Anxiety about boyfriend

[Kat63]

I’m afraid my boyfriend loves his cat more than he loves me. We had problems in the past, and he does have reasons to be unhappy with my past behavior. I’ve spent the past year trying to fix things. He has agreed that we can try again, and I’m moving back in later this week. I’m just scared that I might have broken things beyond repair. He says he’s not angry, but this morning he made a point of telling the cat she’s the most important thing in his life and he loves her more than anything.

[DistressedPoe]

Heyyy. Alright so idk your boyfriend. So clearly idk how he feels BUT I don't think you should make such a big deal of what he says to his cat. I mean, people say stuff like that all the time, no ? See it this way : a parent says "you're the most important to me" to one of their kids. But that doesn't mean they love their other kids less. I say stuff like that to my brother. But I love my other brother equally. I think you shouldn't fixate on these things as they'll only make your relationship feel a bit...shaky...? Since he said he's not angry, maybe take his word for it. I know it's hard but try to trust him a little. Just because he loves his cat, doesn't mean he loves you any less. They're just two different kinds of love.

Start this new chapter with him with a bit of positivity. Try and not focus on the little things and focus on building a stronger relationship. Don't overthink.

And MAYBE, when you two have a better relationship in the future, you can slowly ease him into talking about your relationship more openly. Always express how you feel and make it clear to him that you can't help but feel anxious so just have him reassure you.

I hope it works out ! 😊

[Kat63 in reply to DistressedPoe]

Thank you!