD too. Hopefully this can be treated successfully and gotten rid of ? so she won’t be reminded of him.
I hope she can deal with all this , mourning her loss but also being able to be rational about it.
Take care of yourself. Best wishes in your support of her. Keep posting. You are good parents to want so badly to support her. She is lucky to have you by her side.
Sending lots of healing energy and prayers her way and the family. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you so much.
Your very welcome
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