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This stressful life


Hi, I'm a single mother of 4, 2 of whom have started their own families, so I'm also a grandmother of 3. I find myself often wishing that my kids were still little, running around the house yelling and messing up everything. The problems were so much more simpler then. 3 years ago my father passed suddenly, and my mother had a very hard time coping, so the kids and I moved with her to help her in any way possible. A year later my mother was diagnosed with colon cancer, which had led to 2 years of the hardest battle of my life - helping my mom through chemo and radiation, surgeries, and many many hospital visits. Is truly a daily struggle. I hardly eat anymore and sleep even less. Sometimes i don't know how i make it.

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Welcome Belstar,

Your story sounds similar to mine because my mother battled terminal bone cancer for 5 years. She lived with me for 3 of the 5 years. I truly understand the struggle.


I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad almost 3 years ago to cancer. It came as a complete shock.

It sounds as though you are experiencing "empty nest syndrome?" And I'm sure your father loved his great-grandbabies, that must make you so sad knowing that he is no longer around to be "Great-Grandpa."

Listen your kids and grandkids need you. You need you. Self-care is very important. I know that with the brood you have, that may be easier said than done. You are going through a lot right now (when it rains, it pours.) , Be kind to yourself. Utilize all the resources available to you.

You can do this. You are stronger than you think. Go kick Life's ba-danka-donk!!

But you are making it. Give yourself some credit. You sound like a strong person.

Hi Belstar! I can empathize. A few years ago my Dad passed after many health battles. I used to take care of him in the morning before leaving for work, in the afternoon after school and in the evening between marking test papers, preparing lessons and report cards. It is exhausting. Is there anyone who can help you? I had a girl come in on Sat. and Sun. to give me some relief. It is important that you take care of you too. You will not be able to help others, if you don't eat and get the best sleep possible. It is also important that you give yourself some down time. Even if it is j just an hour a day. The one thing I can tell you for sure, after my Dad passed I was so happy I was there for him. I sleep peacefully now. Hang in there. I will be praying for you. God Bless You!

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