Anxiety and my relationship

[Kylie55]

So I need advice, my life feels like it’s falling apart. One day I feel like I’ve got it all under control and then the next I feel like my world is crashing down today for example, my boyfriend woke up and like usual all he had to say was negative things so I was already annoyed. Anyways I was eating something and my three year old daughter asked for a bite so I gave her one. Once she got the food in her mouth she spit it right on the floor. I got annoyed and kind of yelled “why did you do that!” And then my boyfriend was like “it’s okay” with a rude manner meaning like calm down he may have been right but I got up mad and then after a second just immediately starting bawling my eyes out. My boyfriend freaked out and said he didn’t know what to do with me anymore and I need to get help and a whole bunch of stuff. I don’t know it’s just so frustrating and I don’t know what to do. I feel that my boyfriend may play a big part in my anxiety but I don’t want to just blame him.

[bridder01]

Howdy Kylie! Welcome to our community! Well, first off, your boyfriend had no right to talk to you the way he did. If someone did that to me early in the morning, I'd probably be a moving thundercloud the rest of the day. It's ok to feel the way you feel. Good, bad or ugly. It's still ok. It is what it is. If you feel like something isn't quite right emotionally, then finding and talking to a therapist might be an option. Our mental health is just as important as our physical health. Sometimes, we tend to let that end of things slide but we need to be just as vigilant in making sure our mental and emotional health is good. Something else I might suggest is talking to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. If he does something that irritates you or frustrates you, telling him and being honest is very important. After all, how can he help to fix it if he doesn't know there's a problem? Hate to say it, but we men are not mind readers after all lol. Outside of that, immerse yourself in things you like to do and/or make you happy. Even if it's just curling up with a good book, a soothing beverage and some pleasing music can take the sting out of the irritation If you want to just talk or to vent, well, we're all here to listen. Don't be afraid to express yourself here. We're all here for you and you are not alone

A friend,

Brian

[Kylie55 in reply to bridder01]

Thank you I really appreciate the advice I just started seeing a new therapist however she on vacation this week and in July she is having a surgery done and will be out for a whole month so I’m not sure what to do there but thank you!

[bridder01 in reply to Kylie55]

Anytime, Kylie! If you ever need to bend a friendly ear, I'm here for ya

[Rpan]

So your day starts off with him talking negatively ( how do you handle that?) than you opt to discipline your child ( which was right to do) your boyfriend doesn’t support you, so it sounds like you hold that in also. Than he makes you feel like you have this issue. So talk to him about what you feel when he starts the day with negativity, how it effects you, than speak with him about not supporting you decision to dissolute your child. Keep the focus on your feelings, it’s not an argument. He needs to support you..

[Kylie55 in reply to Rpan]

I feel that I have tried to explain to him how I feel but he makes me seem that my feeling are unwarranted like I’m blowing things out of proportion it’s just hard I feel there maybe be done live changes in the near future

[bridder01 in reply to Kylie55]

Hello again lol First off, it's ok to feel the way you feel. If it matters to you, it's important! If he makes you feel like that, it might be time to reexamine the relationship, because no one deserves to have their feelings disrespected by anybody. You deserve kindness and respect above all else! How you feel matters!

Your friend,

Brian