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Maybe how it is...is okay

Starrlight
Starrlight

I’m very emotional today 😭 I am finding some things in life very confusing, some things that I feel I need seem impossible to gain like grains of sand slipping through fingers. The waves are taking me for a spin. I can barely breathe. I can’t seem to stay afloat in life’s oceans. Maybe I am looking at things wrong...maybe it’s not time or not the right things I’m focusing on... For anyone who is overwhelmed or down about life circumstances I think the sun will come out eventually and we will be aware and open and ready when it’s time. Maybe what’s needed is acceptance that we can’t change some things and we need to be grateful for all that IS going RIGHT. What we CAN accomplish. I’m having trouble with this. Meanwhile, I’ll try to treat myself with total compassion. I will pray for the flowers to bloom in their time. It’s just helpful to share this. Thanks for listening. Blessings to you ❤️

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Hello starlight, I’m sorry for the overwhelming day you’re having sometimes it has to get worse to get better. That’s what’s keeping me going, it won’t stay like this I’m glad you’re here expressing yourself rather than holding it in. Hope you have a better day ❣️ i send love & peace.

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to Balloon5

Thanks so much

Flor1
Flor1 in reply to Starrlight

Love and peace ❤❤❤

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to Flor1

❤️ love and ✌️ peace

Hang in there, Star. This, too, shall pass. Everything does. I think I would love it if I could feel like I am on “solid ground,” but more often than not, it’s all “sand.” Which makes me feel vulnerable - and that’s very scary. You got this! Lynne.

Thank you LilyAnnepuppy

Star, you need a coach to teach you how to swim in the rougher waters. How well we do isn't up to 'life', it's up to us.

It's how we react to it that makes it better or worse. Either we rise to it's occasions which can render even the most severe occurrence as just another harmless swim in the ocean or we can panic at every occurrence and let even the smallest wave threaten to do us in.

Even I'm capable of panicking sometimes, look at how I reacted when I let my potassium run low a few days ago.

I was the one threatening to drown. But at the same time I worked diligently to restore my potassium & sodium until I recovered. I even managed 7 1/2 hours of sleep on a day I would normally have not slept at all.

We all have a choice to sink or swim in the currents of life. I will be there to encourage you to keep your head above the water at all times.

If you keep your head and keep on swimming, you will find that you soon outdistance the angry waves and find calmer water to be in.

I pray that you always find the calmer water, S. I will be swimming beside you to help you even though I hate the water!

Sue and I send you lots of love!

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Hi my friend. Hmmm I am trying to see my circumstances in at least a slightly positive light but well I’m just not happy and feel alone with my mind. I’ll keep trying to figure things out.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

Well, I'm here to help. S, life is a learning process. Look at the things you go through as a tool of sorts....You have to experience all the varieties of life to learn what they are and how to deal with them.

Get out of your mind and do something else! Even talking g to me is helpful. When my mind tries to take over my life, I find other things to distract it with.

Instead of dwelling on things which is allowing your mind to take control of you, take control back by doing something that makes you happy or makes you smile. Okay? You don't have to stay in your head. I know this for a fact.

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Thanks

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

Not meaning to lecture so much, S. But, I worry abut you and I really do care!

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Oh It’s fine, you can state your opinions, fine with me...I will listen... I just need to convince myself I’m o.k. right now,... I am realizing that no one can do that for me. I’m in a place where I wish I had my mom or husband or best friend to tell me I’ll be Ok and I don’t have that. So I have to try to stand on my own you know.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

I AM POSITIVE YOU WILL BE OKAY! I have known you for close to a year now. You are stronger than you realize and you have a way of rising above things. I have seen you do it time and time again. So, I speak from a position of having actually observed you in action. I'm sorry I can't be there in person to provide you with the reassurance you need. But, rest assured that my heart and spirit are with all the time. Lot's of love and hugs for you, S. I believe in you and I believe in your ability to rise above these low periods. YOU WILL BE FINE, TRUST ME!

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Love and hug backatchya! Thanks for the pep talk I really appreciate you!

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

We are BFF's remember. I've always got you back, S!

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Yes! Thank you sooooo!

Nom-D-Ploom
Nom-D-Ploom in reply to JEG325

Sometimes 'sink or swim' are both too hard. Sometimes you need to float for a while to catch your breath.

Yes!

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Nom-D-Ploom

Ah, but the only way to move forward is to keep swimming, right? That was my point.

Nom-D-Ploom
Nom-D-Ploom in reply to JEG325

I agree. But sometimes moving forward slowly is better than sinking.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Nom-D-Ploom

Agreed....

Starr,

i know it seems simple to ask, but can you remember the delightful feeling u had recently? It's reassurance that your mind & heart is capable of reason and adjustment.

Grab hold of that same experience. It will take great effort but totally worth it.

That, along w/ prayer can grant you a measure of happiness. One day at a time.

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to newbie56

Thanks one day at a time is helpful and prayer helpful.

Small victories. That's all we can ask for at times like these. Besides, if someone wrote the manual on how life should be, they accidentally threw in the fire. Those lousy, no good......lol But, just having small successes can make things better. Plus, having all the support from here is nothing to sneeze at lol. We got your back! :)

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to bridder01

LOL 😆 thanks!!!

bridder01
bridder01 in reply to Starrlight

Anytime! :)

Sweet starlight🌟⭐ chin up or the crown slips. Better days are coming we just have to be patient and wait. I know im sure waiting and I understand your frustrations. Try to hold on and do something that you enjoy. I know thats easier said tgan done because dwpression zaps our energy and our enjoyments to things we once loved. Im thinking of you sweet lady. Better days ahead. 💗💗😊

You are right. Better days ahead practicing patience. Thanks so much for understanding.

You are very welcome. Best wishes to you.

trishj46
trishj46 in reply to Starrlight

I don't really know you----but I have been you!

Prayers & Blessings!

trishj46

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to trishj46

There’s hope I think.

🌥⛅️🌤🙃

🙃 the sun is coming out and turning to silly

Starrlight... I am also very emotional today. It’s 3:23 am and I have not been able to close my eyes fir one minute. I have been not been feeling good with a stomach infection and plus the panic attacks everything gets complicated! I want to feel good. I want to enjoy what I do have and my children and grandkids and my life partner. But lately it’s been very difficult to even smile. I am a happy person who loves life and I like to be cheerful and productive... but this has been a very tough month. I need to stop and smell the roses... Wishing you a time of peace and hope 🇵🇷🏝

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to MEGL53

Thank you for responding. We will make it through although in this moment it seems it’s far away. Did you end up getting some sleep? I hope so. I hear you... being a productive happy person is who we are minus the panic /anxiety and depression which we fight like warriors against. I hear you; it’s hard to smile and we want to enjoy our families. I try to recall a good day but it is out of reach, hard to recall how the feelings were, but trying to find hope. I am so frustrated. I think i should be better by now but it seems it’s for a lifetime, I don’t know. Maybe patience is needed.

P.s. I hope you smile today. You deserve that.

You are loved by us all. We are here for you Star😘❤❤❤

Thank you Sunnidayz you are beautiful. I see things are better as I go along but I reach for more because I am still in much pain. Thanks for being with me. ❤️

Awe you are beautiful too. Thank you.

I think we are all in pain. That is every single one of us in the world. Everyone has struggles my friend. Im glad to hear that you are using self compassion to help. You deserve it. You deserve self love and all the blessings this world & God and universe has to offer. I mean that. You are a good soul. Take it easy💜❤

I know, I know we all have struggles. Everyone. Thank you. But sometimes it seems so unfair when I compare myself but well I probably shouldn’t be comparing. I don’t know what I deserve but God does so I’ll leave it up to him as I try being a good soul. Blessings to you my friend.

Comparing doesnt get anyone anywhere.

Yes God holds the keys.

Blessings to u as well❤

❤️

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