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Does anyone deal with this?

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When you know what you need to do for your mental health and your apathy is so severe you just can’t bring yourself to do it. even though you know the benefits of doing things, like eating, sleeping, etc. you rationally and logically know it will help you, but you still cannot being yourself to do it? Anyone else know what I’m talking about?

Well I’m sure people on here do,

I don’t know how to deal with this myself and I was wondering what how other people deal with this. I was talking with my sister today about it and she was getting frustrated with me... she was like “come on, you know what you’re doing isn’t good for you, you know what you’re supposed to do.” And I couldn’t quite explain myself to her, I just apologetically agreed with her even though I know that didn’t mean anything. I know I’m still going to struggle to take care of myself.

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Yes! I know exactly what your talking about, I make up things like my leg hurts and I can’t walk so I don’t have to tell people the truth because nobody gets it! Are you depressed?

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imasleep123 in reply to Bee1232

Yes I am depressed at the moment, I’ve also been know to make up stuff to get out of things! Thank you for your response, it helps to know I’m not the only person who experiences this!

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Bee1232 in reply to imasleep123

Currently I have managed to go to work so my boyfriend says see your all better.. OMG it’s so frustrating he has no idea what’s in my head. I wish it was that easy....

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imasleep123 in reply to Bee1232

Right? My boyfriend is the same. It’s like “yeah I made it here but do you know all day I’m constantly struggling to focus because my anxiety has my thoughts running at 1,000,000 miles per hour?! “ It’s exhausting to have to constantly monitor myself to make sure I don’t flip out in public, and he’s just like “see there’s nothing wrong with you.” 🤦🏽‍♀️

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Moosue in reply to imasleep123

Unless u had it I don't think u can fully understand. I wouldn wish it on anyone. It's so mentally exhausting I went to work when I was really bad . It's like so hard . Give your self a pat on the back for finding the will power to go to work. Look on it as a credit to you. Or maybe you'd feel better for some time off. It's difficult to know what to do cos u may think more at home or may be heal xx

Yes, I was experiencing what you were going through a few months ago. It's almost like you're so exhausted from nothing working that you give up on yourself. It's worse when you feel as if everyone has given up on you as it leaves you no reason to bother. It feels like all your energy and motivation is zapped.

While you logically tell yourself what to do, bringing yourself to do it is a whole other beast. The thing that helped me was opening up a bit more than I usually would. That enabled people who I don't usually speak to give me some desire to work towards bettering myself. Sometimes all it takes is one person to nudge you in the right direction.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this though. I hope these responses have been helpful somehow.

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Yeah that’s exactly what I mean, it’s easy to understand why things help you and difficult to do those things at the same time.

Btw, fellow black cat owner here!!! 👏

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Yup! Trust me, I am sure everyone here gets that too. It's very frustrating for sure.

Yes!! How many black cats do you own??

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StayPositive333

I know exactly what you mean! I just joined here a couple days ago and for that reason. I have NO accountability to myself. I KNOW eating carbs, soda + sweets are bad for me and eating healthy is a must to get the right vitamins + nutrients but I struggle, telling myself I feel like crap with depressing + anxiety and the only thing that feels good is to eat what I want.

I also know I have to get out, exercise and do things but I don't. I know what to do, what I should do but don't! My own worst enemy.

Yesterday I got out and listed all my accomplishments including some household chores. Today... nothing

Does this sound like you? 😄

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imasleep123 in reply to StayPositive333

Yes! This is me too, I have been told to watch my eating habits and exercise not just for my mental health but for other health ailments I have too, by 3 different doctors, and I still can’t bring myself to do... but that stuff seems like a far, far reach when i can’t even lay in bed and watch tv. Lately, it’s like the best I can do is lay in bed in the dark and sulk, only getting up when I need to use the bathroom or if I’m starving. 😑

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Bee1232

It’s sooooo hard

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hypercat54

Oh yes I am very familiar with this one! I have struggled all my life with knowing what I should do and feeling I am not worthy of self care. My home is a midden and falling apart around my ears but I can't summon up the strength and energy to deal with anything and spend most of my time apathetically watching YT or coming in here.

I wish I had some answers for you. x

How are you both feeling now, it is just the worst most hopeless feeling

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