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*trigger warning!!!

Has anyone had a hard time with the Kate Spade news? I have never “follwed” her, had any of her products, but appreciated her artistry. I don’t know why, but I feel obsessive reading about what the heck happened to her? What pushes a person to that end at 55? I have some bizarre thought process that thinks by that age, barring some awful health diagnosis or destitution, why would that be the solution?

Then I think....depression and anxiety are tricky buggers, and don’t always follow an understabdable pattern. It just seems that we are to be wiser as we age and have counseled, been medicated, etc.

ugh! Rambling.....trying to make sense of things that are out! Of! my! Control!

Pleasectake care, everyone! Reach out to someone!

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fc00 profile image
fc00

Yes, the news really hurt me and hit home. I’ve been a fan and owner of her brand for years. It’s so sad and unfortunate and maybe she didn’t see another way out, but as I suffer from both anxiety and depression as well I can almost understand why.

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Pearl67 in reply to fc00

I am so sorry for your heavy heart!!! Please seek support from those who love you!!!!

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Natsteveo

Hi Pearl67

This has hurt deeply and hit home to alot of people she always seemed happy jolly always smiling but they are the ones thar are silently shattered.look at our gorgeous robin Williams it still breaks my heart that hes left this world as he gave us so much and became our very own global legend..to me he was the happiest man alive and the funniest...kate spade became obbssessed with robins death towards her own demise see there is signs that none of us ever see as we dont realise..its so sad that she felt there was no other way out but to end her own tormented life with having a young daughter aswell she must of been so so low bless her..your right it dosnt matter what age the person is everyone feels dont they..ive just lost my very loved nephew who did 2 tours in the army was engaged just had a baby boy loved by so many only 28 yet took his own life none of us even knew we obviously knew too keep a eye because of his tours he did but he was so strong yet we still lost him to this his own mum discovered him shes beyond her grief her heart is shattered into a million pieces non of our lives will ever be the same ever again because the devastation left behind too is heartbreaking...theres not enough help and support from professionals out there who shoukd be helping us instead of just shoving us to one side like we are a huge allergy we matter too sorry for the long conversation its just a subject close to my heart rip kate i hope shes found peace at last bless her.

Nat

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Pearl67 in reply to Natsteveo

I loved Robin Williams as well! But I must admit there were times his comedy seemed manic to me, albeit hilarious! I think his was attributed to Louie Body Syndrome, not just straight mental illness as we know it.

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moonrising7 in reply to Pearl67

I think Williams was Bipolar

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Pearl67 in reply to moonrising7

I believe he had that as well. I spelled Lewy Body wrong 🤦🏻‍♀️ lbda.org/content/lbda-clari...

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Apowersyavg in reply to Natsteveo

Robin Williams was in the early stages of developing dementia when he had committed suicide, which was one of the reasons why he ended his life. Such a shame 😔

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Pearl67 in reply to Apowersyavg

Yes, see my link above😢

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Starrlight

I always want to know why when someone kills her or himself I think many factors are at play and we may never know exactly why that seemed the only way for sure. My brother left a note. Its hard to talk about still after 21 years. He was not thinking straight and thought there was a giant conspiracy against him. He also was withdrawing from drugs and alcohol. I miss my bro and tried helping him but it must not have been meant to be. He is here in memories and maybe we will meet again. My heart goes out to the souls and their families.

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KrierandRosie in reply to Starrlight

Both Kate Spade and Boardain were successful and rich! My life is nothing compared to that. I have severe difficulty with emptiness and depression. I have no idea why I am alive, every day is a struggle. Money was no issue for those two, yet they did this. Incomprehensible.

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Pearl67 in reply to KrierandRosie

KrierandRosie, I am so sorry you feel you have no idea why you are alive. Depression is such a liar!!!! But I am curious about your thoughts on money and happiness? I actually more perplexed about her suicide because she was bright, kind and well loved. She created beautiful things!!! And had a lovely daughter! I don’t associate money with happiness, I do associate it with more choices. Depression and anxiety do not care one bit about your financial status. Kinda like addiction😫

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KrierandRosie in reply to Pearl67

My family struggled with money since I was in kindergarten. The fighting about it never ended. I hate money. But I don't consider money something that brings happiness. Trump is so afraid of losing his empire he colludes with dictators to make sure he never loses it. Money also means power over others who don't have any. I am 65 and don't have much to do all day. But we still need money and it is a constant struggle. I also never found a career I could be successful at. That makes the suicides of successful, famous people more perplexing. They have found something they love to do with their lives and were also lucky to get money from it. I never got hired at the jobs I wanted so I was stuck taking dull, boring and menial jobs because no one else would hire me. So I was miserable in that I just collected a paycheck to pay the bills, but never found career fulfillment. That is demeaning and depressing. Now I may be too old to find anything more to live for.

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Pearl67 in reply to KrierandRosie

Krierandrosie, I am so sorry you have not found meaningful employment. I do think there are very few people in the world who are doing what brings them joy! Life! But I think some of tjose people try to balance it with finding JOY in the hours outside of work. That always inspires me!!!!

I hope you find something today that inspires you! I am sorry about the financial challenges. That is simply not easy....

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Pearl67

I amso, so sorry Starrlight! How very heartbreaking! I have a sister and a son who go in and out of paranoid conspiracy thoughts. It is just so sad. I feel helpless.

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Starrlight in reply to Pearl67

Pearl I am sorry about your sister and son. It must be difficult to watch...what can one do?...

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Pearl67 in reply to Starrlight

For me, I choose prayer, being available to them, directing them to appropriate agencies, loving them through it. But ultimately, “it” is completely beyond my/our control....I do believe there will be major advances in the next 10 years in the area of mental illness/health. I choose to believe there will be breakthroughs that will change how the brain is diagnosed and treated!!!!

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Starrlight in reply to Pearl67

I agree. Prayer, love, faith that better is to come. Awesome attitude.

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susanjo613 in reply to Pearl67

Pearl, I am also hopeful that there will be better ways to manage mental illness in the next 10 years. I dream about being able to take a simple pill in order to be symptom free.

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Pearl67 in reply to susanjo613

🙏🏻

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RaqXo

Her passing scared me. I was panicking because I thought about mine and I was like “gahhh what if I get that bad” but I calm myself down. It’s really sad news

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