I live with anxiety and have periods of depression in between. I've been finding it difficult to manage my anxiety recently (the past 5 months) and it's taken over my life. I'm trying to get my life back and manage my anxiety but it's incredibly difficult and taking much longer than I had hoped. I'm feeling very discouraged and starting to feel poorly about myself. When I reach out to my loved ones I feel like they are annoyed that I am still dealing with this and no longer want to hear about it. It's hard because I need the support but don't want to bother them with my problems anymore. Everyone else's lives are moving forward and I feel like I am stuck in the same place struggling to make it through the day. I am hoping to connect with some people who can relate. I don't want to feel alone and like a burden.
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Im going through the same problem I was diagnosed with PTSD after an accident and the anxiety that this causes is overwhelming, is so bad that it also affects my physical health, and when I try to talk to family members they just say, " come on you still with that garbage, thats just in your head just think of something else and that's it " they don't understand what people with mental health go through
I can relate to this, I'm in my first year of college and my mental health has taken such a toll on me especially with my grades. I was recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and my mom has been in denial, so it kinda feels like this is a battle I have to fight alone.
Hi there - know that you are definitely not alone in your experience. This community is great because you will find lots of people who relate to you and you to them.
Your story is very familiar to me, as I have had a very similar experience with my own anxiety and depression. I no longer discuss it with my parents as they usually tell me 'just brush it off you're fine' or some other variation. Do you have another trusted person you can talk to, a friend, spiritual/religious advisor, a trusted coworker? Have you looked into professional counseling at all? These are all great places to start in gaining tools to manage your anxiety. Know that you're not alone in how you feel and that you are definitely not alone. <3
Thank you for the response. I have a counsellor but she is gone for the summer. I have one friend that I typically confide in but I am getting the same vibe from her as I do from my parents. I know they want to help but don't fully understand and often minimize my experience. I have a hard time opening up to my partner about my struggles because I fear he will leave me. This stems from the experiences I have had in past relationships.
Does your counselor's office allow you to speak to another provider while your primary person is away, especially if you are in crisis? That may be worth looking into if you're not sure.
I also have the same fear with my husband. I often struggle to explain my thoughts or feelings when I am in a depressive episode. And if I talk about death or dying it will often make him very upset. But he has been so good....many times when I break down and cry he will simply just be there next to me. Have you confided to your partner why you're having difficultly opening up? I also had to face that challenge as well. If you communicate openly and honestly it helps tremendously. My spouse often expresses frustration that he wants to help me but cannot. I always tell him whenever he helps me through an episode how much it means to me to have him near, even if he's just sitting next to me in silence. I know he appreciates hearing that. I hope this example gives you some idea as to how to open up to your partner.
I met with her to discuss alternative options while she is away and while I am away. I have contacts I can reach out to for phone counselling. I am heading back to my hometown in the next few days to be with my partner and family. We have been doing long distance while I am away for school. I have been trying to push myself to get work done before I head home but it has been unproductive as most of my days are spent trying to cope with my mental health struggles.
This has definitely given me some ideas of how to open up with my partner. He is supportive and has known about my condition since we started dating. It definitely does help just having him there. I am looking forward to that when I reach home.
It must be very difficult for your husband to hear that you are having thoughts about death and dying. I am happy to hear he is there for you through this. Do you have a counsellor that you can talk to? I understand how hard it is to open up about but it is good that you are.
That's great that you have access to other people. I know that would worry me if I were in the same situation. And going to school while away from your loved ones is hard... I had a family member who did something similar for work and it was a challenge for sure!
I'm glad that your partner is so supportive - it makes a world of difference when you feel the darkness surround you. I have a great counselor as well; I use the TalkSpace app so I'm able to leave messages whenever I need to. It's nice knowing when I need to talk that space is available.
How beautiful your relationship is! Not perfect, but very kind and loving!!! Are you taking medication or just counseling?
Just counseling for now... I spoke with another provider today who helped me arrange a visit with a practitioner who can help me figure out a medication routine. I was taking SSRI's for a long time but stopped because of how they made me feel overall. (They helped the anxiety but flatlined me)
It is a tough deal-trying to find the correct medication. Someone from a thyroid group I belong to, suggested to the group that she takes an older drug that has helped way, way better than the SSRI’s she has tried! I believe it was Mirtazapine-“Remeron”
I’ve actually heard of it, but didn’t realize it people could take it for anxiety. I’ll have to discuss it at my appointment.
Right there with you!!! I’m new to this community and everyone has been very receptive and full of good advice.
Hi, welcome. I can relate. Especially with what you said about feeling stuck watching everyone else's lives moving forward. I've battled depression and generalized anxiety disorder for so long. I sometimes feel like I'm bothering the people close to me if I talk about my struggle with these mental illnesses. Every day is a battle, and sometimes just getting through the day is completely exhausting.
I've been on this forum about six months and it has been great to have support from people who understand what I'm going through. I hope it brings you comfort too. Know that you are not alone at all in feeling this way.
Thank you for your response. It means a lot to know I am not alone. Today is my first day and I am already finding it comforting.
Hello
I can totally relate to your situation. Unfortunately, I am going through the same problem ...in regards to not being comfortable enough at all times to seek support from loved ones.
But don’t dwell on it right now. It’s nothing you can control right now. You have lots of support and encouragement here via HealthUnlocked. That’s a step towards the right direction. The direction you were aiming for.
Use your time to get better and focus on your health. By the way, getting better is a process meaning it takes time. The problem in relation to mental health doesn’t go away in a couple of days. So be patient with yourself along the journey. Seek help when you can and know this community is here to support you.
Imagines with my happy childhood play in front of my eyes. When time passed and I grew up I was more and more unhappy, with physical manifestation of depression and anxiety. Today I'm lost in this life, feeling that I missed my purpose somewhere in the road of life. Many of you said that we should concentrate on present not on past but the past is the one which define us and in present we have nothing to like, to love, to enjoy.
Awww😢this is so sad!!! But now is ALL we have, so therefore we must live now and try to find the good!
I can really relate to this post!
I completely relate to this. Sometimes I feel like people would be better off without me and my awful anxiety. But I try to remember that most of the time it’s my anxiety telling me that, and not actually what people are thinking, even if it’s hard to believe. This past weekend I had the worst panic attack of my life, and my mom was so worried she almost called the ambulance and was screaming, that made me feel so awful and stupid. About feeling like everyone’s lives are moving and yours is stuck i feel the same, especially since I’m going to uni this year and feel completely unmotivated, also still have no idea what i want to study. If you ever need to talk to someone you can send me a message ♡
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