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I'm at that age where everyone is either getting married or pregnant. I'm fortunate enough to have a wonderful husband that tries to help me grow. However, I have wanted children for some time now, but my husband wasn't quite ready until recently. In the mean time, two of my closest friends have had babies, and another just found out she is pregnant. I am struggling to be happy for them. This is the most selfish feeling that I have ever felt in my life, and I don't know how to overcome it. Long story short, my husband and I don't do "it" nearly enough, and then I spiral into an angry and frustrated state. This then turns my husband off from wanting to have kids because of how I react. I have worked so hard my entire life to control how I react, but I have struggle a lot with it lately. I'm also made to feel like everything is my fault. I haven't written the whole story above, but my husband has gone back on his word more than once that we could actually start trying to start a family. If anyone has dealt with something similar, please help. I feel for you as I would not wish this pain on anyone. It's the most pain that I have ever felt in my life, and I've had six broken ribs.

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what age is 'that age'? what happened to your ribs?

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Goldendoodle08 in reply to deborah27

28. And I was in a car accident almost six years ago.

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deborah27 in reply to Goldendoodle08

Sorry to hear about your accident. You are still so young with your whole life ahead of you.

Wow six broken ribs! You are strong.

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