Newbie, Social Anxiety

[BrianG]

Hey, I'm new here, I went to my first therapy session last week and my therapist recommended that I join this community. I waited a long time before getting any help for my social anxiety (33, male). I've never had friends and have lived my life alienated from other people because I don't know how to connect and have a lot of trouble selling myself to other people or feeling worthy.

I have an avoidant personality. I avoid social situations, except for some rare occasions when I am brave. It isn't that I don't want to connect, I just don't know how. I avoid people by not initiating conversations or social activities. When I do have conversations, I am careful to not reveal information about myself because I find myself embarrassing and uninteresting.

I'm excited to begin therapy and find a way to develop myself. Hope you're having a good day and are making gains in personal power.

[Dubba61]

Welcome Brian, happy to hear that your getting help.😊 I have So island anxiety

[Dubba61]

Sorry! Stupid phone. I have social anxiety too many very shy. Mostly because of being bullied. Best wishes to you.😊🌻👍

[hypercat54]

Hi nice to meet you. You can teach yourself to make friends you know. I did when just a couple of years younger than you. Watch and study how people behave with each other especially the popular ones. Then start copying them bit by bit. It took me a good few months but gradually it worked. Obviously you have to tailor it to your own personality etc. but it did work and I have never been without a number of good friends since. x

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Welcome Brian.

I struggle with social anxiety too.

Good wishes x

[Michael8072]

Welcome Brian

I to just started therapy. This is a great community full of wonderful helpful people. I don't feel alone anymore! Best of luck to you!

[wyetmoodie]

Welcome Brian.

Sounds like me too. You’re not alone

Best of luck!