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Question: “Follow” Etiquette?

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Hi everybody! I know that I’ve met several of you amazingly supportive people on here over the last few days. This is probably going to sound like a stupid question, but so far, if I have read something someone has posted that I can really relate to, I follow them. Don’t know how many people I’m following that probably at least 15. There are I’d like to say four or five people that really have been a great source of comfort on a regular basis, among everyone else. You all are great! I guess my question is, people like my first post, replied to other comments I’ve made on other’s posts... had some fairly deep conversations with a couple of very special people. I’ve noticed that I don’t see a lot of followers for most people. I get this is not a Instagram, I don’t care about “gaining followers” or popularity at all... i’m just curious if there’s any particular reason why people don’t follow each other that much on here? Basically I’m most concerned about me clicking “follow” on everybody I can relate to, Or agree with what they have to say, or just appreciate their post. Sorry I’m not wording this well. Thanks for any answers though😂

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JAYnLA profile image
JAYnLA

I think it's because it is not very clear what following people on this site actually does. That's my suspicion anyway.

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Casewest20 in reply to JAYnLA

OK, I haven’t seen any benefit so far either, ha ha. Thank you for letting me know it’s not just because I’m a complete reject😂😉

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Marimac in reply to Casewest20

Well Meganick, I followed you because I read your comment to Tyler about him being your first follower and thought it was sweet so I wanted you to have more followers!!! 😁

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Casewest20 in reply to Marimac

Oh my gosh, I have been so all over the place that I am just now reading these responses. You are truly sweet. I appreciate this more than words can even say. And I’m sorry it took me so long to respond❤️

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Marimac in reply to Casewest20

Hi! I'm sorry it's taken me so long to respond back, I haven't been on here in a little bit. Thank you! I know the world can be a really cold and mean place, at least from what I've experienced. Having 'issues' and not being able to live up to what some people think qualifies as normal makes getting down on myself really easy. Sometimes being reminded that not everyone is only concerned with themselves and that there are people who want what's best for others, can be enough to snap me out of my doom and gloom and remember there's always hope. Even if it's from someone I've only met through a couple of messages on a site like this, it can still make me want to keep my head above water a little longer. Eveyone needs someone to cheer for them!💜😀❤

Hey x I’ve not met you on here before I think so ... nice to ‘meet’ you !

I think it might be because I’m not sure if following each other actually does anything

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Casewest20 in reply to

It’s nice to meet you too! I am new, I’ve only been on for the last few days. Thank you so much for replying. If you have a second, look at the other reply I got! Pretty much the exact same thing you said ha ha! Thank you again😊

in reply to Casewest20

Oops lol !

That’s okay no need to thank me !

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Casewest20 in reply to

Oh my gosh, no! I wasn’t saying anything along the lines of, “thanks but I’ve already been given that advice”😂😂😂. I just thought it was pretty cool that the first two responses were very similar and sort of proves that what you guys say really is the case. Yeah, I was just pointing it out as a cool coincidence... no asshole attitude😂😂😂... so no “oops”. Your post his chest, again, reiterated that it’s not because I’m a reject lol. Thank you so much!

in reply to Casewest20

Heyy not at all! I didn’t even see it as a negative response from you lol x my ‘oops’ was a cute ‘oops’ hahaha 😂 🤦🏻‍♀️

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jkl5500

I believe that if you follow someone, then every time they post something, you will get a notification in your personal email account.

in reply to jkl5500

Oh I never knew that! So that solves that confusion lol thanks

hypercat54 profile image
hypercat54

Yes you do JK. If you follow someone then every time they post something you get a notification. Personally I don't like the idea of anyone following me as I find it a bit creepy, so I disabled my follow button. x

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Sillysausage234 in reply to hypercat54

Oh so That’s why I can’t stalk you ......bad pussycat

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Casewest20 in reply to Sillysausage234

Alan, I’ve already come across several of your posts, and if I haven’t tried to yet, I’m gonna try following you😂👌🏼

Sillysausage234 profile image
Sillysausage234 in reply to Casewest20

😀

jkl5500 profile image
jkl5500 in reply to Sillysausage234

You wouldn't have to stalk her if you paid for the fish and chips. First impressions, you know.

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Sillysausage234 in reply to jkl5500

I did offer to pay next time....she said thanks but no thanks for some reason

hypercat54 profile image
hypercat54 in reply to Sillysausage234

Well I wanted to go to Harry Ramsdens but you said no. I only want the best you know. :D xx

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jkl5500 in reply to hypercat54

You should give the man some credit. At least he didn't take you to Taco Bell.

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Casewest20 in reply to Sillysausage234

As I’ve said before, I think you among many others here, are just awesome people. There have been a couple of times that I’ve sort of included some humor in some responses and I’m not sure that it was taken very well😂...This is just one more side of this forum that I am seeing, And excuse my language, but it’s pretty fucking great. Everybody sort of seems to have a sense, for the most part, when a person needs serious/intense/immediate support...And when it’s about something not so very serious. Like I saw this post from some new person named “meganick” about “followers”😂. What a dumbass😂😂😂😉😉😉😉... I have sort of a sick sense of humor, so just to be clear all of this is me being positive and joking 🙃

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Casewest20 in reply to jkl5500

😂 😂 lmao👌🏼😂

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Sillysausage234 in reply to Casewest20

youtu.be/DyDRXbP1MaY

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Sillysausage234 in reply to Sillysausage234

I knew this post had a song in it somewhere 😊🎸🎶

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hypercat54 in reply to Sillysausage234

Purr purr :) :D xx

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Marimac in reply to Sillysausage234

This is some hilarious stuff!!!!😂😂😂

Good to be smiling 😁

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Casewest20 in reply to Marimac

Argghhh! I just told Alan that for some reason I could not open his link. This is pissing me off lmao 🤣...

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jkl5500 in reply to hypercat54

They can follow me if they want, but I don't know where I'm going.

Sillysausage234 profile image
Sillysausage234 in reply to jkl5500

Haha me neither

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hypercat54 in reply to jkl5500

Follow the example of Dirk Gently the holistic detective in Douglas Adams book! He had a habit of getting in his car without knowing where he was going. He would follow the car in front as they obviously knew where they were going on the principle that getting somewhere was better than being lost. :D x

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jkl5500 in reply to hypercat54

How successful was he as a detective?

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jkl5500 in reply to jkl5500

Hyper, for some reason this reminds me of the character Dunbar in the book "Catch-22". He liked to hang around with people that he couldn't stand, because it made his life seem longer.

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hypercat54 in reply to jkl5500

Brilliant! I read a story once of 2 characters who hated each other but decided to share a house on the principle that everyone else hated them more. x

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hypercat54 in reply to jkl5500

Well he got there in the end following a Zen policy. x

Casewest20 profile image
Casewest20 in reply to jkl5500

👌🏼

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Casewest20 in reply to jkl5500

HA!!!! I am going through some responses that I’ve not yet read. It’s funny because I don’t know if I got your joke when I first read it. Like, I never took offense or anything like that, but now I Totally get it and I am sitting here laughing. Progress right? Thanks for your support.

in reply to hypercat54

Haha creepy 🤣

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hypercat54 in reply to

Creeped out cat. :D xx

AuntBee profile image
AuntBee

Well I’m following people but I’m not getting notifications, and I can’t figure out how to view who I’m following. Oh well...

Sillysausage234 profile image
Sillysausage234 in reply to AuntBee

Hi ,click on your avatar,then settings....then tick ✅ off what suits you.

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AuntBee in reply to Sillysausage234

Thanks Alan, I reviewed all my checked items. I feel like the mobil is so limited becuz when I get on this site w/ my laptop I can see so much more than with the mobil.

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Casewest20 in reply to AuntBee

I know, me neither😂...Like it’s right there in your face when you have zero or one follower, but you know that you have followed for example, 15 people🙄😉. So yeah, I don’t need notifications about every single thing every person posts. If that’s all following people does, than it’s pretty much of no use.

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hypercat54 in reply to Casewest20

Well it can be worth it if someone has very similar experiences to you which will help you. x

jkl5500 profile image
jkl5500

I wouldn't place too much importance on the number of followers anyone has. I just checked my list of "followers", and most of them aren't even on here anymore. So it's really not that big of a deal.

Casewest20 profile image
Casewest20 in reply to jkl5500

Thanks for participating in this conversation – I just don’t know how it’s lifted my spirits☺️

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jkl5500 in reply to Casewest20

This forum can get very "heavy". Unfortunately, there's a lot of people with sad stories to tell on here. That's why we're all here in the first place. But you have to lighten things up every so often. At least I do.

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hypercat54 in reply to jkl5500

I agree. x

Casewest20 profile image
Casewest20

OK, I’m glad! Sorry if it seems like I’m over dramatizing things, but I just wanted to make sure you knew

in reply to Casewest20

Aww that’s okay x sometimes texts can be read differently so I get where you’re coming from x

Hope you enjoy the rest of your day ! 💕

hypercat54 profile image
hypercat54

My golden rule for online etiquette is to behave how you would to a bunch of acquaintances in real life. x

Kat63 profile image
Kat63

I tend to follow people who give a really good response to one of my posts.

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Casewest20

Ahhh! Dear Alan, I know this was weeks old at this point...I sort of took a break from this awesome forum for a little bit. You know, it can be overwhelming when you first joined something like this and share things that you hardly been able to share with yourself. Anyway, I’m just reading through all these responses again and I just want to say once more how much I appreciate you. But dammit, I can’t open the link you sent!

Sillysausage234 profile image
Sillysausage234

Hi Megan nick nice to see you again 🙋🏻‍♂️Hope you can see this link any excuse for some music 🎶 good for the soul yes I’m from England previously Liverpool but out in the country now 🐑🐏🐖🐂 😊

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Sillysausage234

youtu.be/ZrcOIvkH--A

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Casewest20 in reply to Sillysausage234

Yeah the link worked but I’m being told by you to that “video is not available”...I’m sure it has to do with me and my Internet connection... thank you again for trying though😌😉

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Agora1 in reply to Casewest20

meganick, it wouldn't work for me either.

It said "not available in the U.S." :(

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Casewest20 in reply to Casewest20

OK, So this morning I can see what looks like the beginning of a YouTube video instead of just the link. Thanks so much for trying again, apparently it worked! Once I’m a little more awake I’m definitely going to check it out!!! It’s really super early in the a.m. here 😂

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Lulububs

I think it puts people of coz once u follow that person everytime they post or like something it will

Come into ur private email address to let u know.

Which seeing as mine is private one and work one i dont want people knowing im on here really.

Also u dont really gain anything it not like facebook or instagram.

Most people only want a quick answer or little bit of help then they move on as we have problems it not something we want anyone else knowing .’so dont take it to heart were not miserable or unfriendly 😂

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