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I just wish I could talk to someone who understands. I'm stuck. My heart is racing. People keep telling me I'll be fine, but I'm not fine. I need to go out so I can pay my rent but I feel completely stuck. I wish I could talk to someone without them asking me if I'm suicidal. That seems to be all they care about when I just need to TALK!!!!

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Sunnidayz1 profile image
Sunnidayz1

Let's talk. Everyone feels stuck once in awhile. Life is not easy sometimes. You are not alone.

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Feelingstuck101

Thank you. I have my sister but all she wants to talk about is dating. I can't get a word in. I told her I'm not doing good, but she doesn't seem to care about anything but dating and shopping music and t.v.

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Sunnidayz1 in reply to Feelingstuck101

Try to just breathe. In through your nose out through your mouth. It's funny u talk about your sister bc my sister is selfish..lol Every time I talk to her it's all about her. She's gotten a little better in the last couple of years but thats only bc I had confront her about it. So I know what you mean.

Have u ever journaled before?

Wrote ypur feelings out on paper. That helps to get the ferlings out. It's healthy.

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Feelingstuck101 in reply to Sunnidayz1

I'll try the paper and pad way of writing because it feels like typing may not have the same effects. Honestly, you have helped me in this moment more than you know. Thank you for reaching out to me.

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Sunnidayz1 in reply to Feelingstuck101

Aw...you are soo welcome. Im so happy that I was able to help you. This site is so great. Most of the people here are very considerate and kind. You'll find is a very welcoming place and we are all here to help each other. You are not alone💛

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Feelingstuck101 in reply to Sunnidayz1

It took a lot of my energy to find you guys, but I am glad I did. If all I could have is just one feel good moment today. I found it here. Thanks for helping me find my true smile. I went out to dinner today, and couldn't eat. Thank you. You didn't have to reach out, but you did. Hopefully I can find my way to help others along their paths as well.

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Sunnidayz1 in reply to Feelingstuck101

My heart goes out you. I used to have days like that, consecutive days like that but I had to learn to take it one day a time...to be patient with myself. We are only human. Nobody is perfect. We live in a world where we want everything yesterday but depression & anxiety healing doesnt work that way..it's one day at a time.

Kudos to you that you posted & got your feelings out. This site will be a new start for you😊

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kenster1

here for you anytime talk to us always here.

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Feelingstuck101 in reply to kenster1

Thank you. My heart is racing, and it's been racing for awhile now. This feeling of hopelessness. I need to come out of it, but I'm lost.

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PTSDcapital

Try to take a breath and maybe look at some breathing exercises to calm your heart rate. I have been trying to do it myself but I definitely know how you feel. There are great people on here that will listen and help.

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Feelingstuck101 in reply to PTSDcapital

Thank you. I'll try your suggestions and let you know how it makes me feel

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PTSDcapital in reply to Feelingstuck101

Also hear to listen too if you’re comfortable with that as well.

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Feelingstuck101 in reply to PTSDcapital

I lost a lot trying to change the course of my life. I'm going through it. I say get comfortable with being uncomfortable, but I'm afraid I've lied to myself. I've worked so hard for how far I've come and it feels like it's all slipping away. I've never been homeless but damn, if I can't even get out of the house to pay my rent, where will I end up? It's rough times for me.

I had a job offer, they told me I was hired and after a month of waiting, they told me they picked another candidate. I drive for Uber and it scares me half to death. I've already been assaulted once, and I feel so sad to think I go out there and do that to my safety. I feel like if I don't do this Uber thing, I won't have a place to stay. I've never felt so afraid. This is why my heart races.

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Cjonesabq

Talk therapy and journaling help me a lot. They help me to get in the place of acceptance. This forum has been a good support where ican talk out how i am feeling and it eases my symptoms. I also write about how i am feeling if i am anxious or helpful things i have learned. I sometimes just write “i am safe and ok” over and over to get me out of my head and focusing on acceptance... my anxiety passes. I have also gained a great benefit by practicing these techniques when not anxious andthat helps too. You are not alone, we are here to help each other.

Hi ..im here for you too..I just want to tell you that everything will be ok..you are going through a tough patch at the moment and it will lead you to the best for you...most of us on here know where you are coming from..so I just want to tell you that things will get better with time..you are getting stronger by the second..life just throws obstacles at us but we over come them..talk to us ...

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SoulOfALion

Hey Feelingstuck,

In the words of Tom Cruise "Talk to me Goose". It's okay not to be okay. I understand what it's like to be stressed about job stuff. I have 2 little ones and a wife. We are in this thing together and we live paycheck to paycheck. I'm terrified to get a job due to PTSD, anxiety and depression, but we need money. I too feel stuck. I won't sit here and blow sunshine where it don't shine. It sucks, like hardcore. That doesn't make you a suicidal person just because you have anxiety, depression, etc. It makes you a fighter and a freaking badass for fighting an enemy that knows all your moves. You WILL beat this thing. You have an entire army of people that have your back and that's a whole lot of listening ears and comforting hands. You need to heal and take time for yourself. Keep fighting.

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colemanpm in reply to SoulOfALion

I appreciate your honesty re: your fear of getting a job due to D&A symptoms. I have the same issue and have not seen it referred to before here (or at least in a way that i connected with). I struggle with feelings of low self-esteem and accuse myself of laziness, etc. over this issue. Know someone else shares this affliction with you, and again thanks for being willing to put it out there so I could connect with you! I appreciate your courage.

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hstaylor

Do you also Uber Eats, Instacart or Door Dash? That seems a little less invasive as they aren’t in your car.. How long has your heart been racing? I go through this as well. It’s really scary when it’s happening. Have your tried put your legs of up on the wall? I’ve tried it before and it helps bring your heart rate down.

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jrobertson1

I know exactly what you mean and it seems if you're not suicidal then they don't know what to say or do. Is this a sign of our times?

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JkBrauer

I am glad you feel like you can talk to us on here. Keep talking to us! We are here for you. In my journaling, once in a while, I might have something that makes me very emotional, I will write an actual letter addressed to that person or situation, then I take it and rip it up and throw it into the garbage or I will put into my sink and light a match to it and watch it burn up into ashes. This helps my emotions to calm down and gives me a different perspective. Keep on talking to us! You are doing good!

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Princesa_100

Hugs You.

Wake up heart!

Wake up heart!

I understand

That you need a hand.

Please, Wake up heart!

Wake up heart!

Smile again.

You mean something friend!

Wake up heart!

Wake up heart!

I know youve been lied on

I know youve been used

I know youve been damaged beyond what anyone knew.

I feel your pain ....

and I see your tears...

Ive seen how youve sobbed over the years. So, I'll hug you tight and shower you with love. Love you deserve. Are you ok now heart?

Have a good day!

Father my prayer is that You

Wake up hearts. Take out every knife carrying all types of brokeness. In Jesus name.

You can also find chatlines online that you can call or livechat with just talk to people. Like one called chatnow.

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YolyD

Have you tried singing your thought? Record yourself singing what you feel.

Write a poem about your feelings. Many times the best songs come from the heart’s deepest feelings. Wether or not you can sing- is a way to express what you feel. (I do this) many times just looking back and reading it makes me think about what I can do to change that.

I also try praying- either spoken or written as well.

I just talk to God- I may look crazy talking like if I had someone there but I know I can get all my words in- and he won’t go around sharing my business with anyone.

If I’m still I can feel peace and calmness after that.

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tiredswedge

You have been given a lot of great suggestions. I experienced what you describe for a very long time. I was trapped by my own head. I knew what needed to happen to get me moving forward, but I couldn't do it, which left me with more feelings of failure. And around and around it would go. I found when my anxiety and my negative thinking were at their worst, if I could remember to redirect my thinking I could get the heart, breathing, shaking , under control. TV worked for me. I know, I know, TV is supposed to be bad for me. But hey, it worked most of the time. When I was away from home a rubber band on my wrist usually did the trick. I would snap it a few times just to get a sting of pain enough to switch my head from looking inward to looking outward at the sting on my wrist. As far as jobs go, Amazon delivery, gathering those Bird scooters up to recharge them, personal shopper for online orders at grocery stores, Walmart or Target.

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Hollick

hey buddy, if you need to talk, we're here to listen...

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77Horse

Hello Feelingstuck

On a personal note I really understand what you saying but the doctors start with is your tiredness mental health . Are you making it employers and family say when you are totally not. I had really bad hart pain and racing when walking as at the time I was over weight. If you want to chat message again or you can private message me . Best wishes

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Angry101

You know sometimes I feel just like way you do. There are times I can’t even make it to the mailbox. I just want talk to anybody. I’m very lonely here. I do have a caregiver and we are best friends, but sometimes she can’t sit here all day and just listen. I’m here if you need to talk to someone. I’m a good listener too.

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Cathy63

Your symptoms seem the same as mine. Back in November I was diagnosed with adrenal fatigue by a naturopath. If you're not familiar with that, it means my adrenal glands are not functioning well. It was caused by years of stress and overwork. It contributed to my depression, anxiety (that's where the racing heart comes in), and a poorly functioning digestive system. I don't know how you feel about alternative medicine. It's been helping me. To be honest, western medicine scares me. I'm glad I made the switch. If you choose not to go the alternative path, deep breathing exercises, yoga, qigong and meditation helps with anxiety. I do all of the above but have some trouble with meditation. My mind keeps wandering.

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Ashleyp

I am currently in this same state of mind. When I leave the house i feel like my chest is heavy, my heart is racing or slowing down and I'm going to pass out😭😭

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Tcbabe

After reading your post it is so true about the suicide comment people

Make.

Yes I agree having someone to talk to that going through the same craziness and anxiety struggles would be a blessing in its self.

I know taking it on yourself is a battle within yourself because you have no one who could possible understand what you’re going through.

You can text or chat with me

Anytime. Would find it Comforting myself

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Want2BHappy3

Sorry, I get ya, stop wasting your time talking to them. They say that cause they don't know what to say? and by saying that it ends the conversation? That's Why people come to this site, to be able to vent to those who understand and won't judge. My kids isolate me as the only way they know how to deal with me. I really don't have friends to talk to. I'm alone and spend about 80% of my time indoors. Have you sought counseling?

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Teddy45

Hi Hun you can talk to me any time you like I know what you’re going through I have been there it is hard are you suffering with anxiety and depression sucks but if you want to know anything about it I can help you I’m a qualified psychiatric nurse And just because I’m a nurse doesn’t mean to say they don’t get depression well I was ill for nearly 2 years and it’s not very nice my job is very stressful because I see all sorts of things in this hospital which is really sad I know lots about medication and ones are good and one is a bad so if you need any advice or try and help you as best I can love Dani

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defyinggravity

hello!!I completely understand your feelings too.This is the problem of being in the middle of something that we cannot solve or avoid or whatever we are facing ...What I have learnt,unfortunately,is that in my case my family is part of the problem and not the supportive people I can rely on...If you need to talk,use your friends,us,whoever makes you feel better.if you feel like crying,cry :) for better or worse we are not robots!This will pass for sure, take your time.life is no race!

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