Help?

[Zach1208]

I have recently been feeling depressed because of me being harassed.I take St. Johns Wort nad I recently feel like that dont always help I really just need some help

[fauxartist]

Who is harassing you Zach......and st. john's wort is fine for some people as long as your not taking any other medications with it. There is also CBT oil.

[Zach1208 in reply to fauxartist]

I have been harassed by family people from my other family I recently moved out of my cousins and in with my grandparents

[fauxartist in reply to Zach1208]

I know it's hurtful...and I too always have to be mindful of trying to not take on board what family says....because even though they are family, it actually can hurt more. So what you have to do is stop for a minute and think about what they are saying. If they are just being critical....let them know your doing your best and don't need any criticism. If they are just trying to be hurtful...walk away...that's abuse, and nobody has the right to do that to you. When family does this to us we feel hurt, and less than, our self esteem and self worth go down because they are doing this....so let them know...please stop...and if they won't ....then you walk away and stop listening. Sometimes they say things because they think they are helping you somehow....but unless they ask you.....they don't know what you want.....so again...tell them thanks, but I'll ask you if I need your advice about something. Choose to be diplomatic and not reactive....you will feel better and more in charge of your life that way. Like some good friends here just reminded me....never let anyone take your power.

[Zach1208 in reply to fauxartist]

right I made it right with my uncle who is a transgender I felt like I was wrong for being me because the whole thing of God not accepting brought me to believe he was wrong and if we wouldnt accept the truth I was speaking to him and kept getting hostile with me why should I try but realized that people are judgmental I recently started trying to be myself but am getting tired of being told not to let that get to me anymore im bisexual and I just feel like it is best for me to keep thing son the low

[Zach1208 in reply to Zach1208]

Also I am going to talk to my doctors about getting me put on some medicine to help

[fauxartist in reply to Zach1208]

God made everyone in their own image as is said....no gender...and I believe a God should be thought of as a loving entity....not a punishing one. People are the problem...they use, abuse, and murder in the name of God....the only true sin I was told is 'Judgement'. And that no one has that right. We should learn what the positives are...love and kindness, not only for others but for ourselves. Be who you are, make no apology's to anyone, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone...and it's nobody's business what you do with your life, be happy, celebrate who you are.... there is enough crap in this world, it's time for some peace and tranquillity....too many suffer needlessly because they are trying to be something they are not. For who....who's approval do we need?....no ones......just our own acceptance. Surround yourself with people who accept you for who you are....and screw the rest of them...they don't matter by the end of the day.

[Zach1208 in reply to fauxartist]

Right thats why I plan on moving into my own place after im done with school even those I do care about them and want to help them there is no need for them to know about my personal life and who I am

[fauxartist in reply to Zach1208]

that's good for you Zach....it makes a world of difference having your own place. I never forgot the level of freedom I felt when I no longer had to live with my mother and her judgement and constant critique....I didn't care where I lived as long as I was free to be myself.

[Zach1208 in reply to fauxartist]

right cant wait to go see my doctor tomorrow he is quite the character he always keeps an open mind and I hope he will get me something for this anxiety and depression I have been having I am feeling way better those now