I want to say I am going through a divorce right now, but neither of us have filed yet. My wife left me shortly after Christmas and it was unexpected to an extent. A couple weeks after Christmas she fully moved, basically out of state and got a new apartment and took a majority of everything we owned. I’m somewhat okay with her leaving and everything, mainly due to the fact that it is what it is. To my knowledge we were both faithful, I know I can say that from my side at least. With all that being said, I’m trying to be as nice and civil as humanly possible to the point a lot of people say I am being too nice. I suffer from GAD and Depression, she also has anxiety attacks, panic attacks, and depression, plus presumably other issues as well. She has managed to overdraft our joint checking account multiple times to which I have had to remedy. We filed together as this years taxes screwed us both up(even though we filed correctly). Now she has taken our tax money and is using it to pay off breaking our lease(which she did because she moved). Basically any money I have had up until I got a separate account due to all the issues, she has taken from my account. I don’t/didn’t want to be a jerk because I do care for her, plus she has been off a majority of her medications due to being unable to afford them due to her move, but I know I will have to draw a line in the sand and eventually may have to wind up being a jerk to her and support myself instead of her anymore. She acts like it is my fault she is broke and that I should feel sorry for her, but it was her own doing and I treated her amazing.