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The issues with my ex

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As most of you know now I came to this site, seeking help, answers and emotional support, I'm still find it hard most days as I still miss my ex, it's been over a year now, I know I should of been able to get past this, I'm even now dating somebody knew, however the ghost of the ex still keeps flaring up, I think the problem is that I never got proper closure, apart from she was unhappy at the time we split, i have written to her a few times, afterwards she has texted me to confirm she has received and read the letters, but nothing more, the hardest part is we work very close to each other, I also have to pass her, my old home, every day when I commute to work, which does not help, I know I'm still in love with her, always will be, as she was my everything, I wish I could kick her in to touch but I can't, sometimes I feel like sending her this link and letting her read everything I've posted about her,

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It would certainly clear things up for you if you did post the link; but I expect she already knows all this and you are having trouble coming to terms. If you want to make one last ditch attempt then have a go and say "I want you back. I love you. Let's work at this"; but be prepared that she has probably moved on ;because it is very difficult (not impossible) to go back to a relationship as there will be a good reason why she felt it couldn't work.

Maybe you are viewing this as a rejection of the entire you and maybe it isn't that; just that sometimes things can't work out. That could be what is holding you back. Also like you say the constant reminders. Is there a way to change any of that?

Gemma x

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ScottieStyles in reply to Stilltrying_

I'm looking at finding a new job, which may help, the weird thing is that I've never felt this before about a split, even after my divorce, I have the odd good day where I feel I'm over her fowlled by 2 or 3 real bad days, where I just miss her

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I really do understand how you feel Scottie, but she’s already made a decision. For your well-being, I would work on letting go! If she were interested, you would know. I understand how painful it is, but let that sh** go!! You can’t go back, and it’s impeding your future. Limbo zone...I have been there...slowly begin to move forward without her. You’ll be glad you did! 🌷🙂🌷

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gourmetgirl48

I understand how you are feeling...to still be in love with an ex and to compare new dates to that person. Ive been and am there too. My best advice would be to really try and let her go. It sounds like shes not ready to be in contact with you. Set love free and if it comes back to you its yours. I think about my ex constantly too but there was a reason you guys broke up and try to remember tjose reasons. Good luck.

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ScottieStyles in reply to gourmetgirl48

It's like jakrle and Hyde situation, some days I'm fine, totally over her, then suddenly wham, I'm this depressed needy idiot who can't live with out her

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