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Won't be posting on here like before

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I don't feel like this site is the place for me to be open about anything that's going on with me anymore. I was literally bullied in my PM. I'll just reply on a few post then be on my way. Probably will be here once a month.

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BonnieSue

Hi Danielle,

I'm very sorry that you've been hurt through a pm. That is so wrong on so many levels. It shouldn't have happened and hopefully you'll ignore any message from that person in the future. There are so many good, caring people here I hate to see you lose the chance to get their support. I understand you have to protect yourself. Take care...

Hugs, Love, and Blessings...

in reply to BonnieSue

It wasn't just one it was multiple, staying in the background is better, i have tried to put this status up all day, posting on here is triggering my anxiety

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BonnieSue in reply to

Again, I'm very sorry. I don't know why but I can see your problem with multiple people being hurtful. Is there any way they might not have meant to be hurtful? I ask because this would be very strange behavior for this site.

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They did meant to be, the deed is done i guess, and only coming here a couple times a month is what's best for me. Stay well hun 💜

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BonnieSue in reply to

You, too!

I’m sorry you’ve been bullied especially on a site like this ☹️

How are you today? X

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I finally got the courage to post this so im doing okay, im more stable i guess

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Im sorry for what you’ve been through x I’m happy to hear you’re stable. Definitely take breaks because your mental health comes first. So if this place is worsening it then do what you need to do hun x

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Thanks sweetie 💜

I am with you👊

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Hey, I'll definitely miss your videos on my post but being here doesn t feel safe for my mental state anymore

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I want to share a video. Lately I been so depressed I don’t look at funny videos. So I haven’t anything new to share.

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Let me see it, or send it to my pm. You should definitely try and keep looking at funny videos they might help

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I am not in the mood. I went on two job interviews yesterday. One of them ended abruptly after the first question. They asked do you have a reliable vehicle to get to and from work. I said no I have to use a taxi or Uber they said thank you we will be in touch. The other interview was at a job fair with many other people applying. 😞

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Don't tell them about the transportation next time since some jobs do require the person to have a car, what matters is that you'll make it to work and yes there's Uber( wouldn't it be a little expensive depends on the distance) there's this site indeed.com you can apply to different jobs on it

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Thanks. I welcome all the advice and tips you can share. I woke up and I got two separate calls from both places I applied to. I was offered both jobs. Amazing how fast things change. Now I just have to decide which one to take. I never thought I would be offered both. It was a nice surprise.

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ImpulsivelyMe in reply to

Congrats

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Thank you. Unfortunately after getting the official offer I had to decline it. I was offered one hour a week at 11.25 an hour. I called up taxi companies and they all wanted 10.00 round trip to take me to the job. After state and federal tax I would only clear 7.00 a week. It’s not enough to pay for transportation. I would have taken it if I broke even just for the work experience. 😞😢

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SheezusChrist

You’re not alone. When I first got up here it was the same. From an older lady who would harass me daily. Don’t give up babe! Not everyone is the same. 😘

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Im sorry you went through that,especially on this site where it's suppose to be a safe environment

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Agree

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fauxartist in reply to SheezusChrist

if your being harassed...report it to HU. There is also is a block option now to block anyone you don't want to talk to you in pm.

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ImpulsivelyMe

Can't they be reported, I'm new here so im not sure how this whole site works but i saw a member post something similar a few days ago

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Yes they can be reported, but mean or not i don't want to be the reason why someone get banned on here, we all need help after all

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If people are bullying you on pm you must report it, they are ruining your experience of using this place and they could be doing it to other people too. If you still can't report them I'll do it for you.

You have been here for a long time, I know for a fact that people miss you when you don't post.

Don't let bullies ruin a good thing, press the report button, get them removed.

If you are clearing off for a bit, I wish you well, pm me anytime if you need a chat.

Take care if yourself you will be sorely missed.

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I wouldn't want any member to be bullied like i did. I do enjoy posting, for now it's too triggering it took me hours to even post this on the site. Im not leaving i just won't be here as often

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Beevee in reply to

😔 ❤️

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OT16

I’m so very sorry this happened to & with you Danielle. It’s unfair, unfortunate, & unforgivable. I just joined this site & you are my first follower & first friend. I feel it’s a shame that you feel you have to leave, because that’s denying you a freedom & it denies any opportunity someone else can receive your support & vice versa. Is there any chance you could block & report people on this site ? I genuinely hope that there is, because no one that gives YOU grief; as authentic, kind, loving, & respectful a person you are- they need their asses kicked !!!!! That’s my honest opinion. Whatever you decide, I support you 1000%. I just despise that idiot for acting that way. He’s/She’s ruined it for ALL of us. & you, most importantly. Again, I’m so very sorry. I’m here if you need me. Hugs & love 💜🙏🏽

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Reporting them would be the right thing to do, i would still feel bad if anyone get banned because of me, i can't stop people from being mean to me and i still believe every member here needs help and a place to speak their mind i wouldn't want to take that away from them even after hurting me that bad. Posting is triggering for me so for now the background is the safest place

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OT16 in reply to

I understand. That’s a shame. You are not (& would not be) to blame. Don’t shoulder that. Their behavior could easily negatively impact someone else. They could feel emboldened to do it again unfortunately. I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself. Please do that without apology. Always. ☮️💜

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💜💜💜💜

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Sillysausage234

Don’t blame you Danielle,probably a good decision,me too you don’t know who your talking to and who to trust lately,

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I still believe there are amazing people here but i can't be somewhere that's making me worse instead of helping... the site is just not the same anymore

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Miss-P74 in reply to

Big Hugs 🤗 ❤️

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🌻🌻🌻💜

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Sillysausage234

Anyway Danielle best wishes nice to see you here I saw a load of candles one day and wondered if something bad had happened,see you soon

I'm sorry you're going through this. I have no interest in this site because I found other forms of recovery to be effective. And I'm tired of men trying to DM for non-mental health reasons. I just come here and get triggered. But I will check in every so often. Seems like things have changed around here in the past few weeks.

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I will be doing the same, find other ways to help myself and just check in a couple times a month.

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Krazie

For every bully, there are a hundred good people. The bullies stand out more because they are so obnoxious. Be bigger. Be stronger. Lift your head high. The bully walks in shame.

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I agree 🌻💜

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BonnieSue

Hi, it's a private message between 2 people here and you access the function by going up to the "Chat" button at the top of every page. Take care.

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bonkers65

I'm sorry you had a bad experience on here. That is why I'm hesitate to post sometimes. Take care.

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Thank you 💜

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Eowyn7

I'm sorry to hear this Danielle. I am new around here (about two months I think) and it is discouraging to hear that many people feel the site used to be helpful and now it isn't. I guess I was too late. Do what you need to take care of yourself!

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Thanks hun, wish you well 🌻

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BonnieSue

Welcome!

Hey I’m so sorry..that’s so sad..

I agree with jimmy, report them..

It’s not on ..

Thinking of you

Do keep in touch..

You’ve been so kind to me 🌺🌺🌺🌼🌼🌼💕💕💕 xxxx

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🌻🌻🌻 im so glad you're back hun, I'll miss the emojis and your posts 😙😙

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We are here anytime, you can change your mind and come back more often...

🌺🌼🌺🌼🌺🌼🌈🌈🧚🏼‍♂️🧚🏻‍♀️ xx

Till next time 💜💜💜

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❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Starrlight

((((((((((( ❤️ Hug ❤️)))))))))))

I'm so sorry you had such a negative experience here, it should be a safe space for all of us

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LovelySnow

I agree! Do whatever you need to be well! Being bullied stinks & you don't deserve that or need that. Stay strong! Wishing you so much good! HUGS.

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Starrlight

😢

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