PTSD AND DEPRESSION

[Jack112288]

I’m currently dealing with PTSD I was in a car accident last month that left 3 people dead the driver was drunk and ran the light I know I’m not at fault for the accident but I still feel like I’m a big part of it then I’m dealing with a very bad breakup at the moment and really don’t know which way to go from here I wanna scream cry and yell but I know it’s not worth anything but more pain I just wanna escape all the thoughts and pain

[kenster1]

hi that's awful news im really sorry to hear that.i hope the culprit pays for his crime really don't see the sense in drink driving its dicing with death every single time.in no way what so ever are you responsible for this.have you spoken to anyone yet about what happened I think its best you do.sorry to hear about your breakup it really is tough on you just now.im here for you and sure many more people will be too.god bless and take care.

[Jack112288 in reply to kenster1]

Thanks yes I started therapy yesterday I agreed to go in every week for now I speak about it but it’s still something hard to deal with the breakup is weighting on my heavy as well but I know I’ll be okay one day I just wish it was today but I know it’s gonna take some time before things fall into place for me

[kenster1 in reply to Jack112288]

that's good glad to hear that your attending therapy ive lost a few friends over the years its hard to believe that they are gone sometimes having happened when young.obviously I don't know about your break up but due to your other personal circumstances a cleanish break up would be better if possible.

[Jack112288 in reply to kenster1]

I lost my best friend back in March due to a car accident we was friends for over 20 years so I’m also dealing with that I just have a lot going on and I’m starting to feel like I’m drowning

[kenster1 in reply to Jack112288]

ive got 3 friends(2 brothers)who died with heart defects they didn't even know they had another who had cystic fibrosis I vist them regular it helps me get through the hurt I sometimes still feel I don't know if that's something you could do at a later time.take one thing at a time in your recovery don't overload your head with a million thoughts take it easy and things will be easier to deal with.you sound like a strong person hopefully you can keep it up.

[Jack112288 in reply to kenster1]

I’m sorry to hear that my prayers goes out to you and your family losing people are hard I didn’t know the 3 that died in my crash but it’s a heavy situation to deal with

[Mary-intussuception]

So sorry Jack .

Such awful timing for the break up too - when it's support from a loved one close by that you need.

You're in my thoughts and prayers x

[Jack112288 in reply to Mary-intussuception]

Thanks I wish I had someone close to be by myself throughout all of this it sucks because I can’t even call on my family but I know I’ll get through it with the help of this group

[Mary-intussuception in reply to Jack112288]

You've come to the right place x

[Hwhme in reply to Jack112288]

With all that you have going on I think you would have more cause to worry if you did not feel as if you were drowning. The feeling seems quite appropriate to me. That is not to say that the feeling is helpful and it is good to hear you have someone to help you unpick it all. I hope you will feel more able soon.

[Hidden in reply to Jack112288]

Why can’t you call family?

[Jack112288 in reply to Hidden]

Very judge mental they don’t understand what’s going on with me they don’t understand what I’m going through I get sick of hearing “it’s all in your head” and once I open up to them about things they wait until I’m no longer around and then talk about me so I just stay to my self and keep everything to my self

[Hidden in reply to Jack112288]

To them I would say - of course it’s all in our head! That’s where thoughts and feelings originate! Duh. But you are supposed to be here to help guide me through the tough times. I need support not judgement.

[MissDS]

Glad you're in therapy, i sincerely hope it helps and things start to turn around for you soon

[Hidden]

Scream and definitely cry, then talk, go into nature, exercise mildly or as much as you can, listen to music - sing it out, eat good food for your mind and body, avoid alcoholif you can. All this will help to ease the pain you’re going through. The accident was in no way your fault. You were injured as well. We refer to crashes as accidental because no one truly meant to cause harm, even someone under the influence. People run red lights and die in collisions all the time. You just happen to be in that place at that time. This time in your life is what is going to make you stronger in the future. So cry everyday until the tears get fewer and farther between and also do things that bring you happiness too. The pain always improves in time, you’ll get through this. 💖

[Jack112288 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks a lot for the encouraging words now I know it’s okay to cry scream and yell I was told that’s being dramatic

[Hidden in reply to Jack112288]

Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel

[Jadely in reply to Hidden]

Your words are so encouraging an optimistic you are a sweetheart. May you be truly blessed!

[Jack112288]

Thanks same too you

[Ceramicpainter]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I too suffer from major depression and PTSD. I validate your emotional pain. I think there is nothing wrong woth screaming or crying...just giving our pain a voice. The trick is not letting that become a habit. Opposite Action...sometimes we need to do the opposite of how we feel. Keep sharing and listening to feedback. Be patient with yourself...you've been through something truly traumatic.

[Jack112288 in reply to Ceramicpainter]

Thanks yes I’m learning to work on me and giving myself time to heal from everything I’m king through