I feel lost, these days I can't sleep and if I do I wake up with a pain in my chest
My thoughts are getting worse, I've been in this kind of situation before and here I am at the start of this hell inside me
I need to take a few decisions at this stage of my life but it feels like I can't do anything, I feel like I'm worthless and have nothing to do on this planet
So I'm here to ask: what keeps you moving on? Have you discovered your passion and made you feel better? Or should we do whatever we can do to survive life?
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Well my first answer is what keeps me moving forward is Jesus Christ. I know not everybody believes in God,and I'm not the type of guy to force my beliefs on to anybody. I just believe he is real, I've been helped in my life whether big or small and I don't want to say oh that was coincidence. He gave me blessings when I obviously didn't or don't deserve them but I always give thanks alot and pray alot. But I'm just sharing how I feel,I'm not forcing God on anybody, don't worry. But God is always here. Second my mother and my brother,huge blessings in my life. They really do support me and help. I'm grateful. I don't really have a passion at the moment. But marvel movies I really do love that universe and they are fictional but alot of the stuff I see I use as a metaphor in my life. I'm corny I know but those movies really do something for me and helps me relax with anxiety. I don't think your worthless, I know what its like to have negative thoughts attack you and never give you a break. But maybe really try to do new things and you might just find your passion, like drawing, gardening, (my mother loves that like ALOT,but it makes her happy!) or playing the piano (that's my nephews favorite thing to do) I really do hope you feel better I'll be praying anyway God Bless!
Thank you for the support ♥ I believe in God too and it helped me a lot through my life.
But I'm in a situation where I need to make a decision, I'm surrounded by pressure so I can't even practice my passion without worrying about what I should do.
I do believe that certain things aren't just a coincidence or some bad things are meant to be in order to help us grow and learn. This one feels different...
I understand. Alot is happening with me at the moment right now and I'm holding onto God,but I don't know if I myself and my family will be alright. I'm just hoping and praying. I pray the best for you and hope the best for whatever situation or challenges you face, I really do. I'm always here to talk. Anyway I really do wish you well! God Bless!
Honestly, what keeps me going is my kids because I couldn't bare to ever leave them without a mother and hurt them that much. But for those of who don't have any kids, or me before I ever had kids, I think of my parents, my siblings. How they would feel without me around. Sure we all have disagreements but our love is unconditional. Plus you have yourself! You would not be here on this earth if you weren't destined to do some kind of good or make a difference. I hate the dark, hoepless days but i try to remind myself they dont last forever and you wont feel that way forever. We would surely miss you!
Thank you for the support ♥ It's hard to get out of the dark. I know that it's not going to last forever so I'm trying to get out of it, I just don't know how. I'll figure it out
I'm so sorry you're experiencing that awful feeling of worthlessness. It can be so debilitating and saddening when you can't see over the edge. It's almost like everything you do makes you feel worse and nothing makes it better.
For me, when I start to feel this way, I'll take a moment for myself. Whether I am at work or at home, I will exit the building, take a walk and clear my mind. I'll try to appreciate things around me (like flowers, plants or animals) and use that as a small moment to collect my thoughts. It's also good to remind yourself that you can't tackle everything at once. You need to take things one day at a time. So acknowledge and accept that today, you may feel off and that's OK. Just know that not every day will be awful and even if it feels that way, you can do small things to make it slightly better.
Make small goals for yourself of things you would like to do and pat yourself on the back when you do them (even if it's something as silly as cleaning your room or making yourself something to eat). These minimal tasks are often the hardest things to do as they feel difficult when you're feeling very low.
You asked if following your passion has helped in any way or made things better; I would say yes. When I focused on accomplishing the things I wanted in life, I can safely say they have improved the quality of living for me. Even when I feel crummy and don't feel happiness from the things I once enjoyed, I can always reflect on the fact that I changed my life drastically for the sake of what I wanted. Sometimes that helps give me the motivation to improve.
Hope this helps, hang in there. I'm always here if you need to talk!
"Accomplishing the things I want in life" That's exactly what I want to to do, I want to give my passion a try, I want to have new experiences, probably meet new people and see if what I have in mind would work or not
The thing is, I'm not having enough support, I'm hearing a lot of "You should do this and that.." which make me wonder "does the things that I like have no value? Am I chasing the wrong dream? Is something wrong with me?"
You would probably say "don't listen to people", those aren't just people, those are my family, I love them and I appreciate them and I know they want the best for me. But that doesn't give me an answer
Your words really helped me
I'll make small goals first to get out of whatever I'm feeling right now and I'll figure out what would be my next step
You're very welcome, it's my pleasure to help others when possible!
Exactly. I think the problem is most people have big goals (which is fine) but that feels so overwhelming, right? Even if your goal is to meet new people, try a new hobby, see new places...all of that is possible and with time very doable. Also, if you find that those things are not making you happy, check it off on your list as something you DID do because that still counts.
Not everything in life brings the same joy as it would to say someone else. The world is too loud and throws way too many typical 'happiness' tropes on you. I'm very happy to hear that your family is supportive of what you would like to accomplish, but at the end of the day, it's still your life and only you can go at a pace that works best for you. Having support does help and I am sorry that is a struggle for you at the moment.
I'll give you an example of something small that I wanted and eventually accomplished with lots of time. I was never a social person and I don't consider myself to be such even now. But I longed to know what it was like to feel free. Really free from the binds of other people. So I started to hike and travel to local places by myself. It eventually got to the point where I hiked and traveled alone to other states without fear. I saw everything I wanted at my pace and didn't feel held back. It oddly gave me the confidence to do more without worrying about whether someone else was going to plan something with me or not. While I was alone, I felt more alive than I did when I was around other people.
I am not sure if my example helped at all, but I found something I never thought I would ever have in my life. It was being OK with everything that I thought was lacking in me (being alone/single or not feeling like I had friends). Sometimes a small step can change your entire perspective of life.
I really hope you can accomplish whatever it is you want in this lifetime
Hello ang95. I’m so sorry you’re going through that. Waking up with chest pains is the worst of the worst. I attribute my ability to keep going to my faith. I don’t think I’d be able to handle as much as I have without my faith. Secondly, I think a lot of my future and what I want and that keeps me going too. I want to sit in bed all day and do absolutely nothing but that’s not going to get me my future. So I get up and carry on even if it means crying while doing so.
I hope you find the encouragement you need to keep going
Don’t be too hard on yourself though. There was a point in time where I had to take at 3 days out of the week to sit in my bed and do nothing. I missed a lot of work during that time but my mind and body were both in dire need of rest.
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Why me? Have you asked yourself that question? What positive thing did you do for yourself today? 
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